When I say "out of character" I mean, something there is no way you would do, or even want to do if you were sober? And as for forgetting, we're talking about a whole evening? If it were a one time thing, would you forgive the inappropriate behavior?
2006-07-09 01:00:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am talking about forgiving someone else, specifically, my husband of 10 years. Other than the incident I am questioning, he has been an incredible husband.
2006-07-09 01:09:16 · update #1
No amount of drinking, including drinking yourself into a black out (can't remember), can cause any human to act completely out of character. Anything that happens was an action that the person was capable of prior to the first sip, but was controlled until that point.
Forgiveness is another topic..it is a gift we give ourselves (and the offender is thankful as well). It is highly recommended and allows everyone to move forward into the new day.
None of us are perfect but with effort and letting go of the past - your happy heart will rule.
2006-07-09 01:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by carole0103 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't let yourself take drinking that far. There are way too many things that can happen.
1) You may become violent, you could injure or even kill someone in a rage.
2) You could injure yourself
3) You could contract an STD because you were too drunk to remember protection.
4) You could engage in the wrong kind of sex. (If straight this means same sex, if gay this means opposite sex)
5) You could overdose and die of Alchohol poisoning.
6) You could wake up with a penis on your forehead in perminant marker, The same day you have a job interview or must be at work.
7) You could wake up in a holding tank, with a court date, and a hefty fine.
8) You could start walking into the street and get hit by a car, or worse a bus.
9) You could call your girlfriend's parents, or your inlaws, or even your girlfriend, and admit to innapropriate behavior with another woman. (oppisite applies if female)
10) You could become hopelessly addicted, and spent the rest of your days panhandeling for change to buy your next bottle, or fix just like millions of hopelessly alchoholic, addicted people already on the streets of America.
Is 10 reasons to monitor your drinking enough, or do you need more?
2006-07-09 08:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by lovpayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had it happen once where I drank myself foolish. I remember getting on a streetcar in Toronto and the next thing I knew I was crawling out of bed in a flophouse 3 days later. I had about $20.00 in my pocket when I left the party and I had over $300.00 in my pocket when I woke up. I have never found anyone who saw me in that time so I have no idea as to where I went or what I did to come by the cash. And maybe I don't want to know. However, if he has been a good husband up to this point, I think he deserves your forgivness but only this time.
2006-07-09 09:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO That was my husbands excuse the few times he messed around. The first time was shortly after our 10th anniversary. What a coincidence that your story sounds so familiar to mine. No, I've tried to forgive and forget and it's been over 10 years ago. The love I had for him is gone. I've tried to bring it back and just can't. I leave in 2 days for a thinking break to decide what I want to do. He doesn't understand that this from so many years ago is still in our lives. Tells me to get over it, it's the past.
You say your husband is a really good man. Mine is too, when he wants to be. When he doesn't want to be, he drinks and "forgets" what he did. Funny, huh?
Good luck to you. Some people can work through these problems. Just not me, I guess.
2006-07-09 08:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by josie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arhem.. ya.. some 25 years ago... I drove drunk with some friends and we trashed a car on a military exercise field.. don't even ask. I still can't remember how I got home and I think I was "dying" for about 2 days afterwards hugging the throne.
Couple of years later I married and haven't had a drink since then. It's just not appealing anymore to lose control and do stupid and dangerous stuff.
2006-07-09 08:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no mater of forgiveness, the main goal of drinking is to be out of character and forget everything, Be happy after the freak out, and start a new session, if u got bored repeat the same scenario, i think its better than drinking daily... Remember, alcohol is poison !!!
2006-07-09 08:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by PG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking to the point of 'blacking out' is a sign of alcoholism. I know because I used to do the same thing. As for forgivness; it is in the eye of the offended.
2006-07-09 09:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by fionbharr_51 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have done once! i cant remember hardly anyfink bout da night and can't even remember simple details like getin from 1 place 2 another and who i spoke 2. i found out da next day from my m8s that i had done some really embarasin things- like flirtin wiv a lad who wasnt my type atall and when he sed he had a gf i sed i didnt care, i l8a on got wid someone who was jus usin me and left my friend all on her own which led 2 her bein nearly bein attacked! It was a one time thing though and i have forgave myself since then and c that it was a mistake and could happen 2 any1!
2006-07-09 08:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by DanniG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not proud to give you a Yes answer, Yes I have. And yes, forgive for a one time thing. Trust me, whoever this happend to is more embarassed and beating himself/herself up more than you ever could. And the flashbacks will stick around a while.
2006-07-09 08:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bruce B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is perfect. Would you want him to forgive you of 1 incident?
2006-07-09 08:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by bill6866 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋