My boyfriend and I been 2gether for 4 years. We have a great relationship and lately we have been talking about having a baby. I'm 27 and he is 29. Right now I'm on the pill and when make love I sometimes tell him not to pull out and he does. When he is about to he pulls out so fast you he makes me think he most don't want to even have a chance I might get pregnant. It looks like we will be 2gether 4ever but I'm so sad that I want a baby, he said he do to but yet b/c we haven't set a date to start trying he have to pull out so fast the way he do. What's the reason for that?
2006-07-08 15:42:25 · 6 answers · asked by Keylove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know that you feel as if you will be with him forever just the way that you are now. But if you really want to have a chance of keeping him forever, then maybe you should get married first. No, dear, you shouldn't leave him just because you think that he doesn't want to get you pregnant. But don't you feel as if the both of you are old enough to make it legit and then start a family? I'm telling you, the chances of him marrying you after you have his child will drop drastically. I think that y'all should do the damn thang first, and then start a family. That way, at least you know that he will be there for you because chances are that if he rushes into something that he may not be ready for- having a child- he'll run away anyhow.
2006-07-08 16:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the he is pulling out fast because he doesn't want to get you pregnant necessarily. Sometimes when a guy has to finish he can't really control it. Sometimes there is no warning and he just has to. Guys don't orgasm the same way girls do (obviously). I just mean its a little more intense for guys...
I also think you should talk with him about you thinking that he pulls out fast is because he doesn't want the baby... He may be trying to please you. If you guys have a great relationship and are thinking about getting married or at the very least having a baby, this is the kind of thing you should definitely be able to talk to him about. If you don't think you can, maybe you should think about you relationship with him. I would want my girlfriend to be able to talk to me about anything...
Communication is the basis of any great relationship...
2006-07-08 15:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by mauijim323 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is some thing the two of you have to have a serious talk about as to were you go from there. It is best to lay your cards on the table with him and see what happens. Having a child is a serious business and you both have to be sure that he wants a child. For you don't want to be left with a child and he is not around.
2006-07-08 15:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't ready to have a baby yet. Give him some time to adjust to the idea and get comfortable with the idea of making a baby. Don't rush him into anything.
2006-07-08 15:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get off the pill...no no no, just kidding...honey, just talk to him, communication is the #1 key in a relationship, and this subject is very crucial, just talk to him! It won't kill you nor him to talk about it.
2006-07-08 15:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is scared. set a date if you really want to start a family. just remember, nothing is forever.
2006-07-08 15:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋