Is It So Terrible to Have Morals?

Question

Simply because a person has morals does not make them a religious fanatic or old-fashioned.
With the media throwing sex into our TV shows, commercials, news, music, and movies ever 6.1 minutes, (just throwing out a number), doesn't anyone see it takes away from the special meaning of sex and rots the minds of our youth?
Is it wrong for parent's to hide this sexuality from their children, or should they allow them to immerse themselves in it for life experience?
What do you think?
It is healthy to talk to your children about sex, no question about that, but what are the right and wrongs ways to do so in your opinion? Sex has a deeper meaning than just instant gratification for some people, right?

Answer 1

i'd like to vote your question as one of the best i've read. its not only extremely important that we have morals, and more importantly that we teach them to our children.

personally, i find nothing wrong with the old school way of bringing up children; there was a definite line between adult and child. things have gone terribly wrong as some parents cannot seem to discipline their chldren for fear of being arrested. too many parents don't have the wearwithall or backbone to be parents. children seem to think they've got entitlement and there's some misconception that they're equal to their parents or other adults.

there is so much disrespect between parents and children, children and children, adults and adults. too many parents have lost control or just plain given up the right to parent because they're too busy trying to be the child's friend. in raising our children, i made it very clear that there were definite roles, rules of the house, respect of all elders, respect of other people and their belongings, respect of each other and by no means am i their friend...i have my own. i cannot parent effectively if i'm trying to be my child's friend.

parents are way too busy today with work and home, plus the number activities they involve their children into, its no wonder they can't communicate. there is way too much external interference. the tv has truly become the IDIOT BOX with all of the foolishness that serves as entertainment. parents allow their teens to live behind the closed doors of their rooms instead of carving out as much time as possible to just talk and visit...check their kids out.

your comments about sex are right on the money...its not just an act however, and unfortunately all of the smut on television and in other forms of media/entertainment cheapens an interaction that has much more meaning. these kids that jump into don't know what they're jumping into especially when the act results in a pregnancy or a transmitted std. as much as i would like to believe that prevention is everyone's responsibility, i have to agree when its said that since the girl has the most to lose, she should shoulder the responsibility of not being saddled with something she doesn't want.

talk is healthy.....we're way past the time to start healing our families.

Answer 2

It's never terrible to have morals, just so long as you remember that everyone else has a different moral system than you.

Our culture has changed. There was once a time where ankles were considered provocative. Any woman showing off her ankles to just any man was considered a whore. Ankles!

There was once a time that bathing suits were full on Suits! It was a totally concealing outfit. Now a days women run the beach wearing what looks like three eye-patches, and we think nothing of it.

The view of sexuality has changed in this country, and will continue to change. I say, teach your kids about sex, but teach them the consequences of sexual activity. They live in a world of STD's, and single parenthood; teach them that sex has a physical and emotional consequence. Teaching them about sex should be a lesson in personal responsibility.

In modern day America, your child will learn of sex far earlier than you want them to. You are the only one who's going to teach them responsibility in regards to sex, no one else is. Not the media, not commercials, not television shows, not the school system; only you.

As Americans, we no longer live in small towns, secluded from Hollywood, and the big city. We have mass media, Internet, and television. Your child will be exposed to sex no matter how much you struggle to hide it from them. The worse thing you can do is deny that sex exists. If your child can not trust you to give them the truth, they will go to some one else to learn it; some one you don't want them to learn from.

Teach your children responsibility in regards to sex. Don't teach it as something dirty or wrong, that will only destroy their sexual relationships in their adulthood. I can't tell you how many people I've met who can not function in a sexual relationship because of sexual guilt. Also, the more wrong something seems, the more you deny something that appears pleasurable yet naughty, the more desirable it becomes. It's best to stick to reality, and don't make such a production out of it. Your kids will learn about sex, if not from you, then from some one else who won't bother teaching them responsibility.

Answer 3

I agree with you about the media. They have made sex cheap and thrill-less although a lot of people feel like they are getting such a thrill from it but if they are honest with themselves after it is all done and over with they still feel an emptiness inside. People really should only have sex if they are married and mainly in love with one another because this type of physical pleasure is not complete if there is no love. When I talk to my kids about it I will make sure I emphasize marriage as that connecting bond for sex. If they make a choice to have it outside of marriage I will make sure I emphasize the consequences of it i.e. std's and heartache.

Answer 4

I think it's important to be open about sexuality.

In my baseline belief system, judgement against homosexuals for their orientation is plain wrong. I believe in equality in races, genders, and those of unconventional sexual preferences.

There are TV rating systems that allow parents to monitor their children's 'consumption' of less-than-wholesome material if they wish, but our culture is becoming more sex-centric.

We appreciate intimacy on several levels.

I think honesty is the most important thing of all. I'd love to see all parents to be candid and honest with their children, even if that's not what their parents did for them.

Sex is a big part of the media because it's a big part of life. Remember: we create the media we consume.

Answer 5

It is wrong to hide it.

Turn it to your advantage by saying this isn't what a loving relationship is all about.

It involves a lot of other issues and connections than a mindless romp in the sack.

The trick is not when to talk to them but how much info to give them. If their eyes glaze over, it's an overload.

You need to keep open the lines of communication and have them speak to you on this issues without fear of repercussions or laying of blame.

Answer 6

I agree with you...however, it's impossible for a parent to hide it from their children...they will learn things from other kids. For example, if your kid goes to a friends house, you can't control what they're watching on TV.
hmm...If I had to talk to a child about sex, I would have to encourage self-respect, not abstinence, since that doesn't work anyway. If a person respects themselves, they'll be less likely to seek approval and popularity by engaging in risky behavior.

Answer 7

The Media is rotting away the minds of our children and youth for Big Bucks! I have two young teenagers and I don't have television in my house.

Answer 8

You can't have a civilized society without common morals. Too often immature people want to do away with morals and just do whatever makes them feel good. This will always faill. To quote a song I like "You have to stand for something or you will fall for anything."

Answer 9

No it is not terrible to have morals. It is far better to have a serious relationship with the right person than one night stands. There is a time and place for sexuality.

Answer 10

I agree, and best thing to do is find age appropriate books and videos to help you explain things. nothing wrong with having morals and morals does not equal religious fanatic