if your bf told u to leave him alone and then tells u a coupe of weeks later that he really does love u he just needs time ?
what would u do
2006-07-09 01:43:57 · 21 answers · asked by red_hot_girl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
thank you i needed to hear what someone else would do
2006-07-09 01:55:58 · update #1
Give him some space
2006-07-09 01:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has trouble figuring out who he is, and what he wants, and is totally unsuitable to court women...
I know of some couples ( I am also a Notary, so, I get to see a lot of divorce papers), and many fail, because the man chooses failure!
Once separated, and on his own, he suddenly starts to pay attention to the children, pays the bills on time, shows up for appointments and meetings on time!
If I were a psychologist, I would call that "being a Mommy's boy!" He 'fails' in order to gain 'sympathy', and to push off all his work onto others, like his young, gorgeous, intelligent, well-adjusted, wife!
Some couples I have followed, the guy finds another woman, and repeats his behavior, and the complete venue, leaving even more children fatherless!
For so many men, it is either 'anger management' issues, or,
'in-adequacy' that stimulates the only kind of love they know,
attention getting 'sympathy' or 'poor, pity-me, I am SUCH a screw-up!' When the going gets tough, these losers become alcoholics, drug addicts, or simply bail-out!
Give him LOTS of time! In fact, don't answer his calls, EVER!
You'll be doing HIM a favor, and helping him to figure it all out!
Answer his calls, and you will be 'enabling' him in his 'USING' of you! He will NEVER develop any social skills, if there is no pressure to be a MAN!
2006-07-09 09:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any guy should have to ask a girl to "leave him alone". Guys are hard-wired to be the chasers, not the chasees. Any girl who chases a guy deserves to be told to "leave him alone". Any guy who really wants you will chase you. How can he chase you if you're always in his face? Give him space so he can chase you 'til you catch him. If you have a sexual relationship, tell him to leave you alone until you've signed a contract. No business partnership succeeds without a contract. How much more important should a romantic relationship be. Why should he buy the cow, when the milk is free? Tell him to come back with a marriage license. If you're not interested in marriage, don't come crying to us. You're just playing a game--same as he is. You get what you deserve.
Marriage is a fortress for well-being. Hold out for a guy who is welling to stand up before the world and say, "This is the woman I wish to honor and commit myself to, for life." If he's not willing to do that, "he's just not that into you". Wise up foolish woman.
Men and women are both just looking for strength. They know that in that strength, they'll find security. A man is just looking for a woman who is strong enough to say, "No." He'll go through each woman, one by one, looking for that strength; and when he finds that woman who will hold her standard high, and make him reach for it, he will find, in her, his soul. If you can be strong enough, he won't leave YOU alone. If he can't respect your standard, he doesn't love you. Hold out for the one that will. The guys you relate to sexually, will give you temporary lust. Hold out for the ones who are strong enough, deep enough, spiritual enough to give you eternal, wedded love. The other guys are a dime a dozen. Hold out for the real man.who can appreciate a woman; the woman who can give him what no other woman can, after the public commitment of love is celebrated.
2006-07-09 09:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by GypsyGr-ranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me (not being a girl) and a girl told me that, I'd try to figure out why I'd even THINK of wasting another minute on that person.
2006-07-09 08:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like a 'mutual benefit ' scheme. Deal now seems through !
2006-07-09 08:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is kinda going through this. my advice is if he pushed you away once hell do it again. so dont go back...you will be hurt so much and find yourself as not as strong of a person as you thought. besides youll never get it out of your mind if you can trust him not to do it again. and its not a healthy relationship if you cant trust each other.
2006-07-09 08:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by pjcc_4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When ? and in which situation ? That gives the different answers
2006-07-09 08:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jagdish T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him time. Lots of time. Lots and lots of time.
Years and years, in fact.
Just dump his sorry ass. You can do better.
2006-07-09 08:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
giv him another chance if he's been super good to u all the while. maybe the poor guy needs his space
2006-07-09 08:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by tabla girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would deal with it myself instead of asking complete strangers
2006-07-09 08:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by mewhitenoise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋