How can I get my 13 yr old daughter to sleep/wake at regular hours?

Question

Going to bed at 10 versus 2am. Waking at 6:30am rather than 12:00pm

Answer 1

At 13 you really need to put your rules in place now ! I lost money with my child because she tried to control my home , I'd say no Tv after 9 pm , no phone , no food , no no anything and when I'd go to bed and wake up to her being up , I stopped how ever I could , TV was a little hard , she'd turn it low , so one day I broke it ! Then locked up the phone in my room , she got a phone from a freind , ok I placed a locked cover ( the locks for thermostats) ,Yea , I went the full rounds . 10 pm would have made her happy and why can't you get her up ? She may not be happy but morning is morning not noon ,She needs training now or school , work habits will not be there and you'll have a 22 years old cursing your out , telling you to get out of her room ( in your house ? ) Not happening .Kids don't get the rights of the Adults , they don't carry the responsibilities either. I sent one of my children to boot camp , he's a wonderful man , finished school , works , respectful ,etc.,.My daughter just received her master degree at 23 years old . But as teenagers they ran me as much as I ran them ! I didn't play that I have rights , the right to leave . More and more parents are allowing themselves to be walked over .Social Services and police can help , I know it's not that bad , she's a good girl , hope she has only sleeping problems .

Answer 2

The important thing to take into concideration is her diet. Make sure your little one has nothing sweet to eat after 2pm. ( I saw this on Dr. Phil ) Make sure that she gets no soda or candy or anything with caffeene in it after 2pm.
Have you ever observed kids after a birthday party on the ride home. They pass out before you leave the parking lot. You've got to engage her in some physical activity to deplete her energy. Take her to the park, go for a walk together, climb a tree, take a swim etc.
Another thing, get rid of all those things that can hinder her "Come Down Time" If she's got a t.v., vcr, dvd player, phone or playstation in her room take it out. These things and get her wriled up agian.
She's 13 so she's not a tiny little person anymore. Let her know that sleep is very important and that her current sleep habits are'nt helping her still developing body and brain. Place down some firm rules about bed time. Tell her that she has to be in the bed lying down by 9:30-9:45pm, no buts. Let her know that there are rewards for good behaivor and punishments for bad behaivor. It's gonna be a little tough mom because she's gonna whine pretty hard. But that's why you're the parent and she's the child. Stand firm by your decision and get your hubby ( if applicable ) to help you.
Hope this helps at a least a little.

Answer 3

What is motivating her to stay up until 2 AM? Television in her bedroom? Take it away. Computer? Move it to another room in the house where you can better monitor her time. Wake her up at 6:30 AM regardless of the time she goes to bed. Make her get up and get moving for the day. A couple of days of this, she will realize that you are serious and will be so tired that she will go to bed earlier.

Answer 4

Waking up at 630 may be pushing it. If she's staying up on the phone,watching TV, playing video games, on the computer, etc. Give her boundaries. Not necessarily a bedtime since it's summertime but say that you can't talk on the past like 10 or so. Something to that effect. That's what my parents do.

Answer 5

6:30am is a little too early, unless it is during the school year and she HAS to get up that early. You are the parent and you need to have a set bed time for her. Even when my step-kids were in high school my husband made them go to bed by 10 pm on school nights and by 12 pm on Fri & Sat nights.

Answer 6

OMG!!!! that USED TO BE ME!! i'm still 13 about to turn 14. but these last few weeks i've been going to sleep at like 2am and waking up at 12 pm i guess my hormones are starting to kick in.

Answer 7

Give her some nyquil....then make her wake up at 7:00 for the next few weeks...make her do stuff around the house and do not let her sleep during the damn day...trust it worked for my mother when i was going to sleep at 6 and 7 and waking up at 11.

Answer 8

thats a good question I'm the same age and do the exact same thing. The only thing that gets me up is going somewhere. If it is getting in the way of stuff then you got to just set the rules down like you would with anything else. If it is not getting in the way, then just let it be, it is probably just a phase.

Answer 9

She'll stay up. Look at meee, i'm 13 have a laptop and I'm up till 2 in the morning with no one knowing ^^

Buuuut, you should take her phone everything away and tell her it's time for bed. But, then again it is summer, you should let her stay up longer than usual. This time seems long but for us kids it isn't. We need our time to enjoy it before we're off to ''work'' again.

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Answer 10

could be chemical imbalance. i am a kid and can't sleep. i have insomnia and go to bed at 4 or 5 am. even if i am worn out i can't turn my mind off. i wake up around 1-3 pm. i have to take medication.