I mean I’m just goin’ on what I know… I mean I get bad cramps, and not to mention I still aint comfortable with the thought of something goin’ in me down there, I don’t even use tampons, it just freaks me out. Is there something wrong with me? I think it’s because I’m afraid of any pain I can’t see, and I’m very sensitive to pain, so I’m assuming it will hurt, I mean I’ve heard people bleeding on their first time, BLEEDING that’s scary, forreal!!!
2006-07-08 22:28:57 · 24 answers · asked by Am 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
There is a chance of some discomfort the first few times, but that quickly gives way to intense pleasure. You just need to feel relaxed and comfortable with your partner. Someone you really feel you trust and respect and vice versa.
This will help put you at ease and allow you to fully enjoy the experience.
You might want to start off with some gentle fingering either by yourself, or have your partner to do it. That will give you an idea of what it will feel like to have something inside you, and can feel quite good at the same time.
But don't freak yourself over it. It's all quite normal, and after a few times, I doubt you'll feel any physical pain. And if you do, then there's something else wrong that you should probably see a gyno for.
Best of luck, and enjoy your new found pleasure zones :)
And these morons saying you have a hymen... don't listen to them. Chances are somewhere down the road you broke that hymen, so don't count on that. Riding a bike, jumping up and down hard enough can break it, lots of things can rupture it, and it is no sign of virginity, so don't worry about that.
2006-07-08 22:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally have no experience with this matter, but I'm going to let you in on what I know. In SOME cases, it does hurt for women. the only reason it hurts is because everything is stretching and stuff. And you only bleed (popping your cherry) because you broke your hymen. You can break your hymen in many different scenarios, not just having sex. So if you have already broke your hymen, sex will not hurt as much, if at all, your first time. And if you use tampons (which in your case you don't) it will also help alleviate the pain. There is nothing wrong with you, many girls are afraid. You should try and use tampons sometime (not just so it can help with the sex thing) but also because they are very comfortable. They don't hurt (as long as you put them in right), they are comfortable, you don't know they are there, they are easy to put in, and you can swim with them and not have to worry about a thing! I would suggest going with the slimmer ones if you're using them the first time. But you know, it's all what you're comfortable with. I think your mind will change as you get older (no clue how old you are but still! lol). So I hope that helps!
2006-07-08 22:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's lacking something in his existence, and those moves interior the mattress room fill the void,, which he probably doesn't even learn about,,, some people get an extra dose of endorphins even as they sense soreness that is totally satisfying. the area is that's style of a drug dependancy and the extra the get the extra they need... So have him search for help earlier he by accident hurts you... He favor to study what and why he might want to attempt this... good success
2016-10-14 06:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by machey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a Hymen (commonly called a cherry). This is broken during the first time. And yes, it does hurt. Also, there will be bleeding. This usually lasts for 2 days. No, it's not stupid, it just means you're not ready.
2006-07-08 22:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a G/F just like you, let me tell you it was very painful for her and myself trying to "break it in". We didnt fully enjoy it until a few times later. Work for me, pain for her. So either start playing with yourself or be ready for pain and not just the first time either, it will take a while to loosen up a little. This is NOT a joke, I'm speaking of real experience.
2006-07-08 22:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by Bender Bending Rodriguez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geezz!!! Some of these answers........!!!
Sometimes it hurts the first time....
and maybe a little soreness or discomfort after that for a little while.
The bleeding is slight if your hymen isn't broke yet.
The pain isn't severe...not as bad as all that.
make sure you are ready, both physically, and emotionally for this.
Take it slow!
After *getting in*, take it slow and it will turn to pleasure!
It is important to be with someone you love and trust!
They will be loving and gentle with you......
and it can be a wonderful, memorable experience from the first time!!
2006-07-08 22:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by tavgirl1954 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with you...you're simply not ready for sex yet. Some women feel pain their first time. Some women feel minor discomfort and some women don't feel any pain at all. If you're afraid of any of the aspects of having sex for the first time then you shouldn't have it until you are ready...and you are not now.
2006-07-15 21:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, of course not. Almost everything is scary to most people until they've experienced it. I have not met a female yet who was not afraid of her first sexual experience on some level or having a cycle or having a baby. It's reasonable to be apprehensive about things we don't know about. It's smart to think them through and prepare ourselves as much as possible.
2006-07-08 22:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a vrgn as well, and think that first time is painful. and i believe were not stupid if we think so.
people say it depends on how the guy prepared you before the penetration. i had a female classmate before and she said, she didnt bleed during her first night because her husband made sure that she was "prepared" for the penetration. that her husband made her really "wet" before taking her. so it wasnt really painful for her.
i think we should choose a very gentle kind of man for our first time. ahihihi ^ ^
2006-07-08 22:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by vilma v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only bleed because if the guy is big enough, it breaks your hyman. It's just a little blood and not bad.
The 1st time I did it, I wasn't sure we actually did it, because he was quite small.
Cramps and pain during sex are not connected...you'll be fine.
2006-07-08 22:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Dolphin lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋