i want a kid and my fiance says he wants one too but sometimes i have doubts and i dont think its a good idea to have a kid before your wedding date
2006-07-08 20:14:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Society looks down on people who conceive before marriage. Since you both want a kid, why not get married as soon as possible. Everything said and done, having a baby is the ultimate for a woman and feeling of achieving pure bliss. Even if you decide to have before marriage, make sure you will be able to raise the baby if God Forbid anything goes wrong with your fiance (he may walk out on you, unable to support you and the baby or some natural cause). No matter what you do, always take pride in it. After all, the baby is gonna be your own blood and flesh. I love the thought of babies itself :-)
2006-07-08 20:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by CURIOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your engaged, then your almost married. Even if you were impregnated now, chances are youll be married before you give birth unless your planning on waiting longer that 10 months to get married. I think if your ready to have a kid together now theres no reason to wait that long to get married unless your still having relational doubts, then by no means do you need a kid espcially now it just makes things harder. A child deserves to be raised propperly and most of the time its best for a child to grow up with a mother and father. If theres any chance you wont go through with the marriage, then by all means dont have a baby!!!!!
2006-07-08 20:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by sera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not a bad thing to have them before your married but if you can wait i say wait!! i have 2 kids and it's tough. your still young or at least you sound young. make sure you do all the things you want to do in life first like going to a place you always dreamed of or a long cruise with just you man. cause once you have the baby you have to give them ALL of your attention!! hope i could help
2006-07-09 00:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to wait till he asks you to marry him. Let me tell you why because if you dont it is like he is in a ready made family and has no commitment to you. You two should get married then have a kid out of love for each other.
2006-07-09 07:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by momof_12003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you're not married yet and have two different opinions, it may not be a great idea. I, however, am single and planning to adopt a kid so there's no other person's opinions, having sex and getting pregnant involved in my situation so I don't think there's a problem with it.
2006-07-08 20:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by axiomgeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to raise a child on your own, but if you have a partner, I don't think having a child before the wedding date is that big of a deal. But forget what I think...ask yourself why it may matter to you, then follow what your heart/gut tells you is right for you.
2006-07-08 20:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by coreenh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't suggest it...not yet anyway ...Because one you are married you want to spend time together being able to go places and do things...together......Once you have a baby it will take up all your time ..So get married first and enjoy being with one another for w while then have a baby. There is no rush
2006-07-08 20:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a kid...Makes sure you household AGI is >$50000 and that you take a punctuation and grammar class ASAP. We dont need another welfare baby out there. Marriage is just a social control mechanism so don't waste your time getting married!!
2006-07-09 08:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Nicholi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very bad to have a child before you are married. the statistics are clear on how badly it goes for kids when the parents aren't committed to each other. life is very very very very very very very hard for children with single parents. children need to be raised at home by their mothers, day care is very very very very damaging to children and single moms are far more likely to have to dump their children into the care of strangers.
2006-07-09 03:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not as bad as having one and not wanting.
2006-07-08 20:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋