How do you deal with people that you absolutely despise everything about?

Question

If you had to live with someone whom you loathed and dispised everything about them, how would you deal with that situation?

Answer 1

Treat them with the respect and common courtesy that you want to be treated with. The Golden Rule applies in a situation like this. Or you can do what your mom always told you to do: "Kill them with kindness". Face it: You are going to have people you dislike in your lifetime. Just try to make the best of the situation and learn to deal with him or her until you move out. :)

Answer 2

First of all it takes two to have this situation. I would figure out why it is that you dispise this person so much first. Not just the things that person does but really why the person is that way.

The other part of the equation is why you dispise everything.
It's just not possible for a person to do absolutely everything wrong 100% of the time. There fore part of the problem has to be on your shoulders as well.

In any case try to be the bigger person and not let the little things get to you. That will help when the big things come in to play.

Answer 3

I would have to say I would probably confront the person with my issues. I would tell them flat out the reasons for how I feel, and give them a chance to respond. You may find that the things you dispise about a person, are usually the things they dispise about themselves.

Answer 4

One of the most difficult social situations in life can be telling a person that you dislike them. In fact, it can be so difficult that most of us probably never tell people how we really feel. For whatever reason, we just don't click with everyone. Perhaps it's our own biases. But maybe it's the other person. Maybe they are just so rude, so inconsiderate and generally disliked by most people because of their attitude that we jump on the bandwagon and dislike them too, and for good reason.

We all deal with people like this everyday. There is that one person in every class who has the ********, sneering and most revolting personality, who thinks he or she is wiser than the professor, which very well may be the case, but has a complete lack of respect for his or her peers and the educator.

But what happens when this person approaches me in class and asks what we've been discussing lately? My first thought is that they are trying to take advantage of me. They probably don't even know my name but realize that I've never missed a class. I'm the perfect sucker! I realize I barely recognize this person's face. And now this person wants me to divulge my sacred notes so they can catch up?

I begin to think back on the entire semester in an instant flash. I realize that this person was able to sleep in all semester long and get his or her beauty sleep while I dragged my *** to class every Tuesday and Thursday after a long day of work the night before. I become bitter and either pretend like I don't have my notes with me that day or I give them up because I don't know how to say NO.

Sometimes these people can actually be refreshing. I know my life and my personality seem a whole lot brighter when someone pessimistic, bitter and generally stupid walks in and reminds me how much better off I am.

But how do we deal with these kinds of people? Well, the option I tend to use is to just ignore them. But inevitably, you'll end up in the lunch room at work together or bump into them in the hallways on campus

Then what do we do? Well, we fake it! We pretend like we are so excited to see this person when in reality we want to run the other way, and don't care about what they say. I could not care less if that person is having a nice day or if their classes are going well. I don't care if they failed a midterm, or if their significant other broke up with them five minutes earlier. It's not my problem.

Now, if this person happened to be kind and caring and all those other marshmallow characteristics, then I would be more than happy to stop and chat. But I know this rude person is faking it as much as I am. They need someone to complain to and I'll do for the time being until they get a chance to speak to one of their real friends, if they have any.

If avoiding people doesn't work for some, then perhaps a good old-fashioned dose of truth will do. If someone you dislike insists on chatting it up with you every chance they get, simply tell them that your personalities don't mesh very well and you'd prefer to keep the relations strictly at an acquaintance level. Sure, that kind of attitude won't make you any new friends, but you weren't trying to be friends with that person anyway. Don't be too rude, though. Then you'd be no better than the person you're confronting.

Answer 5

While no one should have to put up with someone that they despise.. if one had to deal with it.. just think about all the things that you don't like.. I bet you can find that quality in some other person that you do like. I would guarantee it. Another good thing would be to help them. If there is something about them that is damaging to their image say.. they have lots of BO.. put some deodorant in their room. If they don't brush their teeth.. give them a toothbrush.. maybe they don't know that what they're doing is annoying you.. tell them. People on average like to please other people.

Answer 6

Well do your best to get out of that living situation. But in the meantime, realize that sometimes even your best friends are hard to live with and you may not even be that easy to live with yourself. If I were you Id try to avoid the person as much as possible but at least try to be respectful to them when you are forced to be around them.

Answer 7

OMIGOSH!! It's called prayer! I kid you not. Prayer has been a lifesaving, problem-solving, violence-free assertive, corrective method to ALL of my situations.

God is faithful and just and an excellent vindicator! All this while under His instructions: Matthew 5:44

"But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,"

It works, prayer changes things!

Peace Out.

Answer 8

Wait till you can move out and then do so. I had to live with my sister and her husband. I can't stand him. He so.... dumb and thinks he's smarter than everyone and that girls don't know what they are doing. I don't know why my sis stays with him. Now, at family get togethers, I either avoid him altogether, or I'm just polite as I can be. ((When ireally just wanna ***** slap the retard))

Answer 9

Move out

Answer 10

The first thing you must consider is, are you right most of the time? If yes, maybe it is time to influence them. it is more appropriate to be humble and show them the right path. If no, then just live with it.