My older brother is geting married to this girl next week saturday, I've tride to get along with her, but she seems to push me away. I've tride eveything, talking to her, inviting her to dinner, I even made her a cake in april for her birthday, but she seems to try and ignore me, but she only does this when no one is around, when shes with my brother she acts kider towards me. What can I do so she can stop doing this, its really annoying and I'm beggining to dislike her.
2006-07-08 16:10:31 · 21 answers · asked by Lucy R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do not know about you, the girl and the respective families, so whatever I am writing here is to give you another perspective. This is neither a judgment, nor is it binding.
You can stop being possessive about your brother. Maybe, you are afraid of losing him to this woman, so you are trying even harder to please her. The things you are doing is actually precipitating the problem. You know nothing about the girl (how she was brought up, whether she has been through some physical or sexual abuse which can give her a notion that men are actually like dogs, eager to sleep with any woman on the slightest pretext, etc., or may be she is sub-consciously attracted to you, who knows?). So you are to choose whether to avoid her, or talk about this when only your brother and would-be-SIL is present. Most important, let her and yourself go. Neither you really need her, nor does she, you. So, why should you bother.
Remember that society (laws) has given more sanctions to conjugal life than relationship between brothers. So it is more important for your brother to be happy to be with her than it is for you to develop a relationship with her. Move away from the two, and the problem will heal itself with time.
2006-07-08 17:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by Rajib B 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you told you she is hurting your feeling? If so tell your brother. Make it a family discussion. After all she seems like she is going to be there for a while. Try to make things right.
2006-07-08 23:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Candie2398 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've tried everything... Honesty is always the best policy though, that sounds corny, but it's true... Before your brother gets married to this girl, you should probably tell him how you feel about her and how you two don't get along.
2006-07-08 23:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha its nice to know that I am not alone in this world .. I am going through the same problem. My suggestion? Keep doing what your doing. Although she treats you like crap keep on being sweet to her. It will annoy her. You can't make someone like you. Some people are just rude and don't accept people. If she keeps on just stop doing what your doing and don't have anything to do with her. Theres not alot you can do.
2006-07-08 23:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have posted it sounds as if she has made judgment that she doesn't like you already. i don't know all the details but what i can say is try talking to your brother and see if he has any insight. if not i wouldn't waste my time on someone that cant be a decent person to you especially when they are joining your family.
just my opinion though.
2006-07-08 23:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by lost in thought 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just come out and ask her what the problem is..You have tried everything to be nice to her but she just won't accept you...Tell her Look we are going to see alot of each other , if you have a problem with me tell me what it is because I want my brother to be happy
2006-07-08 23:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be mean,but just treat her the same way and see if in time she comes around. Just remember that when him and her start having problems she's gonna need your advice and you'll either want to tell her that's her ******* problem or you'll be the nice person and help her.
2006-07-08 23:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to get along with her, just your brother. Just don't worry about her and ignore her. Make her think you don't care if she likes you or not. Like I said your brother is the only one she needs to get along with!!!!
2006-07-08 23:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mention it to your brother or just ask her why she has a problem with you. it is difficult to do, i've learned from experience, but it will pay off in the long run. and who knows, maybe you will become like sisters or somethin like that.
2006-07-08 23:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by generalgrievous16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what it is she doesn't like about if there is something she doesn't like about you and then try to be as nice to her as you can sooner or later it will come around to her that you been nice to her and she has no right to be mean to you
2006-07-08 23:16:37 · answer #10 · answered by ferretboy_ferretkid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋