How can I be so strong to face everyday the people, who wanna ruin my name and even my whole life?

Question

I am an ordinary student who's having a problem with the people surrounding me in the school especially my classmates. They are always making stories about me. They even spread rumors that I can't really accept. I am not doing anything wrong. I always make my self humble and respectful to them. I don't wanna think that they're only insecure and what so evah.

The worst thing they did is when they post a false story about me in our school publication. I was really shocked about it. Actually, I really don't care about what they wrote but I am just hurt because I treated the people who made such story as my true friends.

I don't know how to be so strong everyday when we meet in the campus. "I don't know if I should confront or just ignore them."

Answer 1

You can go either way. You can ignore them knowing that they cannot really hurt you or you can confront them with a lawsuit for printing false information. Either way, be strong and let them know you are no one to mess with.
Besides, they are really hurting themselves. "Thou shalt not bear false wittiness against thy brother.

Answer 2

I am going through the same thing in ninth grade, so you're not the only one. I've learned a few things over the three years I've spent in this country (Australia). It doesn't matter how nice you are, the fact that you are unique in some aspect threatens people. They fear what they don't understand, so they naturally make fun of it as a form of self defense. As for the publication- just forget about it. Anyone who you consider a friend will listen to your side of the story, and anybody who doesn't or continues to spread rumours isn't worth the time of the day.

You talk about being humble and respectful to them. Why? Do you have a fear of not fitting in? If so, then I beg you to stop, be yourself and make friends that don't try to put you down all the time. I did it and I'm much happier than I ever was with the scumbags that thought I was a form of entertainment. So hold your head up and smile because you know you're the better person.

Answer 3

"Sticks and stones can break your bones, but words can never hurt you."
I dont know who said that but it definitely can apply in your case if you are afraid to confront the individuals. On a whole I dont think there are many who can escape school without some type of conflict with other students, so you are definitely not alone. What you must remember is this is just a phase of your life and it will past. Advice about going to school administration is also good advice since you were slandered in a school publication. However, you have to prepare for possible retaliation that may be worst than before because you decided to "snitch".
You may want to talk with your parents or an older sibling (if you have one) that may be able to give you direction or provide you with help. As for the people you called "true friends" you have learned a painful lesson about these people, but see its value since these people are obviously not true friends and people you want to steer clear from in your future.
Good Luck. Keep the Faith. Stand tall. Be Brave...This too will past.

Answer 4

It seems that most of the responses to this question have been fairly similar. There's a good chance that they're more applicable to your situation than my answer will be. However, I feel that you deserve a more blunt response. Personally, it sounds to me like an important part of your situation has been left out. Intuition tells me that this would be something that would make you look bad, whether it was something that occurred on accident or on purpose. Perhaps it was something that got blown out of proportion - perhaps you offended someone without meaning to or without knowing it. I'm not saying that I think that what everyone else is doing is justified - it's just as immature as everyone else has said it is. I am saying, however, that (if I am right) that you need to pay more attention to what it is you have done rather than to what it is that they are doing. This could be as simple as changing the way you're acting or apologizing to the people you've offended. It might not be something you can fix in the near future, or it might be something that you should ask about specifically.

Answer 5

What you need to do is get a copy of this story in your school publication. Tell the teacher or principal that this story is false and you want a public apology in the school paper. Also, you can make these people pay the price. Take the people to small claims court and sue them for SLANDER. Yes, bring the evidence of the publication to court and the judge will make them pay for destroying your character. Also, talk to your parents and the principal. There are policies against bullying and harrasment, and if the school doesn't comply, you can ask your parents to hire a lawyer. Chances are, you have become their target. People pick on people they are jealous of because they are insecure about themselves and have to say something bad to make them feel good. I would definately give them a scare and take them to small claims court but do not forget your evidence (the publication).

Answer 6

to publisize unsubstantiated or false information about you is slander.you need to go to the principle about it and speak to your parents about a possible lawsuit.i know it sounds like over reacting but they are not allowed to do that.freedom only exists when it doesn't present a clear and present danger.they can't ruin ur life because after school....believe me....u are reborn into a whole new world.no one will have time to think about what happened in school.there are too many other things to worry about.bills,work,kids,bills.lol.so i wouldn't stress that.just do your school work and try not to keep close friends right now.just aquaintances.alot of people that u talk to every so often.maybe 1 close friend.and do ur school work and do it good.believe me.i didn't and it sucks sitting at home with these kids and fighting just to get into a college.i can't even get hired at old navy because they think i don't know modern technology.so don't worry about them.they will have their own problems.focus on you so that maybe u might not have so many of your own.then you can laugh at them.

Answer 7

I devour purely as many times as I used to, yet I replaced chocolates with fruit, stopped eating stuff that I knew became undesirable for me (burgers, pizza, doughnuts) and all started cooking my personal nutrients, in each and each and every meal I make efficient 1/2 of my plate consists of vegetables and that i have decreased the quantity I placed on my plate by employing about 25%, I also exercising daily commence out strolling 5 minutes an afternoon and keep upping it till you sense waiting to jog, purchase an elliptical bypass coach or stepper, i will now run or step for an hour an afternoon no issues

Answer 8

Look inside yourself, and you'll find the strength you need. These harridans who have spread rumors are bullies. Confront them, and demand an apology, and a public apology in the paper. If they won't give it, then go to an instructor, let them know that you won't be pushed anymore. Stop being humble and respectful to them; bullies are like animals, show weakness, and they are at your throat. Fight for your rights, and stop letting them walk all over you! Stand, and be strong, I know you can.

Answer 9

Hello,
First I would tell u zat i'd once bin in ze same situation like u, i was so hurt& disgusted zat i even asked my parents 2 remove me from zat college. But soon i learnt, by my mum, zat no matter how dauting, challenging ze situation may appear, let everything in the hands of God, he"ll guide u, remove all hinders on ur path. 2nly ignore zem, that's ze least u can do, i no it may appear not easy but give u an advice? Never lose a 2nd of ur time thinking about people u don't like, this will cost ur energy and time.3rdly learn to forgive , to forgive is to become divine;)

Answer 10

First thing to do is ignore it and do your best in every aspect. exile yourself is even a better choice. You don't need "friends" that aren't friendly. Eventually you'll find a true friend. If you keep trying to be close to them (befriend them) they'll get cocky and thing you're suffering. You're STRONG... you are what you are. even when the world goes against you you won't be lonely as GOD stands with you.

If you can't stand it anymore... confront them is another solution, but by doing this you're closing the door for true friend to appear. Confronting politely is the best way... like asking why they are doing it. if they can't answer then ask them to stop it as it bothers you.

be strong.

Answer 11

Go straight to the administration and lodge a written complaint with all the names of the perpetrators.

Be persistent, don't give up, you are right, they are wrong.

Think of this as a chance to make yourself stronger; in 5 years you will know you are a better person for it and they will hopefully learn from their stupidity. Your lesson is just the reinforcement of how important it is to be kind to people.

Don't let the pain now get out of perspective. It is just temporary.