Im a 22 fem, I and never had sex b4 now when i fool arond with guys i dont wana have sex because i dont want them to no that i am, BUT i really do wanna have sex now i just dont wanna be embarresed
1) would they even find out ?
2) what do i tell them
2006-07-08 16:51:50 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Anyone that spells as bad as you and can't even use spell check, should not do anything that may result in reproduction.
Do not further pollute the gene pool.
2006-07-22 16:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
if he is a real man he will love the fact that you don't sleep around, but unlike many before me have said I would not wait til I was married unless you are a very strong person because you may wonder if it is any different with someone else. Just use protection and be careful. Plus the fist time you have sex it will hurt so he would know anyways. Just tell him it's better for both, plus he can be gentle and reduce some of the pain.
No matter what anyone tells you, your first time will not be all that great.
2006-07-19 01:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having sex with the right kind of guy -- i.e. a guy who actually gives a damn about you -- he is not going to mind that you are a virgin. You should be honest, especially since the first time can be pretty painful if the guy doesn't take it a bit easy.
But no, they won't necessarily just "know" that you are a virgin. You are likely to bleed, but can pass that off as menstrual blood if for some reason you think that's preferable for them (some men don't mind it). Nevertheless, you're better off waiting to have sex until you've found a guy you actually trust.
2006-07-08 23:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a 22 year old virgin. Congratulations. I truly think that having sex for sex sake is a mistake. You need to find the kind of guy who respects you for what you are. You need to have faith in yourself that sex is not love. Love is so much more fulfilling than sex. Sure sex is great for the moment; but love endures all that life has to offer. Having sex at this time is not the answer. Finding someone who really loves you and is committed to you with all your faults is a much higher expectation and will ultimately allow you to have a much better future with someone who really cares about you and what happens to you.
2006-07-22 12:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by bertojame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt have sex until you have found the right person...and trust me you'll know when its right because it will just feel right. I had sex the first time when I was 18. I had lots of boyfriends/casual dates before I had sex but it never seemed right to have sex with any of them. Then I met my boyfriend and we had sex 3 wks into the relationship but it just felt right to do it with him...it was both of our first times and it was amazing. We've been together for almost 4 years. He's the love of my life.
I wouldn't just have sex with any old person, I would save yourself until marriage or someone comes along that you really care about and who cares about you the same. Also I would tell them you are a virgin because like everyone else said, if they can't deal with that than they dont deserve you.
2006-07-20 23:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by rattieluvr84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest because its not a pleasant experience and if your lover knows he will be more gentle than usual. Its simple look into his eyes and say you are my first, if he chooses to stop respect his decision, he if asks if you're sure be honest. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin all women are until they experience the joys of intercourse. As to the decision to wait for marriage or not that's your decision and yours alone, if you do and you're not sexually compatible its a long time to not be enjoying what comes natural. It is possible to lose your virginity and not make a sound however if their is blood and its seen its obvious however not all virgins bleed and you could be lucky....my advice is be honest loving someone enough to share yourself requires utmost honesty.
2006-07-22 23:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre using plural tenses here, like "guys". First off REAL men don't like a gal who sleeps around (or in your case fools around), And the fact that you are a virgin would be a PLUS for most people, it shows that you have respect for yourself, and are waiting to find the right guy.
2006-07-09 00:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by ↓ImWithStupid ░░▒▒▓▓ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whomever the lucky 1st guy is going to be, tell him to take it nice and slow. You don't have to tell him that u r a virgin, he'll not find out. You should try to find a guy that doesn't have a Horse weenie though, better to start small (better to be safe than "sore-eee)Snugness may be an issue.
2006-07-20 05:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by sparky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what my current girlfriend did and tell your boyfriend that you are a virgin and that you would like him to teach you. For me, this means that I have to be extra careful and as I found out, I may have to have lubrication to help. I would wait until a weekend and have him take his time allowing the two of you to explore.
2006-07-09 02:10:03 · answer #9 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people would be proud that they saved themselves this long.. what is up with you.? why would you want to hide it.. tell them the truth. but if this truly is your first time.. it needs to be a caring... good person.. who will respect your feelings emotionally and physically. other wise it could be a traumatic... experience. i would not be with just anyone after all this time.. it would be someone i deeply care for..and i am sure cared for me. if this is what you want to do ..good luck
2006-07-22 17:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone and someone loves you that is all that matters but coming from one such as myself guys may find it as a trophy of sorts but also consider it extremly wonderful and gentle as well as not rushing into things.
2006-07-19 16:40:16 · answer #11 · answered by theamericanbombers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋