I have kids with my "true love" which he denies and have kids with my husband, he loves my other kids. I know he hurt me but I just am so dumb
2006-07-08 18:40:13 · 9 answers · asked by mamiotwinz2ice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You never get over the first one.
2006-07-08 18:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you are so dumb. Why are you hung up on a dude who thinks so little of you that he won't even acknowledge his own babies? I think maybe he messed with your head so badly when you were vulnerable that your self-esteem is seriously screwed up. You have a husband who loves you, who even loves this other guy's kids, but some part of you feels that there's something wrong with your husband if he could love you. And that's the part that was damaged by this "true love". What you feel may be regret, nostalgia, lust, and even anger, but it is not love. When you can face the fact that you wasted your emotion and sexuality on someone who was beneath you, that this guy was a huge waste of time, then you will get over him. I hope you can do that in time to recognize that your "true love"--the love that respects you and cares for you--may be the husband you have. Stop being a masochist and be a woman and live the one life you have to its fullest. Stop mooning after some loser and realize that you deserve to be treated well and with deep affection and kindness.
2006-07-08 18:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by irmamontez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love and denial , really don't go together, to describe the same person.
Sometimes the "First one" is a nice fantasy we keep in our heads and take of the shelf as needed. thats O.K. it serves a purpose, makes us calm, happy etc. BUT just be aware that the feeling of true love is part of that fantasy and not the reality associated with a persin that denies their own flesh and blood.
marriage takes effort to maintain. If a man is able to love a child he knows is not his own, he really is someone worthy of your love, and worthy of your fantasy. For many woman finding such a situation were you are loved and so are all of your kids is really the ultimate fairytale. Be very gratefull for who you have in your life now.
Also another point is that in our memories its hard to conjure up all the garbage that was associated with a relationship, in our memories we often remember just the happy moments and the highlights.
2006-07-08 18:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't dumb your first love is the dumb one , by denying his own children...And we will always have a place for our first love because it was special but that doesn't mean we don't love the husbands we have now...
2006-07-08 18:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that u have a husband now & that he has rights on u & that he's so kind that he loves ur other children. Always remember that each timeu thing about the other guy that u r hurting ur husband & u'll 4get, u made an oath & u have to respect it.
2006-07-08 18:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by loza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you will never get over your first true love. The only thing you can do is remind yourself of all the good things you got going for you that you didnt have with your true love. Remember also its his stupidity for giving you up and for that you are probably better off!
2006-07-08 18:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by too_hott_4_uuuu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the words are something like "the first cut is the deepest"
over time you will realize that this first "true Love" was nothing more than confusion on your part. good luck .
2006-07-08 18:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the smart one if you left him he is the one that should be trying to get over you since you left him
2006-07-08 23:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP YOU STUPID COW!!!!
2006-07-08 18:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by lbfm4me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋