how can i get my husband to have sex with me?

Question

i feel like he's lost interest,can i make him fall in love with me again?

Answer 1

buy sex toys
buy porn
rub his thingy
stuff like that

Answer 2

There are a number of reasons men start ignoring their wives in bed.

For example, though women try to deny it, there are many women who routinely use sex as a weapon or punishment for obedience in all things. As a man gets older, and his hormones drop off, he may decide it is not worth dealing with your nasty games, and say to heck with you, I don't need it any more. My best friend told his wife it was all over, for that exact reason, and that was over ten years ago. Note that I am talking fiftyish, not twenty-five.

A wife who becomes obese is another cause. I am a 64 year old man, and last year when I lost 35 pounds with the Atkins Diet, it was definitely an aphrodisiac FOR MY WIFE! She actually was the same % overweight that I was, but it looked worse on me.

Yes, some say adultery is a cause. But, I have read books on this, and some wives report when the husband starting having an affair, he actually wanted it more at home as well. Now, that's disgusting!!!

Definitely physical and mental problems can be connected with loss of libido. Drinking; drug abuse; cardiac problems; and more. Depression is closely linked with such problems.

Serious marriage problems can cause this as well. If there is a lot of unpleasantness between you, a lot of bickering, and you have been married a while, he may not care any more. Again, this is more likely among older men.

Have you asked him right out why he doesn't want you any more?

If you can find no other cause, and if you can talk to his doctor, you might mention it so he/she can screen for depression.

Answer 3

go buy you the sexiest and flimsiest outfit you can find(not no Victoria Secret, it gotta be hotter than that), play his favorite music when the time for him to come home gets close, make sure that all blinds/curtains are down so that the neighborhood cannot look in. Pretty yourself up like you used to when you dated him, perfumed body lotion, perfume(his favorite smell, then wear that hot outfit under a see through bathrobe and greet him at the door---in fact, if it is possible for you, open the door for him when he comes home---never mind the candle light dinner which is romantic too, but I truly think if you do that your husband would have to be an eunuch not to get the hots for you again....Good Luck

Answer 4

First, don't jump to conclusions. Then set aside some "private" time for the two of you. If he doesn't respond, talk to him about it. I don't mean 5 minutes after lighting the candles and he's still sitting in front of the TV start arguing with him. Wait a day or two.

When you talk to him, I would start by asking him is something is wrong. Maybe he's stressed out, or something physically wrong...

Keep in mind men's feeling get hurt easily if they are reguarding "performance"

Answer 5

he has the answer not the web but from my own experience i worked 60-70 hrs a week i was horny all the time then went to 36 hrs for weeks i was depressed about bills job u name it any thing i couldn't control i worried about and my wife did her thing in bed even ask straight out and i told her it was me not that i had lost interest in her my mind wouldn't get up and keep it up but talking about it did help both of us but did not satisfy her so she did but i did come around ,women think the worst of everything so it could nothing or it could be TALK if that don't work do you're thing in front of him to get a reaction u may get sum action.

Answer 6

My suggestion is do something sensuous at first. Make a romantic setting and focus on stimulating his senses. Don't focus on sex but do some massage, nude preferably, tickle him with a feather, drape silk over his body, try different sensations and in no time I am sure he will become aroused...then , I hope, you know what to do...

OK, so that is my husbands response....
here is mine: let him catch you pleasing yourself, men satisfy themselves all the time, but what a turn on it is for them to watch a woman, especially if he thinks you don't know he is watching!! Start with a sheet covering hardly anything and as you get heated, loose the sheet....once you have his full attention (and you will!) asj if he likes what he sees...invite him in, but only to watch, tell him he can look but not touch, keep him at bay until he is raving. undress him, do a little dance, touch him, but dont allow him to touch you....you are in charge, makes sure you tell him that. continue to vocalize how excited you are....keep him on the edge, push him over it and bring him back to the brink. When he begs for it, or throws you down with aminal passion, let him take charge. Play the submissive one.....

Ok my lovely lady is onto somthing, screw the therapeutic response above (unless you think its that desperate)...instead, tell him your deepest fantasies...that you want to sleep with another woman or another man or whatever..."with him there"...I guarantee you that he will get excited at this..I can get very far simply using language...get him turned on and then give a great *******...lol...that should do it..

Answer 7

It's time to get kinky baby! Experiment and try new things! The same old thing gets really boring really quick! There is lots of ways to spice things up! Hubby and I have been married for 13 years and sex is still GREAT!!!

Answer 8

Try to look back in time and look at the love you acted out when you first met. But people also change, so you must be attentive enough to figure out what he likes and dislikes nowdays. But try to regain the initial passion you guys once had.

Answer 9

Set things up ,(mood ,music,etc.),like back when the two of you were most active.
Your hair,revisit a place where there are fond memories of intimacy of the past.Try to bring to present day the memories
of the days when you were head over heels in love.

Answer 10

Go buy some toys and use them in front of him to turn him on, if that doesn't work then he's up to something. How long have you been with him? What do you look like? Maybe someone needs to teach him????????

Answer 11

ask him what really get him hot and be honest with you. tell him to feel comfortable with you and open mined ,he made be hidding a sercet that really turns him on and afraid to tell you what it is,if a guy can feel comfortable in bed with a woman and both open mined ,what a great time for both of you ,then tell him what turns you on the most,then let the good times roll!