I'm 13 and i have not been on a date...i dont even talk to girls on the phone ....am i a loser.is this common

Answer 1

It's common. I was 16 before I ever kissed a girl. I got made fun of a lot, but now I have the love of my life. I'm 26 and life is good. The best thing to remember is that NOBODY your age knows a f*cking thing about dating, sex, intimacy, or even themselves to be quite honest. The best advice I could POSSIBLY give you is the following:

Hold off on sex as long as you can without going out of your way to be a freak (ie. 65 years old). Eventually it will happen naturally, never force anything...slow and steady wins the race.

Secondly, forget pornography...it's complete crap and it will rot your mind. You'll end up like so many worthless men who can't please a woman beyond a one night stand.

LEARN about yourself, journal as often as possible and confront every single fear you encounter...you will defeat all of them, that is what you are here for. When you are done with the preliminary self discovery...you will happen upon love and you will be five times the man that you ever thought you could be. And she will be ONE LUCKY GIRL!!!! Women deserve the world, learn how to be someone who can give them what they REALLY need. Girls your age have no idea what they even want, let alone need.

Peace be with you my friend. Write me if you have any more questions, I'd be happy to share. I hope this has helped.

Answer 2

Everybody is on their own personal road and you are not a loser or a winner @ age 13 (OR 18 OR 28 or 38). Don't be so quick to assume that everybody else is cooler, happier or luckier in love than you. Enjoy this time as these are the days to make mistakes and learn from them. If I could tell you the one thing I know as an adult that I didn't know @ 13 it's that nobody remembers ALL the stuff you worry about. A girl laughs in your face, a bully punches you, you split your pants ... nobody remembers so it's ok to fail, it's ok to use this time to truly figure out who you are. MTV and the rest of the media is WRONG about almost everything ... it only seems as if EVERYBODY is hooking up, or getting wasted. Let love and sex come to you as it always does, just when we least expect it. You can learn a HUGE amount about girls and women by being their friends. Watch the choices they make, and how they think. Over a lifetime this knowledge will get you EVERYTHING you desire. Slow and easy as it's a long road and living well is truly the best revenge,

Answer 3

I am 17 and I remember the "good old days" of the adolescent years. I remember being 13-15 thinking I was so ugly and unnatractive because guys didn't like me. But you have to know that the older you get the more girls will be interested in you. Guys weren't seriously interested in my until I was about 16 years old. That's when I met my boyfriend of almost a year now. So yes it's common to never have gone on a date or have talked to girls on the phone at age 13. You're still young. You're not going to kill over over this.

Answer 4

No you're not a loser. Yes it's very common. Feeling idiotic and awkward is universal for 13-year-olds. That said, since I don't know you, I'm not sure which specific scenario fits:

You may be gay, in which case, you're having trouble with girls because you're not really interested in them in the first place. You're carrying on with the charade out of social obligation. At the same time, I don't want you to jump at the idea of being gay, because wise man say, "show me gay 13-year-old, I show you confused teenybopper."

Or you may be very, very straight but just not brilliant with the ladies. Unsurprising, as I don't think it's possible to be smooth at 13. Basically, the idea is to talk to girls without letting the thought "I want to have sex with you sooo baaad" dominate your consciousness. You need self-discipline before you even begin to talk to ladies. If and when you get that, be interesting, funny, confident. And don't be mean to the fat chics. They have hot friends.

Another likely scenario is that your parents don't want you dating/talking to girls. Which sucks. What would suck more, though, is if they were cool with you calling girls, and you had no girls to call. Just remember, you can always get around parents. Don't be deceived, they have no real power.

Don't forget, your real worry is not being able to seduce women. That's what this is all about. Now you're a man and must learn how to seduce women. You start knowing nothing, and that sucks, but if you keep at it, you'll learn quick enough. By 18, you'll know a thing or two, and with luck will have lost that darn virginity. And by 23, you will be a master of the art of seduction.

So get to work! The survival of the species depends on it!

Answer 5

You're only 13 so give yourself a break. You probably won't be getting married for a very long time. Any relationships you have between now and then are just practice. I wouldn't worry about it too much. I didn't go out on a date until I was 16 and didn't get my first kiss until I was 17. But at 22 I got married and have been married for 9 years. So, hang in there. . . You'll figure out this boy/girl stuff eventually.

Answer 6

You are not a Loser.. You have a Lifetime to get a Date. There is no hurry because there is no competition. As a mom I do not think I will let my son who is 6 at the moment go on a date until he is at least 16. Responsibility is a big issue for a privilege like that. Take your time... Who gives a rats behind what others think?
You do your own thing...

Answer 7

No you are definitely not a loser. You're 13. You're allowing yourself to be influenced by the media or your peers that are all telling you that you have to be dating now or you're not cool. That's so so far from the truth. Girls and women will be a big part of your life later on...for the rest of your life. Enjoy being 13 now while you can. Enjoy being free of the stress that goes along with relationships and sex and all that. It'll be part of your life soon enough. If anything, hold it off as long as possible.You won't regret it.

Answer 8

Dude I'm 24, ur not a loser. I didnt start checking out girls till i was 15, I was always too busy to get caught up in them. Its better not to worry about it and let it happen when it happens dont push an issue that can definitely wait. I am married now. So dont listen, to the children who call you gay cause your not showing them attention. they are just jealous. Life is great man live it up while you can, dont worry about the girls they will come, just dont worry about it. It will happen when it happens remember that.

Answer 9

You're just not ready to date. The want for contact will come when you think you can handle it. If you're unsure of yourself and feel awkward talking to girls, everyone is when talking to the opposite sex...though some people are better at hiding it than others. You're no loser.

Answer 10

You're not a loser. You're only 13, what's the rush? Believe me you've got plenty of time to start dating. Some men simply take longer to find a woman that they are really interested in. You'll know her when you meet her.