my husban hitts me and mentally abuses me i have one child with him i dont have any family to go were can i go

Answer 1

I Am sorry for your pain. If your husband hits you, and verbally abuses you., there is no reason to stay with him.

You do not deserve this, and are not the cause of this, it is probably the pressure of marriage and responsibility, and other things inside him he has not come to terms with, or he was abused, and that is one answer, or he just does not like his life, but whatever it is, it is not good, safe, and is no way to
raise a child in this madness, and sadness,,

there are shelters, and help, for you, a whole world is waiting for you and your child,
don' t ever think he is sorry, and won't do it again, nomatter what, if he cries, begs even stops for a while, it won't go away,, YOU MUST GO AWAY,,
YOUR POOR CHILD, AND YOU DESERVE THE BEST LIFE CAN OFFER AND THERE ARE no guarantees whatever you do, but at least you will get strength and security knowing you are not alone,,, you are not alone, shelters, self help groups, you will lmake friends, and just don't get weak, and think you can not get or do better,,

JUST FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT, HOW YOU WANT TO LIVE, HOW YOU WANT TO RAISE YOUR CHLD, NEVER, EVER FOCUS ON WHAT YOU DON'T
WANT, OK..
YOU HAVE LOTS OF SUPPORT JUST HERE ON THESE ANSWERS I READ, AND ALL SEEM TO BE VERY SINCERE, TAKE THE NEXT STEP,,
AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU

Answer 2

There are women shelters. look in your phone book. Or call the cops and tell them that you fear him and need to get away. I
Go and leave as fast as you can. Dont have any quilt. He has a huge probem. You are worth way more. And your child needs to be safe. There is NO reason for you to live your life with a guy like that. You probably love him and he probably is so sweet and loving when he says he is sorry. Don't buy it. Get out and out soon. The cops or a woman protection group can come and get you. Be sure and take a few things, a couple of changes of clothing.
Do it soon. dont get yourself or your child killed. Also if your child grown up see this behavior. That child most likely will repeat the behavior in future generations.. YOU have the choice to end that behavour so that future generations can be safe.

Answer 3

I volunteer at a women's shelter so I assure you that their are places for you to go. The best thing to do is to get to a women's shelter when you feel ready to leave. You can call the police who can take you to the shelter, or you can look up the information for your local shelter (phone #only) or local crisis line at the front of your phone book and they can direct you to a contact number. Once you call the shelter, they will ask you some information and then they will tell you where to go to get there (shelter addresses are never made public for safety reasons). Gather whatever belonging you would like to bring with you (you do not have to bring anything if you are in a rush-they will have clothing for you and your child, any toiletries and anything you may need for your everyday living) and go. Some shelters (eg. transition houses) have limits on stay-eg. 30 days, but in this time you and your child will receive counselling, and you will be provided with every opportunity and assistance with housing, legal issues, etc. In addition, they will work to get your child into a nearby school and will provide child care so that it will be as easy a transition as possible (I work with the kids and we do everything from games to going out to IMAX). Also, with a child you should have your own room for the 2 of you.

Having the strength to leave an abusive relationship, especially with a child, is a difficult thing for anyone to do. You should feel proud of yourself that you are looking for options and will hopefully have the strength to leave.
Good Luck.
P.S. You can go to any shelter in the country, so if safety is a serious concern, you can go elsewhere-talk to your local shelter if that's an issue for you.

Answer 4

You can go to a women's shelter or a friends home. If you go to a shelter, you will, probably, have to meet someone from there to have them pick you up, or if you have a car, have them give you directions. Men are NOT allowed to know where the shelter is. If I were you, I would be calling the cops to file a report about him hitting you. And do NOT leave your child with him. Take the child with you. If you leave your child, he may take everything out on the child since you aren't there and then balem your leaving on the child.

While at the shelter, they will give you a place to eat and sleep, have you go thru classes/groups to learn about abuse, what to look for to spot abusers, and to help you heal. And they will help all they can to get you into your own place and to get a job.

You deserve way better than what he is giving you. He is totally disrespectful of you, your marriage, and women in general. You deserve to have someone, after you have healed from the abuse, to have someone that will NOT abuse you and will treat you as a queen, not as a piece of meat that is to be beaten. He is using abuse to control you. And he probably does it because he was raised this way and or because he has such low self esteem and to do this, he thinks, will raise it. I bet he is saying that you deserve it for something you did or didn't do. This is NOT true. NO ONE deserves to be abused in any way.

I hope that you get out ASAP, file for divorce, and stay away from this loser. Get your life back. If not for yourself, then for your child. Getting out shows your child that you do NOT deserve to be treated this way by anyone. By staying, a male child will learn to treat women this way and girls will learn that they should stay and be treated like s*it.

Answer 5

You don't have to take abuse from anyone, even if you have no family to go to. I would recommend you call Social Services, explain your situation and ask them if they can point you in the right direction in regards to finding a women's shelter, and some help in getting out of your marriage. you owe it to yourself, and you owe it to your child. If he's hitting you, it's one step removed from him hurting your child next, and you're the only protection that child has.

When you do leave...make it final. DO NOT go back to him under ANY circumstances, no matter what he threatens to do to you or himself, or even if he promises to change. He won't... and if you do go back the abuse will be that much worse. And the next time you even try to think of escaping, he will be watching your every move. And once you have left, NEVER EVER tell him where you are, or even agree to meet him anywhere. And always check when you're out and about, to make sure that he hasn't found you somehow and is following you.

Once you're free of your situation, you will be a lot better off and a lot happier.

Good Luck~*

Answer 6

Call the police.. then file a "family protection order" this is a restraining order that forces him to leave the house, and also pay child support for how ever long see's fit..and when i went and got the family protection order, (x bf that i had a child with was abusive) i also asked the judge to make him go to counseling and take anger management classes.. which the judge granted and he had to do those for a year..

Answer 7

OK well for one he done not care about you

in fact your not as alone as u think you are there are many support net works out there women's refuges and many others place where you can go to get help and also recover even if its only for the week end or a day there are place to go you should do a general search for place in you community you can go and i can guarantee you will be surprised how much help there is out there for you and you child

and remember all though he hits you child is not stupid they no some things wrong and whats going on around them and it will effect them in a big way to so that a big reason to get out and get help for you and you child

Answer 8

Go to a womens shelter. Look in your phone book in the yellow pages under women. Then when he is not around pack all of your belongings especially important papers and clothes and leave. Don't look back, just get the heck out of there while you are still alive.

Answer 9

Call 911 the next time he hits you or go to your local police department File for an injuction and temporary custody and support the same day he is arrested. I have been in this situation and it is scary. Contact your local womens shelter, they can provide you with support groups and legal help. If you want email me at [e-mail] if you need any help in finding resources or just to vent.

Answer 10

A woman's shelter they can help you but only if you really want to get help. You need too for the safety of your child just think what he could do to the child