My husband recently forgot our 15th wedding anniversary. I was upset all day. Then I finally instant messaged him and let him know what day it was- I didn't want to call him-I knew if I heard his voice, I would've started crying- after I hinted at what day it was- he didn't even apologize for forgetting. My Mom and Dad and brother have all passed away....my entire family, and when he forgets to do anything (at all) for what I feel are special events, I just fall apart...what should I do and/or say to him?
2006-07-08 17:45:04 · 6 answers · asked by Ms. Teri Date 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know you must have been really hurt and with good reason... So you may not like my response but please just listen first... Try being very loving and into him and please him in all ways you know you can........ At the right time tell him how you feel about when he does something like this...... And continue to be everything special to him....... It should never happen again after that....... He should treat you like the P R I N C E S S that you are.......... WOW! 15 years....... That is so great....... I hope the very best for you and him........ IT is not about laying on the guilt as the first man said, it is about treating others especially our husbands or wives the way we would want to be treated.... Love and genuine desire to see someone happy goes a long way for all people.........
2006-07-08 20:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by ~ Lavender ~ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think most men feel the same about wedding anniversaries as women.
It's not that you are unimportant to him, men are not as "emotional" as females.
Don't let it upset you - that's their make-up. Give the guy a break, he probably works very hard to earn money, pay bills, keep food on the table and other things.
If it's that important to you - next time, put a little "note card" on the front door (or whichever door he leaves out of, when going to work, or, on the steering wheel of his car that says: Today, is a special day . . . do you remember what makes it special about today?
Hopefully, it will jog his memory, if not, drop it!
Make those days that are "special" just for you, since he is busy working."
Go to a spa and get a massage, take a female friend with you.
You and your friend can have a "day for girls," maybe take in a movie, have a nice lunch. Have as many women friends to do something with on those "special days."
Don't make him feel guilty - he doesn't need that burden - neither do you.
I hope this helps.
2006-07-09 00:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well either there born romantic or they are not . you could make sure you have plenty of big calanders and mark dates and nonshlatly point things out
2006-07-09 00:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by juls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be romantic to him. Surprise him with flowers and such. Lay on the guilt that away.....
2006-07-09 00:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by Coach Schreiner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go hiking
2006-07-09 00:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by boardbiker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have pills for that
2006-07-09 00:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by singing_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋