2006-07-08 17:30:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me.
2006-07-08 17:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you feel bad and he's repeatably hurting you that's also a form of abuse. Don't be co-dependent on any one. Be strong the worst hurt is for some one to hinder your soul, that just stunts your growth in spirituality. Sometimes we believe we love someone only because it's in the now, maybe physically or you think of all the good times. If your in your teens you are still experiencing life. Dust your feet and walk away from your so called boyfriend. Don't try to grow up so quickly you have plenty of time of that roller coaster of emotion. Just be a kid enjoy getting involved in whatever you like perhaps cheerleader, sports, band,,join a youth group, whatever it may be. Don't consume yourself with a guy . Right now you think you love him maybe it's the challenge that is the thrill you need to figure out if you want to continue to fill hurt continuously, he obviously doesn't feel the same way towards you and not nearly as serious about the relationship. Maybe you are infactuated with him ?
2006-07-08 18:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Nay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound uncaring, hon but people can only do to you what you allow them to do. Real love is not supposed to hurt over and over again. I'm not sure who it is thats hurting you but if you keep letting them get away with it your setting a pattern to be in these kind of relationships the rest of your life. Learn now while your still young that you are important and worthwhile and don't take crap from anyone. Prayer always helps give you peace , courage and strength all you have to do is ask the Lord to help you. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-07-08 17:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by chitchenitza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sounds like this fellow has got you jumping threw hoops to make him love you. I bet your feeling pretty hopeless, huh?
There are no easy solutions when you find yourself in love with a man whose way of relating to you is destroying your happiness.
The cleanest advice is to stay as far away from this guy as you can and I know that you'll have to make some pretty difficult choices.
Perhaps, in your own value system, the good things about the guy and your relationship make staying in it worth the negative stuff he throws at you and I sincerely hope that's not the case.
I would be dishonest if I didn't add, that the chances of this guy changing are pretty much nil.
I sincerely hope that you will examine your alternatives and get back in control of your life. back.
2006-07-08 18:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have loved someone so much and gotten hurt by them over and over, but I finally got so tired of crying all the time and hurting that I had to end the relationship.
Its not good for you to be in this type of relationship.....it will ruin or drag down your self eestem sweetie and you deserve so much better than someone who is gonna hurt you over and over. You are worth respecting and loving and if this person cant love and respect you then he isnt worth your time or worth having in your life.
I ended a two year relationship with someone I was with because he treated me like dirt and in the end had no time for me in the least and he verbally abused me as well, so for my own best interest I had to leave him and walk away.......was it easy? No, but in the long run it was the best decision ive ever made for myself.....I got back my self respect and am a much happier person now as well.
One day the right one that God has choosen for you will come along and he will treat right like you deserve to be treated.....with honesty, respect, love and understanding......dont you ever settle for less because you are worth all of what ive mentioned and more.
I wish you the best of luck and will be praying for you.
2006-07-08 17:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by wendyceline2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES...and they never get how much you love them and what I ended up doing was turning around and ended up getting over him and now I am Married to a wonderful man. The guy that was hurting me ended up getting me pregnant and denied my kids till this day.
2006-07-08 18:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by mamiotwinz2ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, we all have at one time or another. The real question is, do you keep allowing it? Once someone hurts you, the healthy thing to do is LEAVE! You'll eventually get over him/her. You don't want to allow abusive behaviour toward yourself. Not ever.
2006-07-08 17:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your co depenant, you live with in a triangle, ( surrender, victom, hero ).... How about just being your self. Force your self every day 5 mins not thinking about "it the thing your not suppose to talk about" then next day add 5 mins to it. keep doing that until its gone.
Also LOVE is not hurt, you asked about is not love its more like "obsession".
2006-07-08 17:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by K D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i been in that type of situation but if you feel that the person is continually hurting then its just time to move on because if you let that keep you down your going to stay down so keep your head up
2006-07-08 17:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Mia, Love is blind though. Hang in there and go on.
2006-07-08 17:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by debranealman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋