I have a friend who broke up w/ he bf and she told me i can't talk to him but he is still my friend?

Question

I have a friend who broke up w/ he bf and she told me i can't talk to him but he is still my friend?
wat do i do? my friend is my best friend but her ex. is my friend too. and the last time i houng out w/ him she wasn't my friend for a couple of days i think she is over reacting. wat do you think?

Answer 1

I think your friend is selfish. You can talk to whomever you want to talk to. That's HER problem; not yours...why ditch a friend for her problem? AND if you do this for her this time, she will expect to control other aspects of your friendship. Set it straight NOW...but be nice. "Hey, you know you're my best gf and I love you for that; but, "he" is my friend too. I feel like I can make the decision whether or not to talk to him and I feel like all of this has put me in the middle. So, please let it go for a while, OK? I don't want to lose either one of you.:".....
notice the " I feels" in those sentences..that way you're not throwing the blame on anyone. Express how YOU feel when she does this. If she opts out of your friendship, so be it. Get another best friend.

Answer 2

This is just one person's opinion!! I think you ought to sit down and think about a couple of questions(by yourself);
1. How close are you and your female friend,which is hurting just like him?
2. What are your real feeling toward your friend's ex-boyfriend?
*you can only choose one or the other. The two of them are in what I call limbo,which you,very easily can get caught up in the web of their sorrow.YOU DON'T WANT TO BE THERE,BELIEVE ME,you'll loose both friends no matter what!!Good luck, because your in a place where is not a winner!!

Answer 3

Stay friends with him. She needs to learn that she can't control the world. While you need to talk to her about her possessiveness, you also need show her that you are still a good friend by spending time with her and being just as supportive as you always have been. Also, it would be polite of you not to talk with her about all of the time you are spending with her ex-boyfriend.

Answer 4

I thik she is going through a hard time right now, and it's hard for her to understand why you would want to hang out with him. Talk to her, tell her (if youhaven't) you are her best friend but still want to be a friend of his because there are no hard feelings between you and he. Hopefully, she will understand.

Answer 5

she seems a BIT overprotective. if he's your friends, there's NO reason to stop being his friend like that. if your best friend really was your best friend, she would let you do want you want and not try to control you so much. be his friend-- it's fine. don't worry. i've been in your situation before too, and now i've finally found the one in my life. >:)

Answer 6

your friend is over reacting and being very conditional trying to set rules on you who can be your friend who can't i would give up your guy friend just because she says so

Answer 7

why did you ask this question twice? you should read all the other answers before re-asking the same question. and if none of them suit you, you can modify your question. also, you may get more feedback if you put your question in the relationships category instead of beauty.

Answer 8

it seems like she is a bit controling. I think you are allowed to have whom you want to have as freinds. she will get over it, if she is your friend

Answer 9

I think that right now you should be there for "her", because she needs you!

Answer 10

just do what you want to do, no one should control you.