Yesterday was our anniversary (6 years of marriage) and my husband left me home and went to spend a week at a resort. I tried calling him last night because I wanted to tell him how I felt, but he didn't answer. Should I continue to be hurt or get out of this marriage?
2006-07-09 01:52:45 · 25 answers · asked by gdaniel_98 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to step back and take a look at your marriage. I can't imagine my husband going off to a resort with out me on our anniversary. And not even calling me. My husband has to travel for his job and still calls me at least once a day to tell me hello and that he loves me. Are there problems in your marriage besides this? Any one can tell you to leave him. get a divorce. But I think you are the only one who can decide that for yourself. Think about how you feel, and what you would like changed in your marriage. If he will not listen I think you will have your answer. Good Luck.
2006-07-09 02:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by kourtney_h75 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out. It is not in Uncle Groovy's nature to destroy anything especially a marriage. But a marriage is not what you have and advising you to leave is more constuctive than destructive. You will know by the amount of effort he exercises in pursuing you whether or not he really even wants you.
Be careful as you might not like the answer you get. But at least you will know where you stand, as not knowing is always much worse.
Now, a man might say anything at this point so put him on mute and trust him only by his actions and not his words.
Either way you still should be asking yourself, "Why would I want to hold on to just one more day of misery"?
I hope this answer just changed a life. Peace.
2006-07-09 02:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband doesn't want to be married to you anymore. You have been wounded and need to decide how to care for yourself. If that means getting out of a loveless marriage then that should be your next step. Too bad life and love isn't perfect. My wife threw me away as soon as we were married but for some reason we have remained sharing the same place although we have no love life. I'm lonely and wish we had a love relationship but she isn't interested so considering the circumstances we just struggle along living our own separate lives but void of love or intimacy. Needless to say the past seventeen years without sex or intimate love feels like a life sentence. I wonder if there is parole after twenty-five years?
2006-07-09 04:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Red Yellow Feet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet this bad feeling about you did not happen overnight. So, when did you start to notice the cold feeling? Time to reflect. In any case, perphaps there was some hurt feeling (either you or him being the cause). By the way, it cost nothing to apologise if you are in the wrong. Pride oftens get in the way...and you can't live with Pride and be happy. You need somebody to live with!
P.S. Pride is nothing but trouble; and will not save your marriage.
Start work on restoring the relationship; think about the great time when you were first in-love.
2006-07-09 02:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by speed2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE LEFT YOU ALONE ON YOUR ANNIVERSARY!!! Your "husband" is a scumbag and you need to tell him so when you hand him the divorce papers. Tell him you hope the resort has nice beds because I wouldnt let a man like that EVER back into mine. When your man gets back from his lovely vacation WITHOUT you I would have the rest of his bags packed and on the porch for his convienence! LOL Good luck!
2006-07-09 02:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you rush to get out of the marriage try and find out what the problem is. Why did he go away, why did he not answer the phone, what is bothering him. Both of you need to sit down and open up about your feelings for each other. For him to run away on your anniversary tells me that he is upset about something. Find out what it is and try and work it out. Don't be so quick to think of divorce. Marriage is hard work, don't quit.
2006-07-09 02:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To stay with this relationship will be hard. But sometimes to leave can be even harder. It depends on you as to what you now want for yourself out of life. If you choose to follow a spiritual path and seek out the truth for yourself, then being in this relationship can help you to help yourself. It's not an easy path and it gets even harder as time goes on. Your understanding's begin to come between the 2 of you. It's one trial after another, but you yourself can become stronger and more able to deal with all things that come up in life and slap you in the face. In other words you have a choice. Man or God. It's up to you but the one is forever, is the other?
2006-07-09 02:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by Leigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said it sounds like this marriage is on the rocks. Before calling it quits, try talking with him again. See if he wants to try counseling, if that isn't an option you may be out of luck. I am sorry to hear this, and wish you the best.
2006-07-09 01:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he go to the resort and with whom? And foremost why arent you there with him? So he left you a number were you supposedly can reach him but you couldnt reach him. Things dont sound too good.
Have you considered contacting http://cheaters.com/
they'll scope everything out for you for free, they also provide counsellors and attorneys to help if needed.
2006-07-09 02:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by pgbrady614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say.
Did he ask you to come along and you refused?
Is it a job deal or a private vacation?
Did you argue about this before? First time he's done this?
Is he into sports? (A lot of fellow divers who are married to non-diving spouses go alone because the spouses get bored and there's no hanky-panky going on).
You really have to be more specific.
2006-07-09 02:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋