I'm 21 and i've only been with my hubby for almost two yrs. we only dated a month b4 getting engaged. with the divorce rate at 68% it seems like people don't wanna work anything out and true love is dead!
2006-07-08 18:25:17 · 20 answers · asked by jojo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Consider yourself lucky.
2006-07-08 18:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by i_troll_therefore_i_am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hit the nail on the head. People do not want to work anymore. Here is a story for you to consider. Man meets woman and they decide they really like each other. Start dating and shortly after they move in together. year and a half later are married and loving life. They worship each other and everything is perfect. 5 years later third kid is born the world is wonderful and bright except for some post partum depression and bam all fo the sudden it isn't perfect anymore. They start to grow apart because of her depression and his response to it. Skip ahead six months sex is every now and then maybe she is planning on moving out to see if she can make it on her own not sure she wants to be married he is thinking thank god I can't handle her anymore and boom divorce happens...........or same time he says no I refuse to quit this and she pauses because deep down she isn't sure she wants out and one really poopy day of talking and crying later they find out a lot about each other and that even though for 5 and half years marriage was perfect and no work at all there are times it is and you have to work at it. People today as soon as it isn;t perfect anymore cut tail and run.
YOu said it people do not want to work at it and well you have to. Ask any long term couple honestly have there been bad times and they will say yes and if they say no then it is coming. The key is more good then bad and that will be true for those long term couples.
2006-07-08 18:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by NVHSChemGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm only 23 and me and my wife met in high school and have been together for 6years we have a 4yo son together with another on the way so i speak with some experience. As to answer your question its the old add age it will only work if both parties want to make it work and for a lot of people to stay with someone means responsibility a word that most young people run and hide from. As for love it takes more than love to sustain a marriage! its a commitment not only to each other for a while but for the rest of your life's its a statement to not only yourselves but others who see you that is ( I'm ready to settle down and move ahead with my life ). The other big BIG factor in marriages is money! it is one of the biggest causes if not the biggest causes of marriage breakups second to adultery. As i said RESPONSIBILITY for some is the problem. A old an trusted friend who has been married for 50 years once gave me the key to marriage it is called the 3CS that is
(1) COMMUNICATION
(2) COOPERATION
(3) CONSIDERATION
Without these no marriage can survive !
P.S my wife & i have also found reading the bible together in bed at night starting at mathew is invaluable!
2006-07-08 18:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by family guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when i was 18, had 3 kids in 6 years, and was divorced before 7years. I waited for the right one, married again, and have been happy for the last 22 years! You really have to work at a marriage......learn the word compromise, and if you do have an argument, make sure you are both naked!! It works!!! Hope you have a life long marriage, sounds like you are on the right path.
2006-07-08 18:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by Ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
older people stayed with their marriages even if the other person hit them because they were taught to obey their husbands and often didn't get any support from there folks because that's what they were taught to. Women these days I believe respect the sanctity of marriage but also respect them self's alot more because now we have income that sometimes is even more then our husbands make and now don't need support from any other source but themselves if they are getting abused or neglected. Also women are not looking the other way anymore. We used to pretend that our husbands weren't having an affair and now it is not acceptable.We expect a two sided marriage these days. If I put my heart and soul into the marriage then my partner also needs to. Love is not dead but it takes alot more then love to make a marriage work and most men still want to sit on the couch with a beer in one hand and the remote control in the other and scream where's my dinner b-tch.
2006-07-08 18:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years. I would say we are happy. We prefer to spend time with one another over anyone else. I believe the biggest factor in our marriage being as strong as it is is a common faith in God. There have been trying times but it has been worth the effort thus far. (My husband and I were engaged within 2 weeks of meeting and married the same year)
2006-07-08 18:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by Kim C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have been married 23 years.I'm very happy,he is also.It wasnt always easy but we made it work by comunicating our likes& dislaikes and excepting each others faults.There were some tough years in the middle.We love each other enough to give each other space and grow as people.Our most deep arguments have been over our children-(we have one of each) we didnt always see eye to eye on what was right for them.They are almost adults now and doing well-that tells us we did well.
2006-07-08 18:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by dymond 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are forgetting the concept of marriage, which is for better and for worse, as long as everything is going smooth they remain together, but with the first problem that comes their way, they cannot stand each other any more. Marriage was never easy, but these days couples do not want to sacrifice.
2006-07-08 19:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thank my lucky stars every day for my husband. He is everything I have ever wanted in a man and dont think I could ever be any happier. We have been married for 3 years and only dated for two months before getting engaged.
2006-07-08 18:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by CLS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been happily married for 5 years to my best friend my husband David. My parents have been happily married for over 40 years. I do not believe in divorce. I believe in death do you part only!
It is so sad that people would rather divorce than work on their marriage.
2006-07-08 18:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For better or worse, but let's face it - some folks just can't live together. You can work out only so much. When you get to the point where you don't want to share anything with the other person, it's time to go.
2006-07-08 18:33:27 · answer #11 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋