Should men be allowed visition if they cant pay support? My ex has been trying to get full custody of my 7 yr old since he was born. he was ordered to pay $33 weekly, and we have joint custody. He owes me almost $5000 if you do the math he hasnt paid in along time and im not talking about getting 1payment here and one payment there(he has filled for disability). The last payment I have recorded is in april 2004. And he hasnt bought but 3 paird of pants and 2 shirts1package of sock and underwear for school, and not school supplies. And right now he has a lawyer to try and get full custody. Is there a chance he will get custody? And do you think there should be a law that requires dads to pay or they dont get to see thier children? P.S. I think the reason he wants custody is so the portion of the ssi check I will get for my son, he wants to keep it for himself. And he isnt the one that wants my son its his mom pushing him. He has his head really far up his moms rear its sick!
2006-07-08 17:38:31 · 8 answers · asked by h0w U liK3 m3 n0w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless he can prove you extremely unfit its extremely doubtful that he can get custody granted to him, especially when he's already proving his unfit by not paying his child support and the judge will see that.. as far as visitation, they are looked at as two totally different things, you have to let the man have visitations with their children reguardless if he's paying support or not, its very important that a child have a bond with both parents and money doesnt have anything to do with that issue, so i hope for your sake you havent been keeping your child from him cause that would make you look very bad in the courts eyes..but i wouldnt worry about the custody battle, Judges dont like taking children from a environment that they are already a custom to unless its in the best interest of the child meaning that your unfit.. so dont let his threats scare you.. Good luck..
2006-07-08 18:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
For him to get custody he has to prove that the child is better off with him. The courts don't care about you or your ex their priority is your son. Get a lawyer that can make you look more fit then your ex. Court side with the mother on most things so you really have the upper hand, but play your cards wisely and Good Luck, honestly I don't think there should be any more laws against men. I understand your anger, but remember most women abuse the system in there favor, children are pawns in this game, lets stop focusing on parents and get back to the real issue the kids, how do you think kids would feel when they can't see their dad because mommy filed support. Kids don't play the politics he'll see you as the person who took his father away.
2006-07-08 18:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Dad I can tell you that I feel that the child is also his, and he should be able to see the child. As a person with morals, I think that he is a loser, and should be ashamed of himself. The real answer here is to report him to the state for not paying the child support, but since he is filing for dis-ability, they probably cant help you get the money owed in arrears.You need to ask what he can provide for the child if he is awarded custody. Is his lifestyle ant better than your own? if not you probably have nothing to worry about, but you should seek an attorney anyways.
2006-07-08 17:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, visitation is a right of a parent and NOT a money or "mother or father" issue. In other words, a parent has (mother or father) the moral and human right to see their own child. HOWEVER, if they DONT PAY child support, they should be TAKEN TO COURT, so that the child will have the financial support and lifestyle that THEY deserve. A CHILD DESERVES to live the BEST life his parents can provide. Period. Not allowing the child to see the father(or mother) will only breed resentment in the child-especially as they get older. Don't do that! Have his checks GARNISHED BY LEGAL ORDER. YES!! Your child deserves it! Make him PAY, but do NOT do it by USING your child and withholding visitation! TAKE HIM TO COURT, DO IT THE RIGHT WAY! Ok? Oh, and DO allow him to see his child. Later, as time goes on, the CHILD will see his father's TRUE character -for who he is- and the CHILD will determine for their self if he/she wants to see him! Really! In order for him to get full custody, he would have to prove that he has the more stabile(financially, emotionally, spiritually) household for the child, does he?
2006-07-08 18:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by C J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is trying to get ssi how can he be able to care for a child thats what the judge will probably say i cant see him getting custody unless he has some proof of you being a bad mom and being that he owes thats going to look bad for him as for his mom she needs to take aback seat your the mom and she is just grandma things most likely will work in your favor just make sure you keep the house clean food in the frig clean clothes on him and keep him clean make sure he goes to school on time everyday homework is done and so on and continue to record everything dad isnt doing law some men that dont care for their kids dont need to see them but its all about whats the reason you cant pay out the ones that just dont want to no you cant see the kid the ones with hardship financially let them see the kids in your case nothing probably is wrong with him he could just be lazy so no he should stay away i say
2006-07-08 17:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't paid child support...he has very little chance of getting custody. If he cant afford $33 a week...how the hell is he going to care for a child full-time. I am very surprised he even found a lawyer willing to take his case. I would find a lawyer and prepare myself for a battle(grandmas can be such a pain in the a$$) More than likely...he will decide its not worth it and give up...most of them do when they realize that a custody case takes on AVERAGE one full year from start to finish!!GOODLUCK
2006-07-08 17:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, their relationship sounds sick, but you shouldn't punish the child if he wants to see his Dad. The fact that he's going to get SSI won't stop his child support requirements, and if you are not an unfit Mom, don't worry about his attorney. His Mom will stop his actions if she knew that she will be taking care of the child.
2006-07-08 17:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a lawyer and then your lawyer can show the judge that he didn't even pay the child support that he was supose to pay so then therefor how can he take care of the minor child. It will work it did for me and it will for you.
2006-07-08 17:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by wh1tedragons_g1rl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋