i have been with my current boyfriend foe 9 months and we have been together since about 4 months after my seperation. he stayed with me during my whole divorce and never complained. he respects my kids like they are his. and i love him dearly. i am always thinking of one day marrying this man but whats wrong with me i just got a divorce not even a year yet. and my divorce was TERRIBLE. i have three kids that were involved and im sure one can only imagine. thing is that i am scared to get married in fears of being like my mom --married 5 times. but i dont want to wait 10 years either . when is a good time?
2006-07-08 19:24:14 · 8 answers · asked by sweetness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When it feels right to u, and by this question it doesnt feel right yet.. dont get remarried yet, you've only been together 9 months, give it a couple years, and then you'll know for sure if its a smart move..last thing your kids need is for you to jump into another marriage that may not work because you moved to fast.. they dont need to go through another divorce with you, so just keep dating, give it time to grow and to make sure this guy is Definately the right one before making that big of a commitment..
I was 23 when i got a divorce from my first husband, i got married again last year and im now 32, i had gotten a few marriage proposals prior to meeting my now husband, but none of them seemed quite right and well frankly i wasnt totally over my x husband either so i waited till I definately had mr. right and it was a right time for me as well..
Good luck and dont rush u still have plenty of time, and if he's Mr. Right, then waiting on a piece of paper for a couple years wont mean anything if he's going to be the man u live the rest of your life with anyways.. so just give it time :)
2006-07-08 19:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she may just be going through a phase, and I'm not sure how long it will last. I don't want to scare you or anything but she may be wondering if she made the right choice, if she could have found someone better, etc. These are most likely irrational thoughts that will eventually go away, especially once she realizes again why she married you. My reasoning for these assumptions is that I have been dating my boyfriend for three years now, and there have been times when I have been down on my relationship (especially after receiving a promise ring, it scared me for some reason). I would start to question if I was "too good" for him, and I would find myself doing the same exact things that you are describing, I would be mean, I would get mad at him for asking me questions or, frankly, for talking to me too much. EVERYTHING he would do started to annoy me in some way, shape, or form. And when I was confronted, I felt awful. I truly felt like the worst person in the world, but then found myself doing the same exact thing weeks later. To be honest, I am not quite sure how to fix this problem. I eventually learned to just control those ridiculous thoughts and be mindful about doing more things for him. Because those are just thoughts that come to me when I am feeling down. So, I am not exactly sure what to suggest for you to do in this situation. Because it is quite possible that whatever you do, could just end up irritating her. I think you should just continue to talk to her about it (reacting negatively to this, ie. getting angry at her, ignoring her, etc. will probably only make things worse). I think that you should ask her what you could do to make her less irritated. Ask her what about your calls make her feel so angry? Because to me it sounds like a defense mechanism. She may be feeling confined and may feel like she needs a little more space. If you're patient and can control any negative reactions you may have, you should be able to get through this. Just try to remind her why she chose you, and why you really are the only one for her. Asking her friends for advice may be helpful as well. Good luck! I hope I helped somewhat!
2016-03-26 22:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have been through wanting to kill 'HIM" and yeat forgave because he's so cute. Or better yet, when YOU will not feel like you are forcing yourself into a relationship out of a fear of ending up alone by not jumping on the train when it came by. If he truely loves you, he will wait. If he doesn't.......
2006-07-08 19:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can wait for 2 or 3 monthes and see how is he
2006-07-08 19:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have any kids involved, but remarried 6 months after my divorce was final. When you find Mr. Right, you find Mr. Right....
2006-07-08 23:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to rush things. sounds like its going well, just be patient- it will all fall into place within time. focus on you, your children, and your relationship. talk with your boyfriend about the future, your plans, dreams etc. . you will know when the time is right. go with your instinct. good luck and best wishes!!
2006-07-08 19:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it feels right to you....sounds like a good man so follow your heart..
2006-07-08 19:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by c_sev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait for a while intil your heart til you you are ready
2006-07-08 20:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋