Is there any way to control Blind Rage?

Question

Blind Rage is (i was told) where ur brain shuts down ur visual sightings in something that has to do with rage....Example: a while back i was in a hockey fight, one on one with another kid, I thot i really beat the kid badly, but since i was so angry when i fought the kid, my mind had blocked out some of the action in the fight, so the only things that i saw was me throwing a punch, falling on the ice, and the refs seperating us after we threw a couple more punches, when really...much more than that happened....anybody have any idea what im getting at?

Answer 1

Get help before you hert some one.
I've been there so i know what you're talking about. I rember getting mad but I don't remember the fight. I think I might have been trying to kill the other guy. It scared me so much that i decided to do some thing about it. It still bothers me and that was about 20 years ago.
I was a quiet person. I didn't talk unless spoken to. Even then I gave a short answer. When I was angry I held it inside of myself, insted of letting it out. I didn't even gripe that much.
A person is like a cup. You can only put so much into a cup before it over flowes. When my "anger" cup ran over, I'ed loose my temper and my self controll. It usualy took months of pent up anger to push me over the top and it was usualy some thing small that set me off.
I learned to work out my problems before they worked me over.
You need to find some one that you can talk to and work out your frustrations before your frustrations work you over.
Anger comes form difrent sorces. You need to find out what is causing yours and either get it out of your life or find ways to safely vent it so you don't hert others.
For me, it was learning to speek and express myself so i didn't get walked on.
I had a friend who had to stop playing sports because he was so competetive that he'd get too angry when a game went bad.
I think he took up goging alone.

Answer 2

This goes beyond just bad temper. You probably need to have him evaluated by a neurologist. This could be something beyond his control like epilepsy or bi-polar or something as simple as a food allergy or allergy to mold. Not so simple actually! In that case you would need to find the triggers and avoid these things, sometimes easier said than done. My daughter was having this sort of thing happen and found out it was gluten in her diet. Once we got rid of the wheat she stopped having the attacks. Anyway it could be just about anything and yes it is serious, especially if you are having to call the cops. Scary for you and scary for him. Also you didn't mention it but if he is on medications some of those can trigger weird reactions and no one realizes. Go get it checked out and don't let the doctors blow you off about it.

Answer 3

I know exactly what you're talking about. I unfortunately suffer from the same thing. Some would suggest couseling. I have dealt with my rage by removing myself from potentially dangerous situations. I take a few deep breaths, and talk to someone that understands my rage. I never had couseling for this, but I know I probably should. My method has worked well thus far, but I have been considering couseling myself. The rage tends to build up afterawhile. I can't imagine that being very healthy. I also believe it has made me passive aggresive and I'm not so sure I like being that way. I suggest you (and me) get some help.

Answer 4

Carefully make a list of things that triggers a state of 'Rage' , and co-relate it with situations where they are likely to occur due to mis-match with expectations.
When very calm examine whether these expectations are viable. The mind stores a message about that non-viability , and definitely helps to get self-control even in split-second-rage-triggered situations !

Answer 5

You need counseling to learn to deal with your anger. Once you have other strategies for anger management, the incidents should go away.

Answer 6

Try to plan ahead for situations like that; this is far easier in situations you've experienced before. For example, let's assume you're playing hockey again next week, and there may be another fight (hockey being what it is ;) ). Remember what happened leading up to the fight. Analyse what it was that triggered your anger. Maybe he shoved you, and you didn't want to make him think he could get away with it; perhaps you were defending your pride (or physical safety, or the puck or something) a little too vehemently.

Think about that trigger point, the split second where you became angry, and tell yourself that the way you're about to respond may not be the best option. Force yourself to hesitate long enough to start questioning the *choice* you have made to react angrily. (In doing this, you can mentally "remove yourself" from the situation, even if you cannot physically leave (i.e. if you are in the middle of a game, if you are cornered, etc..)

Now remove yourself from the picture. Imagine that there are people on a field, and you happen to be able to control one of them. Now you need to control that person in a way that best diffuses the situation (think of it as a game in which everyone must keep as many of their teeth as possible).

Through this process, you can come to know of some better ways to respond to negative situations. Now you need to be strong enough to react calmly in real life. This might feel wrong to you. Maybe you are not used to taking someone's **** without dealing some back. This is something you will have to get used to; but through it, you will reach a certain level of understanding of yourself and the people around you that most people do not have. You will learn to manipulate situations to the best possible outcome, and people will probably like you more, too.

Hope this helps. --876

Answer 7

Don't close your eyes!