opinions on a husband who controls money, wife has no job or money of her own?

Question

married almost 15 years, never this way until about 4 or 5 years, had a job then, got sick had to quit, then the money became his

Answer 1

The key word here is "CONTROL". This is not a marriage, it is a prison sentence. Time to rethink the situation, and get out of dodge. Trying to control someone is actually a form of abuse, and it shouldn't be tolerated by anybody, male or female.

Answer 2

My opinion of a husband who controls his income while he does not share it with his wife, who has no job or money of her own? Ummm.... This is not a marriage. This sounds like it may be an unhealthy father-child relationship, and some serious counseling is needed. In the meantime here's an idea: Find out what the annual salary is for all the jobs you are performing (cleaning, cooking, yard work, taking care of children....) and submit your bill to him for every year you have been with him. Might work. If not, get busy and take a job outside the home. Former stay-at-home wives and mothers have a gazillion corporate skills and can become some of the most valued members of any workforce. Best wishes for a more fulfilled life!

Answer 3

Money is one of the big subjects that should be discussed before the wedding. I know it's a little late for that now, but you could tell him how you feel, and ask if you could at least discuss as a couple how the finances are handled. Explain that it would be very important to you in case something were to happen to him, you would then know what needs to be taken care of on what dates. This would be very important for more than just the obvious reasons. He may not trust you enough to handle money, and you'll need to prove yourself worthy. This could very well have to do with how he was brought up, so don't take it personally. Take things in small steps, prove yourself trustworthy, and keep communications open with your husband.

Answer 4

Our opinions will not help the situation. If you knew this about him before marriage, then there was no way it was going to change after marriage. You need to take whatever he gives you and start your own personal account with the mail being directed to a family member, (parents). Get a part-time job if he don't want you to be a full time wife. Just don't fully rely on this man.

Answer 5

Why would someone be married to a control freak like that, and why doesn't the wife get a job....Please, dont tell me it's cause the hubby won't let her....that's REALLY a control freak there.....

Answer 6

I don't work. My husband works but we do manager, all the money that comes in. Yeah, i wished that i work, but we can't afford a second car. Their is nothing wrong, with your husband controling the money. If you really want to know, what's happening to it. Just get involved. If you want to know more, just email me at [e-mail].

Answer 7

My husband is like that I am a STAY AT HOME MOTHER W/2 KIDS AND IF I OVER SPEND HE THROUGH UP I AM THE ONE PAYING THE BILLS NOT YOU. BUT IF I TRY TO FIND A JOB HE FINDS A EXCUSE FOR ME NOT TO TAKE IT. THE HE STATES THAT IT S OUR MONEY NOT HIS BUT FUNNY THAT ITS HIS WHEN HE WANTS TO COMPLAIN ABOUT THE WATER BILL ARE THE NEW SHOES I BOUGHT OUR DAUGHTER'S . BUT ITS OK WHEN HE SPEND 20.00 ON A FISHING PLUG

Answer 8

Uhmmm its his money, she doesn't work, unless of course she's watching like 7 kids or something. Otherwise, its his money.

Answer 9

GET OUT OF THAT CRAP OF A RELATIONSHIP! nobody deserves to be treated like that. i did it for 5 years and im glad i dont put up with his sh*t anymore!

Answer 10

he is controling you,wants to know exactly what you are doing!you get $$ you get independent,right now you are in prison,get a job,get out,robin