Is there anything I can do. I'm really not a good faker. I'm an emotional person even when I hide it I think it shows.
2006-07-08 20:47:46 · 18 answers · asked by Blah Blah Blah 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Ways to fake it....Okay here goes.
1. Don't be drawn into long conversations.
2. Be polite
3. Realize that you don't have to like someone but in showing them respect in a public setting you set yourself above them by acting like a lady and not getting drawn into whatever drama is happening at the moment
4.You are so much better than sniping and being nasty
5. You know the old saying? Keep your friends close but your enemies closer? Its true. Distancing yourself so much from people you cannot stand who have impacted your life in such a negative fashion can sometimes shoot yourself in the foot. Treat people how you would like to be treated and above all? Don't ever let them see that they have caused you distress. Many people see that as a sign of weakness. I just believe that it gives them a small bit of power over you that well? Its not theirs to have? And you shouldn't let them have it.
2006-07-08 20:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by *Monica* 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No faking required to be nice - just maturity. Don't let your feelings for a person allow you to be less than generous and kind in your speaking to others. How you conduct yourself around people you can't stand speaks volumes about you and says very little about the other person. In other words, kindness to others is a virtue that you need to live by. That doesn't mean you can have a close, intimate relationship with a person you can't stand. You may have to be more superficial and less intimate in that situation.
2006-07-09 10:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Less talk, more smiles! I know it's hard t say something nice to someone you just wanna strangle. Just stick to the everyday civilized gestures - greet them, ask them how they're doing, comment on the weather or remark about their pretty shoes, hairdo, whatever, and excuse yourself in the sweetest manner and get away from them.
If you cannot get away from him/her, just be as uncommunicative as possible but keep a smile on your face. At least yuo won't be tempted to say something that you might regret, and you still keep up a friendly facade.
Whether or not they discover that you're faking that kindness, douesn't really matter - at least you were polite and civilized all the while. And that way, they got nothing on you! ;-)
2006-07-09 03:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mary J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question. It's hard to do. But if you look at most of the top people in a large company, they all have this skill. They somehow get along with everyone - I notice they do it by being a good politican. They never really disagree or agree. They always listen and pay attention and know how to make small talk.
2006-07-09 03:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by timmytude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first - why would you want to fake anything. What's the point? You don't have to be nice to everyone. I'm not saying to be nasty or rude, but you can be polite without actually being nice.
Be yourself. If you don't like the person, you don't have to make this obvious to the person, but don't try and be something you're not!
Peace.
2006-07-09 03:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by L1ngg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off make sure you -want- to be nice to them. Do they deserve it? Is it your hate your own problem or did they mean to make you feel that way?
If your hate is your own problem and they don't deserve being treated poorly because you can't stand them, then there are no tricks. Just think of what its like to be nice and act that way, and keep all of your hate bundled in your mind rather than your responses, and don't be liberal with how nice you are; there is no need to be overly nice.
2006-07-09 03:51:39 · answer #6 · answered by phone_tv_dsl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spare yourself and your personal torment by faking, just make any contacts with that person as short and congenial as you can, and maybe eventually you may even come to liking them. But if that's not possible, just treat them with the respect that you hope to receive.
2006-07-09 03:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by iamjaycee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, try to LIMIT the amount of time you're in direct contact or conversation, try to have others present during this limited time, steer clear of any volitile subjects and excuse yourself as quickly as possible.
What will show is the CLASS it takes to be civil to someone that sets your teeth on edge.
2006-07-09 03:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember to always treat people the way you would want them to treat you. Give respect, get respect. Always be yourself... no one likes a fake person.
2006-07-09 03:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Pk P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend that you are an actor playing a role. Create a spiel and practice it until you get it down pat. Heck, you might become so good at it, you might fall into an acting career. Good luck. :)
2006-07-09 03:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by kcsilverlining77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋