We stopped talking months ago because we had a very huge, very public fight. She moved in with her mom a few hours away and we hadn't spoken in months. I got a phone call today, and she was acting like we never even had a fight. So, should I let my old best friend back into my life?
2006-07-08 15:05:38 · 18 answers · asked by semper_fidelus07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you have to ask, then no. I doubt your fight was pointless, it was probably over someone really important or something. Was it the drinking thing or the sex thing you were telling me about? Don't let her back in, it took you this long to get her out.
2006-07-08 15:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by ooh_rah07 4 · 6⤊ 4⤋
It depends on what the fight was about. You said this has happened months ago. (more than enough time to cool down) You said you got a phone call and she asks as if nothing happened. You have to think about what is going on within yourself. Months ago... and you still remember. Are you saying you are holding a grudge? Or are you saying that she owes you an apology and instead of doing so she calls you like as if you and her has always been in contact. Sit and think things out and be careful of what you do. If I know what the fight was about it would have helped.
2006-07-08 22:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right, and it's something that you miss, maybe it's worth considering.
People argue all the time, and often friends are driven away from eachother, and step onto paths that lead in opposite directions. As cliche as it sounds, I think it's true, that paths do cross over for a reason.
Maybe you should talk it out with her, and settle your differences, and then see if you can work things out from there. After having a good lengthy discussion with her about it, you will see the situation a little more clearly, and make the appropriate decision.
Good luck.
2006-07-08 22:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Medicated Harmony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... look back on the fight... what was it about? how did it start? Think about it for a while. If you think that she will stay forever loyal to you, as your best friend, then forgive and forget. However, if you don't think she will be a good friend, then just tell her that you don't feel comfortable yet, and that you need more time to heal, because you're still feeling bad about the fight. It all depends on how you feel about the situation. Good luck!
2006-07-08 22:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by yankee_fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let her back in my life until we had "cleared the air" about what the fight was all about, and you felt comfortable that the likelihood of it happening again was very low. Of course, all your responders and I are assuming that the fight was your friend's fault, but you didn't state anything real clear about that, so, maybe you need to come clean with how you caused the fight, or both. But don't get back together without "clearing the air". God Bless you.
2006-07-08 22:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should at least talk to her about the fight. if the fight was about something that hurt you or you her, you two need to resolve that first. If you two can truly get pass the fight and all your short comings, start off slow. Maybe she'll be a friend for life.
2006-07-08 22:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation, and I mended things because we had a bad falling out. But to be honest, the damage has been done. We're not best friends anymore, and I don't see it getting any better. If she didn't acknowledge her blame in the fight, nor if she apologized, it's probably not worth it.
Try hashing it out. Bring up the fight and see what she says and decide for yourself if continuing the friendship is beneficial to you.
2006-07-08 22:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Stephie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a best friend that I have had since I was 10 yrs old... if she and I were to get into a fight then we would have to work it out... if she and I were to get into a fight over me screwing her husband then that would be a different story...
Don't let a long friendship go bad b/c of some stupid fight.... If the fight is something minuscule than fuggetaboutit.....
Talk to her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-08 22:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by xxxcariooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should, but talk about the fight and ask if you 2 are ok now. If she was a good friend and u don't want to let her go, ya be friends w/her.
2006-07-08 22:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in hindsight the fight wasn't over basic values, then why not?
If it was a trivial, forgetable fight, forget it friends are hard to find.
2006-07-08 22:09:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think u should let her bac n ya life i mean friends get n2 it err now an den but good friends r hard 2 find an she probably came bac b/c she notice she was wrong
2006-07-08 22:11:43 · answer #11 · answered by Queen B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋