Band from your own culture?

Question

Ever felt like you don't belong with your race anymore?

I'm Hmong-(not many people heard of us) My boyfriend is white. My high school Hmong friends and I don't keep in touch anymore, my own family doesn't keep in touch anymore.

I feel like all I have left here is my wonderful boyfriend and his family.(which feels like my own family now.)

It's been so long since I've associate myself w/ my own race-so when I finally do bump into my kind-I feel weird around them. Is that wrong of me?

Answer 1

Nothing is wrong with you. If they are judging you because you got involved with a whitey, then it's their problem and it's not surprising you feel uncomfortable. Unfortunately to get something wonderful, sometimes you have to give up other things. Most of the time, families come around in this type of situations -- they will just miss you too much!

Answer 2

I know some of what you feel. Growing up African American, Black, *****(and some hate the name)I hardly felt I had any identity. Based on what I learned from school, social conversations and the media. the only identity I really seen was victim. It was alway as if someone or something had to come save Us, or be there to even out the score. When I had friends that were Hispanic, Asian, Middle eastern. I was somewhat envious. They had a culture. Like you, they knew with pretty much certainty where their people came from. Be it Costa Rica, Kuwait, Honk Kong, etc. People would ask if I knew where my people were from. What could I tell them? The only thing I knew was where they were from, here, in America. I could not tell you where in Africa my people came from originally to save my own soul. Don't know what native tongue they spoke; Swahili, Mandinken, Tutsi pretty much a crap shoot at this point.

Here I never really embraced the Black lifestyle I guess. I didn't like Soul Food. Fried chicken was not my thing. Soul? R&B? I was hard rock all the way and later heavy metal. I loved tennis more than basketball. Can't dance. Don't really like it much anyhow. So when the bruthas and I got together you can guess who felt like the fly in the ointment. Finally I just said I had to do for me, and if they could not make cool wioth that. when I do my thing, I do my thing, they do theirs. then when we have something we do together, then we kick it.

Maybe you and your b/f should invent ways to do things with both sides of your union or bring them together.

Answer 3

You have to do whatever it is that makes you happy, if you are happier where you are and don't want to associate yourself with your race, that is your choice you shouldn't feel guilty about it. By the way what is a Hmong? Just curious.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

race means nothing this world is full of people. I mean they may look different but we are all just people. Maybe its not the race you feel weird around but the people.

Answer 6

nope just move on becase it sound like they dont accept your new life so they dotn want to be a part of it so then that is why you would feel weird. It isnt your fault

Answer 7

yeah intil you can get use being around your own culter again its
going to feel strange for a while

Answer 8

race means nothing, people are people, i dont look at skin color.

Answer 9

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