My best friend just reacently got a bf, I don't have one and I want to be able to hang out with her, but if the 3 of us go out somewhere its like they are on a date & im a tag along. she doesn't want to spend time with me because its time she could be spending with him. How can I be friends with her without having to get a bf so we can go on a double date. Help... shes my best friend and I don't want to lose her!
2006-07-08 16:36:18 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Boyfriends can come and go! Best Friends are forever! I have been friends with my best friend for 27 years. When you or your friend meet the right man...he will accept each others friendship!
Give your girl some time to see where things go. If she is happy...be happy for her and let her know it!
2006-07-08 16:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no fun being the "third wheel", it's an uncomfortable place to be, I know. If you really value this friendship, then talk to your friend about it, let her know that you miss the time you used to share before the new bf came into the picture. Choose a day that you can call "girls nite out" and let the boyfriend stew at home for the evening. Or maybe you can invite another friend (male or female) to tag along when you go out with the couple, make a party out of it. If none of these options are "agreeable" to your friend, then she wasn't really a friend to begin with.
2006-07-22 04:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by gorfette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her best friend and she surely knows this fact. What you need at this time is patience. She has now a brand new best friend, whom she wants to impress, and win over. It is totally a new expwerience for her. So allow her the time she wants. Maybe that would mean, you being lonely for some time, but make the sacrifice for some time. Meanwhile, you can keep your communication going, throught he telephone. Share in her exitement about her boyfriend. Let her know how happy you are for her. When the newness of her relationship wears off, she will slowely come back to you. A boyfriend is in no way a substitute for a best friend,
2006-07-21 20:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by dark and beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but usually the bf or gf gets all of the attention. Tell her how you feel and how you want to spend time with her without having to go out with him as well. That might not work though just wait until you get a bf and see who you spend all your time with.
2006-07-22 10:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her, open to her (isnt she your best friend???)
she should ask her bf to take you all on a double date where he will bring some of his friends (you might find ur match) and if you do not want too. then you have to accept the fact that your quality time with your best friend is going to go down and even though you are lonely, you should be happy for her. best friends does not mean being together 24/7 but being always there especially when needed
2006-07-21 07:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by dark_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have to respect that she has to have some time with her bf but if yyour really important to her than she will realize that you are also her best friend and she needs to hang with you...tell her how you feel but dont say it in a rude way and make sure you get the point across her that you dont want to lose her....â¥
2006-07-22 16:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by pretty_in_pink787 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my case im the best friend with the bf. my best friend is also having prombles with us not spending girl time togethter. i told her that we will never stop being best friends no matter what happens. and i also told my bf that yes we are dating and spending a lot of time together but she is one of the most important people in my life and if he can not handle it than he needs to move on, but my bf is very understanding and told me that it was ok with him and he understands that we have been best friend longer than we have been dating. everthing will work out just give her a little time to get used to the idea of have a bf and everthing will go back to normal. good luck
2006-07-21 20:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by possum4885 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have other friends besides her? don't just stick to one person to be best friends with. I know you want to hang out with her and she will sometime but if you let it be and live on she'll want to spend some time with you. Now since its a new relationship she needs to get to know this guy as much as she can. if he aint her type then you'll be back hanging together looking for guys.
2006-07-22 14:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by da skoolar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, give her a break. This happens all the time in relationships. Let her adjust to the newness of having a bf , then she'll come back around. Take Care.
2006-07-21 14:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by Padme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cared for your friendship she would make time for you too. She sounds silly and young minded to me. What is she going to do? Smother her new b/f to death? Tell her it is normal to have some girl time every now then. If she does not get it then leave her a s s where she stands and move on with your own life. She'll come around when her new b/f starts sweatin her for some much needed space!
2006-07-21 09:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by Oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋