what are your views on teenage mums?

Question

do teenage mums make good parents?

if you are under 18 years of age u do not get a council house as the law states u can not hold a tenancy untill 18 years of age (baby or no baby!) and u recive less than £45 a week benefit. and if aged 16 and under u get no benefits or housing!!

do that auter ur thoughts at all?

sorry what i ment to say was: when ur age 16 to 18 you get less than £45.per week while ur pregant and then Less that £100 per week for you and ur baby to live on.
did'nt want to miss lead u i like to stick to facts and not myths!

Answer 1

Yaeh of course they can.

Its just not ideal is it.

I see lots of adults doing awful jobs as parents

Answer 2

Yes teenage mums can be good parents but I don't think it's a good idea. Especially if they rely on the state to support them which is totally wrong and really p*sses me off. We have the highest pregnancy rate in Europe and most (not all) of them live off benefits which is unfair. Why should we have to pay high taxes and high rates of rent/mortgage etc and they get a council house for free and money thrown at them? Disgusting. I'm not criticising those who do support themselves but even to any teenage girl who has a baby I really can't understand why they would want to have them so young when they could be experiencing life and having fun? I also think a child should have two parents wherever possible (yes I know some relationships don't last, even more so when you are young) because it's a fact that many children brought up with one parent and living in poverty commit more crimes than those who don't. Scrap benefits - problem solved - these girls would think twice before having unprotected sex again if they thought they would actually have to support the baby by themselves the poor things. It's a nanny state and something has to be done now. I waited til I was 27 and even that felt scary! But at least by then I had travelled, had loads of fun, was financially secure and happily married. A baby should be thought carefully about and not as a fashion accessory.

Answer 3

Some can some can't, but that goes with all parents. I fell pregnant at 17, my son is now 10 and I have a daughter of 8. I bought both up on my own, I work and I like to think that I am a really good mum. And every day when they tell me they love me and that I'm the best mum in the world, I know that I can't have done too bad. Although don't get me wrong they are no angels!

Answer 4

OK first off since everyone wants to get ugly about teenage parents. I am a 23 yr old mom of 4. I had my first child at the age of 16. I have always worked to support my family. My children come first before anything or anyone. I homeschool my children because I care so much for them that I don't want them to go to the public schools here. I believe that no matter what your age you can be a good mother/father. There are mothers/fathers out there that had a child later in life but still managed to mess up. I personally think that people should try to wait to have children until they are stable enough to take care of them.

Answer 5

Lots of people frown on young people having children of their own. What people dont think is perhaps some young people WANT to have children when they are young. They may feel its the only thing that they are good at and want to enjoy having children when they are young.
Admittedly children have the right to a childhood and we as a society should try our damdest to make sure they stay a child until they have to enter adulthood but we have no right to tell them they are wrong for creating a baby - its what we were put on this earth to do, produce!
As a society we should be showing young people that they are good at a lot more things, that they dont have to be a mum/ dad just yet but if thats what they want to be, we can help them.
So long as the baby isnt likely to be abused, so long as both parents are in the child's life and the parents arent doing it for the wrong reasons (cus babys are sweet/cus dad wont leave me if Im preggers) then go ahead, have lots... just leave some room in the world for the rest of us!

Answer 6

I was 18 when I was pregnant with my first and had him at 19. He has been brought up very well, he is happy and loved and doing well at school.
I was (and am) married and my husband was working, we have not claimed any benefits or been given a council house.
I think we need to look again at the term 'teenage'. What you probably mean is irresponsible mums. the two are very different. Some women in their 30s have children outside of marriage, claim benefits and cannot bring their kids up well at all.
However I know other young mums and they have worked hard to bring up their kids in a responsible way within a strong family.

Answer 7

Teenage moms, like any other mom's have the potential to be good. It takes work and some planning. One thing that is absolutely essential is to get a good education and a job. A good mother supports her child and provides adequately for their needs. A good mother also develops some good parenting skills. Taking a parenting class and learning from other mother's is often helpful. A good mother makes sure that her baby is well taken care of and chooses wisely when it comes to day care. A good mother sometimes has to make sacrifices for her child. Her social life may suffer, she may not have the freedom to do the things she enjoys doing due to the needs of her child. The bottom line is that it is work and lots of it as well as a firm loving commitment for the child.

Answer 8

Possible with a lot of family support. Works better if they have money.


Basically teenagers hould have sex but not get pregnant as learning...


A parent who has been there and done that and established themselves a career, life income and house etc. Having done all the daft things teens do so can predict behavour and who socially is at a similar level to others... ie their mates are having kids too in couples so can hang out with them#


thats best


iN MOST CASES ITS THE FAULTY OF THE GROWN UPS WHO LIVE IN BONGO NONGO LAND
Wherer they thing if they keep thweir kids ignorant or stupid they wont ahve sex and get pregnant...


They live in this non existant fantasy world where their kids dont grow up and do what all the others do or think they only grow breast, Get hormones and desires if they see it on Tv or are given sex ed lessons.

And who think a good lesson is one were you get taught as little as possible... try linking that one to all other subjects and you see how dumb it it...


So its the grown ups when teenagers do what teenagers naturally are compelled to do it without out proper training so they mess up.


Like me giving you a 1 hour driving lesson then handing you the car keys...

The tereangers are not immoral or sluts... You only stick with one person if you find the specail one... In the mean time you keep trying others out.

Answer 9

Well, I disagree with the other comments...you can only speak from personal experiance with this question. I am by no means a sl*t...and I have a son which I got pregnant with right before my 18th birthday. I am 22 right now, just graduated college, am married to my son's father and we are great parents. We provide my son and have with everything that he has ever needed and more. We do everything in our power to provide him with the essentials of life, we teach him what he needs to know, we get him involved in many different acceptable childhood activities. Just because someone has a child at a young age does not mean they are bad parents. Some of the best parents are those who are young. I wouldn't suggest that someone get pregnant at 17 on purpose..there certainly were hard times but my husband and I did everything in our power to give our son a good life and believe me he's had one thus far.

Answer 10

My neice is 16 and has just had her first baby. My sister was only 16 when she had my niece. My niece is asking for nothing, she is determined to earn her own money and she will move out when she has to. My sister is supporting her 100% (like she said, what else can she do?) and is helping my niece out even though she has another 4 girls at home (aged 12, 10, 4 and 9mths). The baby's dad is helping out money wise, he works 3 jobs (1 full tim and 2 part time) just to support them so they don't have to ask for handouts.
So far my niece is making a wonderful mother and the baby is only 1 month old. She tried to do everything for the baby herself but will ask for help when she needs it.

Answer 11

I used to get the perception that teenage mums are yes, sluts. But recently a girl from school had a child (17), and I hear she makes a great mother. Her boyfriend has a stable job, and they live happily together. She has supportive parents and friends around her, and I believe that they can make a wonderful life for their child. However, I would prefer if people didn't have children so early to make sure that they are completely capible to give their child the best life they can possibly offer their child.