that you though that was yours but now if definitely yours nows, makes the comment to the mother. I want to see the child on his 18th birthday( the child is 7) and complain that he don't make enought money he a disablity vet. he get a vet check 1, 200 monthly. constanly make excuses about money and visitation rights/ and say over and over I loved you once. Should one just drop the entire case?
2006-07-08 14:45:27 · 7 answers · asked by birdsdafly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No -- the child did not get to choose his father (obviously) and didn't ask to be born into a loveless relationship. At the very least, he deserves to not grow up with the added hardship of having to work twice as hard in order to afford to support the two of you.
Take the loser to court. Get at least something from him so you and the child can have a little less stress in your lives. If he doesn't want to be involved in raising the child -- you're honestly better off for it. Don't try to force the issue, because the slimeball will resent it and will wind up talking about you negatively in front of the child -- or worse, being abusive toward the child.
Don't talk down about the father to the child, either, even though you are hurt and frustrated and can't comprehend why the guy wouldn't want to know his own flesh and blood. As a disabled veteran, I'm sure he has a lot of psychological issues related to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder; but if he's not getting adequate treatment, he may wind up self-medicating with alcohol or drugs like many do.
With any luck, the man might get help and have a change of heart. So be honest with the child when the questions are asked, but don't provide more details than the kid can handle -- try to be age-appropriate and add details as the child matures. Then when the 18th birthday comes, the child will be able to make an independent decision on whether to pursue a relationship with the "sperm-donor".
It is hard, but you are the primary role model for the child, and must take the high road and forge ahead in your lives with dignity.
2006-07-08 14:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you'd be doing more fighting and battling rather than solving anything. You should let him know that if he's not a part of your child's life now, what makes him think that the child will want him in his life when he's older? Good luck though, i hope things work out, especially for the child's sake.
2006-07-08 21:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look hon my advise is take his backside to court. period, men they think the ride is fun but don't want the responsibility that comes after, and money isn't all, emotional and psychological support are necessary as well
2006-07-08 21:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by diva anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he's not living up to his responsibilities, he needs to support the child regardless.
2006-07-08 21:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ron T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One would learn how to talk first....very difficult to follow what you're talking about....
2006-07-08 21:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by whymeallthetime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just shunning responsibility!!! What an ******e
2006-07-08 21:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Arvind C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess so
2006-07-08 21:52:53 · answer #7 · answered by likeskansas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋