i finally picked up the nerve to tell my husband that our.well my.19. year old girl wasnt his child we was married for.29. years and still are yet he cried and my girl also who i thought was out. heard this to she said she hated me for doing my husband , her daddy that way , he was crying and told me to leave and that it was over our marrage, i asked my .19.year old to leave with me she said she hated me, and she huged him he told her that he was and would always be her father, and no atter if he wasnt her real dad she was his child she loves him and he also loves her ,he was still crying over wht i told him where i was unaitful ,and becme pragnet with her. now he told me to go and i am ,but why cant he at least forgive me this was,19. years ago she is going to stay with him and now it seems like i am soon to be divorced over a axident.that happened,19, years ago why cant he at least forget it that was a long time ago when i was with that other one why cant he just forget after all /
2006-07-08 21:49:37 · 13 answers · asked by whitmangal_2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i told him and now i am about to be divorced why cant he forget we have been married for.29. years he has been a good worker and hasent ever went out on me in the whole.29. years
2006-07-08 21:52:07 · update #1
what did you expect him to say well it,s ok dear and to not even know that your own child was in there where was your brains at i saw something you typed a axident. well things like that isnt no axident lady or whatever you call your self in my opion you lost your child . husband. as well selfrespect as well and the most of all . lady you have no [morals]. in my opion and well ask your self was it worth it whoever the other man was did he ever have the nerve to take never mind in my opion you really hurt this child . child and i really cant say no good on your part. but in my opion your man is the better parent to say he still loves her as his own child and why not he provided hr while you was only thinking of your self . very sad to say but in my opion you are nothing to bad the child and in his own words acording to you. her dad. had to look at you .lady you have to look in a mirrow the rest of your life and see in my opion a whore who broke he vows in marrage in gods eyes as well your childs as well to be never mind you know what you are in my opion i truley feel for them as for you in my opion you dont want to know. my opion?
2006-07-08 22:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 16⤊ 8⤋
What made u remember that the child u borne wasnt his?He always had been a good father,u probably were happy in ur marriage.U handnt any right to ruin thier happiness if as u say it was an accident.You have unwittingly punished all three of u for what God gave u a chance to be in a good relationship.Is this honesty/truth a virtue at all??You have complicated ur life,knowingly.Maybe u took ur husband and daughter for granted,notwithstanding the repurcussions.You did as u felt,now let him do what is best for him.His hurt would take sometime to sublimate.You have to make it a point to stress that it was his love,loyalty and honesty which made u to confess whatever had happened.
2006-07-08 22:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 12:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by shea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is marriage? Its an association of two people, who think that they would not get bored with each other even after staying together or nth number of years. Marriage gives you a person on whom you can trust with your life. In despair, stress, disease, pain, sorrow, you know that there is a person who would not act selfish and would be with you to give you a company. Marriage is not all about the exclusive right of sleeping with somebody.
What happened years back with you ended that time only and throughout your life you stood by your husband and shared is dreams and sorrows and been faith-full. But if he, instead of caring for those many years of your dedication, looks back in past and feels bad about it, he really never loved you or understood you.
Today, very few people can expect a virgin life partner because we know that falling in love or bed is not something we can control at all times. Some or the other time we tend to fall in a relationship and being physical is just another way of showing your love. But the supreme love is that one, which can continue over the years, even if you become physically disabled or loose your beauty, your love remains unchanged.
2006-07-08 22:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by Gaurav 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a very deceitful and selfish person and in the end you will get what is deserved for your behavior.The fact that you hid this from your husband and daughter for 19 years is unforgivable in my books.If I was your daughter or husband our relationship would be over too. P.S. This was not an accident,you willingly cheated on your husband and didnt use protection.You are getting what you deserve.You should have been honest from the start,your husband and daughter are probably wondering what else you have lied to them about.Unbelievable.
2006-07-09 00:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by MrBudbag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if this is all pretty recent stuff.. i know he is hurting right now but 29 years is a long time i do not think he will throw it all away over a simple mistake give him time the forgiveness will come just keep reassuring him you love him and want him... ask him to go to counseling and whatever you do do not file for a divorce if he really wants one he will do it himself but honestly i do not think he will . Your child will need more time to heal then your husband she is just lashing out in anger... that may slow down his forgiving you... Please try to talk them into counseling... good luck
2006-07-08 21:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting accident. I think this goes under the category of emotional fraud. Question; why couldn't the real father of the child take care of his offspring both financially and emotionally? Now in the end you want forgiveness and understanding. Good luck.
2006-07-09 01:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by fionbharr_51 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you really screwed up. He never cheated on you, the least you could've done was reciprocate. I cant say as I blame him. I'm glad he still wants the relationship with your daughter, because this isn't her fault, it's yours. It shows he's got a lot of character. And sounds like you really screwed up a good thing. Too Bad for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-08 22:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was 19 years ago in YOUR mind. HE just found out, so it is new and news to him. Not only have you cheated on him, you lied to him for NINETEEN years. And you want him to just up and forgive you and act like everything is just fine?
2006-07-08 23:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like the man raised an amazing young lady who wasn't even his own flesh and blood. There was no "accident." You broke your marriage vows.
2006-07-09 02:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do u think he cant forgive you? his child that he raised and took care of is not his your a s!ut
2006-07-08 22:20:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋