My husband and I been together for almost 7 years. We are in a point in our marriage that we both have cheated and it is a complete mess. We are both seeking help (professional) individually and together. Do you think a person will ever change. My husband has sweared off the other woman and I have done the same. We tried dating each other however I think we have rebuild our marriage from the ground up. Do you think we are able to save our marriage. I do love him.
2006-07-08 18:35:14 · 16 answers · asked by RONNIEKAT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you both are on the right track by seeking counseling. It shows that you still care enough about one another to try and save the marriage.
And you're right, you have to re-build your relationship from the ground up all over again, if you're going to have any chance of staying together.
I believe that if the two of you can truly forgive one another for past wrongdoing, and love each other enough and work hard enough at it....you really have an excellent chance of saving your marriage.
I'm rooting for both of you to succeed...
Good Luck~* ;-)
2006-07-08 19:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by DG 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
i think you will always have a friend relationship which you are mistaken for love. you feel like you are missing something from him or the relationship that is why you cheat and the same for him. if it was perfect match then you both wouldnt feel the need to cheat and it wouldnt even cross your mind. i think it is doomed . only because im in the same boat and it has been three years since we separated and its still a bad deal. good luck to you and i hope you can keep friends but the marriage is done and over with you have to go on you have found other to love you and you will again . you will remain friends only.
2006-07-09 02:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by medicdebbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I think if you love each other you can overcome anything. What you have to look at is is there too much baggage between the two of you ? Look at the reasons why you cheated , if those are still the same chances are theres something lacking for each of you and if thats not corrected you'll always be "hungry" for whatever it is you need really need . Good luck on whatever you decide hope it works for you .
2006-07-09 01:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by LarryTx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trust has been betrayed by both of yo. Do you think that you will ever gain that trust back from him, and do you think that you will ever trust him again. Once someone has cheated in a marriage, all the counseling in the world cant restore trust, and divorce usually occurrs at some point.
2006-07-09 01:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can always change, if they're willing. I think you both show that will. You're beautiful, I'm sure he's not bad looking, try to talk to each other about things you find attractive about each other and other individuals. Try role playing. It works for me and my wife. It actually makes the sex life better for some reason.
2006-07-09 01:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Big Daddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be done but its very rare, sometimes theres just to much of a wedge between people, and although they may forgive they cant forget and after awhile it just kinda boils over inside of you..but maybe since u both did it, maybe it wouldnt be to bad for you , i really dont know, i guess u have to ask yourself how much do u love him.. will u be able to trust him again.. ect.. Good luck, i hope you both learned your lessons and dont take each other for granted again..
2006-07-09 01:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much.
I certainly woulsn't want anything from my husband after Ihe cheated on me. And I'm sure he wouldn't want anything fro me vice versa.
People forget that there is something so sexy about an individual who has had a very limited number of partners.
2006-07-09 02:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad you are seeking help. All I can say is good luck and it seems like you are on the right path to finding out whether or not you can make it. Good luck
2006-07-09 01:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by CLS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have gotten through worse. I wonder why you are trying so hard? Scared to be on your own? Maybe you love him, But are not meant to be with him forever. For me, I'd never be able to trust him again....And without trust... What's the point?
2006-07-09 02:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're still in love with him, then do anything you can to stay together. The two of you need to commit, seriously commit to each other.
2006-07-09 01:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋