We had been together for nine years, married for eight. We made love only four times during our eight years of marriage and those occasions were only in the first eleven months of our marriage, her choice not mine. In fact she wouldn't make love with me for sixteen days after our marriage. Needless to say we had no wedding night together and no honey moon. Then she took her ring off and I never saw it again. When the ring comes off is the marriage over?
2006-07-09 01:32:35 · 18 answers · asked by Red Yellow Feet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Holy smokes! It sounds as if the wedding ring removal is the last of your worries!! Alienation of affection is grounds for divorce. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You obviously love her or else you wouldn't still be there. It does sound as if she is dissatisfied with the marriage and yes, the ring removal does speak volumes.
2006-07-09 01:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um your marriage isnt over.. its not a marriage at all. Have you asked her Why the ring came off? Maybe she just doesnt like it or MAYBE shes a hoe and doesnt want people to know she is married. youve been married for 8 years to a prude, but you knew what she was in the first 16 days (as you mentioned). you got yourself into this mess and I'm sorry but if you didnt take the hint in the first year- Then you got what you deserved.... Apparently your marriage is not the typical one- you know, based on love and respect.
2006-07-09 01:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow as a woman who did "almost" the same thing. Yes the marriage is over. I took my ring off because I felt like my husband did not love me and that he had married me only for me to be his personal slave. No flowers, no appreciating for anything I had done for him in the many years I was married to him. I did his job and mine too. (wash the dishes , take out the trash etc. ) the ONLY thing he did was go to work and come back home... that is it.. I took off my ring for other reasons also. And one of them was..... Because he said he will have time to be with me AFTER the children grow up...
2006-07-09 01:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, ask her why she took it off. It is not fair to either of you to "guess" the reason. If she doesn't answer - move on. Life is to short to be unhappy. I speak from experience when I say that a one-sided marriage is not a marriage it is only a convenience for the spouse that is not contributing to making the relationship work. Before you rush into another relationship, spend some time loving on yourself. If you don't love yourself you can't expect anyone else to.
2006-07-09 01:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by gdaniel_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like the marriage was over before it started. I do not know what the reason is for the lack of a sexual relationship in your marriage, but I would be concerned that she may have some other means of satisfying her need. You may want to consider investing in the services of a private investigator to see what she may doing behind your back.
2006-07-09 01:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by siu2130 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you even get married in the first place? When my husband took off his wedding ring 4 years ago for no reason at all, I threw away mine. It only means to the other person - he/she is not married and does not consider herself/himself married as well. I strongly suggest you have your wedding ring pawned. It might be of more use that way.
2006-07-09 01:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow... I'm sorry to say, but what you have is not a marriage by any stretch of the imagination. Unless you're both happy in a sexless marriage, this isn't right. My guess from your description would be that she drew that conclusion and doesn't want other people to see that she's married (in other words, she's opening herself up to other men to start talking to her - doesn't mean she won't say she's married, but it's a first step).
2006-07-09 02:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am honestly surprised your marriage has lasted this long. You are a very patient man but it does not look like your patience has paid off. If she removed the one thing that symbolizes her commitment to you (her wedding ring) I think it is over in her mind since actions speaks louder than words.
2006-07-09 01:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing this once myself (taking my ring off) was basically a cry for "hey buddy.....i AM your wife and we are not communicating. You need to talk to me and find out what is going on in my head, and I need to find out what is going on in your's". Communication is the BIGGEST thing in ANY relationship. Don't assume you KNOW what she is thinking and she shouldn't assume she knows what you are thinking. As for the sex thing.....it's obvious you don't talk, so maybe there is something going on medically that would explain that and she's too afraid to tell you.
2006-07-09 01:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by tincup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the marriage was over before you left the church. Move on and find someone that will appreciate you. Good luck
2006-07-09 01:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋