when anyone would tell you I do everything I can for him and our children.And would also say I'm the best thing for him?
2006-07-08 17:56:46 · 29 answers · asked by bree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
XXXXXXXXXX because you let him. It's time to stand up for yourself. STOP LETTING HIM LOWER YOUR SELF IMAGE. You deserve more. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-08 18:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is very insecure with HIMSELF. Maybe he thinks that he doesn't satisfy you in the bed. Maybe he doesn't have that much money. Who knows exactly but the problem is WITH HIM! You do not have to put up with it. You only live once! Do you want to be 80 years old still complaining about him? Do you want to think back to all the good times that you would've had? Do you think that you would wish that you could get those years back? Well, it's not too late. Give him an ultimatum, EITHER TREAT YOU WITH SOME RESPECT OR FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO BE HIS DOORMAT!
2006-07-09 01:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by meme1972 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a point of view , somewhere along the lines you and let him get away with it and so therefore you set it up like that . No amount of love is worth being degraded and made to feel like you're not important . I would first try to talk to him about it , but if that doesn't resolve the issue you need to think of yourself and have respect for yourself and do what it is that makes you feel proud of what you choose . Good luck !
2006-07-09 02:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by LarryTx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound exactly like me. My kids adore me, I have a good job, pay all the bills, schedule repairs for the house, make doctor appointments, etc, etc.
My husband has a job and he pays for the groceries and gas. He drinks every weekend night until he passes out. Before he passes out he picks fights with the kids and me. He screams and yells about the house being messy.
He is self centered and absolutely no company for me.
I think the real question here is why do we stay and put up with it?
2006-07-09 01:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by fasn8n_67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs help... and you letting him get away with it, doesn't help at all... Give him an ultimatum, and make him listen... men hate ultimatums, he'll listen if the ultimatum is strong enough...
Tell him that waht he does speaks soo loud you can't hear what he says. He needs to get help, and you need to get some boost on your self esteem...
Get him in therapy, or counselling, or even on Dr. Phil's show.
Don't take crap from nobody!
Expose him for who he is, and he'll have to learn how to treat you right! And doing everything for him does not help either... If he acts like a jerk, tell him you won't wash his underwear any longer.
A jerk doesn't like to be exposed cuz they feel like they're gods... and nobody but them is perfect.
He needs a reality check and fast!
A cousin of mine used to say this to me and I am thankful until today for it, everyone is equal because everyone in this world poops... to say the nice word...( that's not the one he used, though.) If nothing else, this alone makes us all equal.. so nobody can treat you like you're second class...
Woman, respect yourself, and he'll respect you !
2006-07-13 20:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U just answered your own question basically.. "i do everything for him" your a "doormat" and as much as men love having a woman wait on him hand and foot, your to nice, and well he treats u like crap cause he can and u let him.. you want him to stop treating u like crap... then stop always being so nice and stand your ground, he's gotten spoiled.. and what do spoiled "children" do ??? They throw tantrums and think they can get away with anything and thats what your man's being a spoiled little child..
2006-07-09 01:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let him. Stop being such a push over. People only treat you the way you let them treat you. I had to learn the hard way. It is not until you leave and show them that you are not kidding that they will take you seriously. Let him find out the hard way how just how much you do for him.
2006-07-09 01:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by sleeplessdreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let him. Stop the abuse, and leave him. He is teaching your children to become abusive in this ver same nature, and it is only going to get worse. Leave him before he starts hitting you. You try to treat him good and he doesn't appreciate it. One day he will hit you, and you will try to make up for it by saying that it was only this once, and the next time you will try to find another excuse, and really the whole problem is with him. Please leave him don't become the victim, and don't subject your children to this abusive behavior.
2006-07-09 01:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesn't know how to be a husband. You need to talk to him and tell him how you expect to be treated. As long as you say nothing, he'll continue to treat you like this. If he won't change, you'll have to decide whether or not you're willing to put up with it and for how long. I put up with it for too long, and then I left him.
2006-07-09 01:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you deserve much better! Secondly he may be having an affair or thinking about one. If he feels guilty he may get angry and irritable with you. Or he is having some problems of his own and taking them out on you. You do not deserve this treatment. Go to counseling and try to work this out. If you cannot work this out then maybe divorce is something to consider.
2006-07-09 01:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by doryanne949 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he is a fool and does not appreciate a good woman, OR he wants you to be especially bitter in the divorce and go after everything including the family jewels.
2006-07-09 01:02:48 · answer #11 · answered by bigrob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋