In general, I can never have girl friends. They wind up hating me no matter how nice I try to be. Most of my friends are guys. Why?
2006-07-08 16:51:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's been this way since middle school and I am 21 and in college now.
2006-07-08 17:00:12 · update #1
I can flirt with my boyfriend if I want to... there is nothing mean about that.
2006-07-08 17:01:04 · update #2
Ohhh sorry that said THEIR bfs. I don't do that.
2006-07-08 17:01:34 · update #3
could be a lot of reasons. I once found myself in the same situation, only with me it was guys not liking me and girls did (I'm a man). It could be if you are a very attractive person you are intimidating to other females, or they are jealous of you (and beware if you are an attractive person because people will befriend you to try to do some kind of physical harm to you), Then again, it could be that you're not attracted to other girls personalities and find it more fun to be around boys.
I always had the best time being around girls (not sex per say, just having fun etc.) Then again it could be that you are or are going to become a Christian. The Bible plainly says that those of the faith will be hated without reason. Sounds to me like that could also be your case. I would recommend a book for you to use. It is titled HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE by DALE CARNEGIE. It works.
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2006-07-08 17:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by aguyinthewoods 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I've had that problem before. It hasn't come up in a while, but I know where you're coming from. Could be competition. Could be that people get annoyed when they see flaws in others that they too possess. I'm not talking about physical ones. More like character.
Could you possibly enjoy the company of guys more because some girls talk about crap that is just empty and redundant? I've had to search for girls with an equal insight as my own. Guy friends (overall) are not as judgmental when it comes to the people they chill with.
2006-07-08 17:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman and I have the same problem. I think it is because women look for too much drama, they like to gossip and stir up problems even if there really isnt a problem to start with. It isnt you, they are just jealous of you for some reason, maybe since you fit in with guys more that could very well be the reason. Maybe you are everything they wish they could be.
2006-07-08 16:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by c g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember my grade school thought about separating the boys from girls in math classes. Their justification for doing that was that boys were generally more competitive, and girls were more cooperative. I was in only in 6th grade, but this sounded like a joke to me then. Girls are just as competitive as boys, if not more so.
Maybe the boys are just more interesting to YOU right now, and you're not needing girlfriends? Maybe it isn't how the girls feel about you, it is a direct reflection of how you feel about them.
2006-07-08 16:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by azheelshock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't flirt with their boyfriend, don't talk about yourself, be an encourager to others, compliment them, don't put others down ,don't be competitive about clothes, boys, grades, etc. You look old enough to have figured this out! Do whatever you haven't been doing!
2006-07-08 16:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it is my lack of trust in other women. I was raised by an abusive jealous mother. she taught me to be mistrusting of them so my past at temps at friendship were in vein. When I realised where the source of my pain was, it changed everything.
2006-07-08 17:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Suzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be any number of reasons. Perhaps they are jealous of you for one reason or another: looks, personality, intelligence. It may even be because you relate so well to men. I wouldn't worry about it too much. You can't please all the people all of the time after all.
Good luck to you.
2006-07-08 16:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by moonwatermuskoka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty normal. I see it all the time. Be yourself and try not to be a threat. If you don't have friends that are girls, then it's not meant to be.
2006-07-08 16:57:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not about being nice, but being yourself. If you are true to who you are, people worth your attention will become apparent.
2006-07-08 16:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are just immature and don't have the same interests as you and when you get a little older, people will mature and people will be more willing to be your friend
2006-07-08 16:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋