What do you do when guys physically abuse you?

Question

here's the thing, i play around with my guy friends.. in the beginning its always fine.. but then.. they always play rougher.. it almost feels like they think im a toy that they can literally throw around.. they're stronger than me.. i cant stop them even if i scream they still continue.. they carry me.. play too rough.. it almost feels like im being raped.. and i cant do anythin about.. then.. sometimes my other friends are around.. and its just humiliating :/ what do i do?

Answer 1

I'd just confront them about it right away, before it happens again.
If they continue, I'd drop them. Are they really your friends if they keep violating you? You scream, yet they continue. Are you certain that this will not lead to rape some day?

I'm not violent, but you insist on being friends with these jerks, and they cease to stop, an alternative is to treat them the way you would if a stranger physically assaulted you - they play rough, you take them out.

Tips-
Eyes: Press your fingers and thumb together, forming a beak. Slam it in your attackers eye.
Nose- Use the palm of your hand to hit your attacker in their nose.
Throat- Notice the curve on your hand where your thumb meets your index finger? Slam it into your attackers throat. That area will not give way, hit them there and your attacker will choke.
Groin- An old classic. After hitting your attacker and throwing them off guard, kick them there to finish them off.

They key to fighting back is to hold nothing back. You can't show mercy, only brute force if you value your life if you find yourself in a situation of physical assault. Once you disable your attacker, knock them to the ground and kick them in the face, neck, and groin. Scream at the top of your lungs.

Answer 2

Find yourself a new friend! You said "it almost feels like I am being raped"? Playing or not that is completely wrong! If you are feeling violated or humiliated then you already know this is wrong.

Learn to respect yourself, demand respect, require respect.

You are NOT an equal physical match for a guy to fling around. Much less for a guy to treat you in such a manner that YOU feel is descriptive of "rape".

Horsing around is a normal thing that guys and girls do, but in your own words you used "rape, abuse, humiliation, and too rough" to describe this playing around.

Surely you do not equate physical abuse with friendship?

What do you do? Don't engage in horse play with this guy not another time.

Answer 3

TELL SOMEONE. That sounds like simple assault or sexual harassment. If they were your friends, they would listen to you, especially if you scream. Listen, your are right, these "friends" see you as a bit of a girl toy that they can do whatever they want to. If they really love/like you, you will tell someone, even if it is the police. If they have ever forced you to have sex or anything like that, it is rape! You have got to report them to someone. if your friends have been around, use them as witnesses to the lewd acts these boys are commiting on you. No "guy friend" is worth the trouble they put you through. If you still want to see them, next time you are around them, bring a bottle of pepper spray and let them have it. That should tell them you are serious. Still I think its best to talk to the police and avoid them altogether so you wont have to deal with them.

Answer 4

Men take women's not speaking up as a "YES" in all things. You need to practice saying "NO" with friends or a brother / sister until you find your "voice" and then before it starts you must say "NO" and keep saying "NO" until they get it. It is assault and you should tell them this. Violence against women is our fault as men but you can stop it too by letting men know that you will not accept it even in play. By allowing it, you are teaching them a lesson that other women will suffer from too.

Answer 5

First off, guys like that have no respect for you. A respectful man is gentle with his lady and would not even think of doing a thing like that.

You have to defend yourself and if I were you I would consider turning them in. You are going to end up getting hurt very badly if that continues. I do not understand why you want to contiue to hang around someone that hurts you like that.\

If it really is as bad as you are saying, I think that you should consider pressing charges as well.

Answer 6

Say "Stop, or I will scream rape," or "Stop, or I will kick you in the n*ts." Say it like you mean it, then if they still won't listen, do it.

I had a similar problem. I am assuming that you are young, and that these guy friends are probably getting some cheap thrills from doing this to you.

Answer 7

Well, I would suggest being careful about who you play around with, or about how you play around with them. Don't take this like I'm a chauvinist pig or anything, but guys can be a bit tougher than a lot of girls, and sometimes they don't realize that.

Answer 8

RULE NUMBER 1
NEVER EVER play fight with guys...they tend to go overboard they just don't know when to stop...You NEED to tell them they are hurting you and you DO NOT like it and you want them to stop RIGHT NOW....after that you should NEVER play fight with guys ever again...oh and don't say it all whimpy you have to be serious or else they will think your playing look them straight in the eye DO NOT break eye contact and tell them what I said above.

Answer 9

well first of all you need to stop playing like this, and second you can call the domestic violence hot line on them or of course the police, but if you start playing like this then maybe they think you want to be rough, so watch what you do

Answer 10

Let them know! These are guys you're talking about. When you let them know that you're having fun when you play around with them, they keep doing it, sometimes harder than normal. When you tell them to stop they think you're kidding around because more than likely that's what you say when you gently play with each other. Let them know it hurts, or stop hanging out with them.