I'm a 12 year old girl but I'm finding that I find other girls nice looking. Is this normal or very abnormal?

Question

Am I really a lesbian?

No, I don't want to kiss them but yes, I would be ashamed if I were a lesbian cos I find some guys really nice looking

Answer 1

i don't think ur a lesbian there's a lot of things going on gays lesbian u kids r confuse because other people r making it like being a lesbian its alright i don't think u r wait until u 15 or 16 when u still feel that way then maybe u might consider talking to someone about it or something but at the moment don't trouble ur self if this answer doesn't make u feel better if u have a sister try and talk to ur sister but i would advise u not to talk to ur friends about it because the next day u will be the talk of school field

Answer 2

Don't be silly Don't be ashamed of your feelings and Don't get too worried.
You are 12 Not a kid yet not a Teenager along with your body going through all these changes and all these natural chemicals flowing round your body your mind is changing. Curiosity and finding out new feeling exploring new ideas and more grown up situations are all normal a normal part of puberty and nothing to be scared of. been open minded is a great thing.
Try read some good young adult books check out Oxfam or the library or Wh Smiths They are lots of Teen Advice books because you are not alone and your friends will maybe laugh in your face but behind closed doors they are happy somebody else shares the same feelings and worries
Try I Was A Teenage Worrier by Ros Asquith hes done loads of other books check Amazon.co.uk
Being a Happy Teenager by Andrew Matthews
Agony Atkins by Anne Atkins
There are tonnes and you don't need to tell your mum or dad why you want the book or how you feel. And if your parents don't want to give you money for books there's something odd as all parents want kids to read more.
So check out the young adult section I also fount Judy Blume books a good read they helped answer question i did not want to ask.
It may be a phase or it may not but either way your future is in your hands make the best of it you can

Answer 3

Hi hunni , I have read all these answers and they are partly right - yes it may just be a phase but it may not be some times people find out that they may have more feelingd for girls when they get older or even at ur age depending on how u are there isnt an age were you can say yes im gay or bi or woteva it depends on u and if u are lesbian or bi u cant really stopp it but i would say give it more time and se ehow u feel it may just be a phase and u may get over it -- but u really need to sit and think " do i just find them pretty?" "do i think there prety like boys?" you need to think about it and i dont htink ur a lesbian coz u like boys if you no wot i mean ujust rreallly need to relax and think about it-- good luk hunni i hoep that helped me looking at this in different angles not just one way -- email me and IMme to tell me wots been going on and how you are -- we can chat anytime bout anything hunni -- good luk--- [e-mail]

Answer 4

To be honest at 12 I dont think your anything; not les, not bi and not straight - your just exploring options.

At 12 you should be more interested in ponies (no - not like that) and other girlie things; enjoy it while things are still simple.

In a couple of years things are gonna get soooooo darn complicated; boys, girls, where are my new batteries, i want to wear "X" but they'll think I look better in "Y" ....... and so on.

If you think girls look hot; that's fine. If you think guys look hot; thats fine too. If you think both girls and guys look hot; that just means you have twice the options.

The important thing to remember is ...... no matter which way you opt to go (Les, Bi or Straight) do it because its what you feel is right; and enjoy it for all it is.

Answer 5

Hun, you are 12, you have a lot of growing up to do, when I was 12 I thought other girls were attractive, but I also thought men were.... its normal! I'm not lez or anything, but I do look at others girls and say "oh now shes cute" or "oh jeez Lord help her" its a matter of competition! You are at that age, where its competitiveness, and since there are alot of talk about lez's and gays, and even Bi's that doesn't make you one! I look at girls all the time, to see if I got competition ;) haha! Honestly I think its a matter of choice! Ya know?

Answer 6

This is very normal, Infact many women do look but ashamed to say. I always wonder why everyone is better looking then myself. You are just getting to know youreself, comparing features, or maybe you feel low self asteem. Never the less maybe I should word it diffrent..How many ppl look at celebs on television, or tabloid mags. Saying "Dang is she pretty..I wish I can look like her! "Think about it hun" Everyday in the break room at work you hear them laughing..WOW I wish I had thighs like hers...Look how thin that one is!!! (Gee whiz dont you go understating youreself..You are perfect the way you are!) and No it does not mean you are gay. Unless you take it farther

Answer 7

It doesn't sound to be like you're a lesbian. It's very very normal for a girl to look at a girl and think that she is pretty. Lots of girls are pretty, and you taking notice of that doesn't mean anything except that you have eyes.

Answer 8

ur definitly normal, u can look @ lotz of girls and think oh they're pretty and they can be an admiration, say kiara knightly but this doesn't mean your a lesbian. It wouldn't be very nice to look @ your friends and think oh they're butt ugly so you're being a good mate by thinking your friends are pretty! This just means your nice and that u have eyes!

Answer 9

i got here upon this to be authentic even as i became starting to be up. I met many distinct females who to a level were curious or fascinated in one yet another's anatomy. it isn't gay. some females even as youthful (5,7,10) will actual make out with one yet another with the point to pretend being grown up. human beings have all sorts of thoughts and do not always have an outlet. it is particularly widespread, as I understand, which isn't to assert that very female does it. and many females bypass to the lavatory in communities- it is the position each and each and every of the perfect female communicate occurs. once you're at a public position, you've the privateness of a stall. yet when you're at someone's' living house, you bypass in together, blab, snort, attempt on makeup... All particularly widespread imho. And properly, if one or better of them have curious gay thoughts, it truly is existence.... some each and every individual is amazingly modest, embarrassed, inner most. I grew up in a hippie loved ones and performance under no circumstances had a difficulty being bare in the front of different females or human beings in most circumstances. I commonly gauge how the different individual is behaving... in the journey that they act modestly, I do besides out of comprehend for his or her convenience element. (i'm speaking about in locker rooms, replacing in the front of acquaintances, and so on. ) ultimately: your sis ought to easily stay out of those circumstances in the journey that they make her uncomfortable.

Answer 10

its a good trait to have, its NORMAL, my 12 year old finds other girls attractive too.. it's more a comparison, or like you see them as an idol, it doesnt mean anything other than you are not bitchy about other girls, and you are kind hearted, much better than calling other girls names JUST becasue you think they are attractive, most girls your age slate other girls because they are jealous, of how they look, so top marks for you.
eveyone has beauty, male or female, pop stars, friends, soap characters. its just admiration, dont worry yourself, and if indeed you grew up and still found girls attractive and preferred them to boys, thats not wrong either.
you will be who you will be, you're still a baby, in an adults eyes,
girls are also renowned for having crushes on female teachers, honestly its normal, dont stress :O)
just part of growing up