2006-07-08 20:02:57 · 20 answers · asked by Save_the_fat_munkeyz!!! 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
everyone stop telling me to see a therapist!!! i saw one for a year, and my parents... my parents were always embarrased about it. i pretend i'm okay, but i'm not. stop telling me to see a therapist.
2006-07-08 20:11:44 · update #1
in every question i've asked, someone has told me to see a therapist... does that make me crazy?
2006-07-08 20:14:03 · update #2
SAME HERE!
2006-07-08 20:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perspective. The closer you are to a problem the less likely you are to accurately view the situation. A typical example is the surgeon that operates on himself.
Emotions cloud logic and distance reduces the influence of emotion. The first step is to acknowledge the emotional weight of the aspects of the problem then take that into consideration. After you have weighted things it becomes easier to assess them dispassionately. Now you have the benefit of familiarity with the problem and perspective. After that you can use logic, mathematics, or gut feeling to help you find the answer. Putting the answer into practice is a whole other issue. :)
Check out Rational Choice Theory for more information.
2006-07-08 20:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Wyld Stallyns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird at all, as you can see- you have 3 of us already who do the same thing.
It's because we're too close to the situation. We can't be objective when dealing with our own situation. With other's it's much easier to be objective and see the problem without the blinders of prejudice and from a different perspective completely. We're stuck in the forest with our own problems and can't see past the trees in our immediate vicinity- now that sounds weird, but I know what I mean- just not sure I put it clearly. The answer might be just the other side and someone on the outside can spot it when we can't.
2006-07-08 20:14:04 · answer #3 · answered by niteowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 05:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not weird. Quite normal and happens to eveyone. It's easier to give other people advice and comfort becasue you're not in their situation. BUT when it's you who has the problem it's not very clear in your mind the right thing to do or think.
When you have a probelm you don't really think straight right off the back. But when you calm down and think things thru slowly that can really help you.
The same way you help your friends... find ways to comfort yourself. ;-)
Sophia
2006-07-08 20:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not. That happens to me all the time too. I truly believe that it's because we are an "outside" party to other peoples problems and can have a more unbiased look at their situation. Whereas in our own life we are biased and have emotions entangled within the situation.
If it is wierd then I guess we both are then! :)
2006-07-08 20:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by pinaypie_heaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's easier to see some else's faults then your own, people don't want to admit their own issues, and aren't true to themselves until they actually sit down and think about what they could have done to make their issue or situation better, I always do the same too, and I think this is why.
2006-07-08 20:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by Cool Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just alright. As a healer/preacher/advisor, you have more of a parent ago and thats why you are successful in solving other's problems. When it comes to your own, your parent ego confuses you with a lot of "no". Your adult ego seldom gets dominance and hence you will not be able to decide on your own!! Dont worry, ask your friends to solve your problems, they will give you better, matured solutions!!
2006-07-08 20:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that is common.
we dont see the answer to our problems because we dont like the answer in most cases.
for example, if a women has an abusive husband, you would say leave him, and then tell her ways to servive with out him.... but if it were you in her shoes, that wouldnt be the answer you would want to hear, because perhaps you love your house, or some thing to that effect.
it's always easier to fix others.
2006-07-08 20:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may because your so into fixing others problems that you are not able to see that you have a problem of your owns untill it is too late....
2006-07-08 20:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by archana r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, alot of people do this. You sound very intelligent and empathetic. You'd probably make a good psychologist.
2006-07-08 20:10:04 · answer #11 · answered by hollyltstarfleet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋