My man has done some things that have caused me to question if he is bi-sexual or not. Pinching other guys on the butt for example. How do you know the signs.
2006-07-08 14:24:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me first apologize for some of the very misleading advice that you'll find here.
Then, say thanks to those that put forth an honest effort to help others.
Asking your husband may only end up in a fight.
A man (especially one that is married, in the closet, defensive and/or has been seeking homosexual relations) can react violently when his sexuality is being challenged. Society has made men think it is not "manly" or tough to be gay. So, asking him may only get you into a fight.
On the other hand however, if you can find a way to ask him if he'd like to "experiment", you may be able to cojole him into telling you some truths about himself.
There is one thing you can do that can be a tell all.
Rent a Gay Adult video or a video that has Gay scenes.
At you local Adult book/toy store, you can find videos with everything in one picture. Look for something with "bi" or variations in the title. If he gets hot seeing two men having sex, then you know he's at least curious and bi-sexual.
During those scenes, put your hand on his penis and see if he is erect. If so, ask him if that turns him on. Now, don't ask him like your a bad cop looking for answers after drinking nine cups of bad coffee. Ask him like you're a high paid call girl and just made $4k and are just looking to make him happy. Use your most sultry voice.
Now, if he admits it turns him on, then you've got something to go on. Now you can SLOWLY find out what about it turns him on. Is it the "man" part of it? Is he turned on by Masculine or Feminine? Some men are attracted to other men, only if that man is feminine and/or even girly. Some men, like to be with MEN. Hairy, tough manly men.
This may take you a few weeks, go slow and don't scare him. If you do, you may never find out.
If the Video isn't your style, be inventive and try other things.
When you're at the mall, find a handsome man and ask your husband if he thinks that guy is sexy. Not attractive or good looking, but specifically... SEXY. Pay close attention to his eyes and his reaction.
Get a male fashion catalog and show him underwear you think are sexy. Does he get an erection?
Also, if some of this pans out to be true and yet he doesn't seem homosexual to you..... there are other situations here.
For instance, he may just want to be feminized.
Some men like for their women to Feminize them. Dress them in panties, spankings etc. It can go as far as some men like their women to penetrate them analy with a strap on phallis.
Though not viewed as normal in our tight a$$ society, this can be fun for both partners and satisfy his desires and give you more control in the relationship.
Now remember, it doesn't make a man gay, if he likes to have as anus penetrated. It makes him aware of his prostate.
What makes a man Gay is if he likes MEN.
BTW: pinching a guys butt doesn't mean a thing.
Cupping a man's butt, well that's another story.
Also, you have to ask yourself what you're comfortable with.
If it turns out he is Gay, well then.... there's only one thing to to.
Hook him up with a boy and let him go.
If he's Bi-sexual, then you have the most difficult decision: can you let a man into your bedroom to sleep with your husband?
If he wants to be feminized? Well, that's easy... do it. You'll find it fun too. Put on your strap on harness, dress up like the husband, make him up like your girlfriend and go to work.
I know this all seems a bit brash, but that's only because you're out of your known world. If you love your husband, try everything before giving up.
Good luck to you...
cheers
2006-07-10 03:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry Stems 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
If you really feel you have enough to suspect something, then Ask and demand an honest answer.
"IF" he is having bi-sexual relations he is exposing you to unknown risks. You have a right to know and he has a responsibility to tell you.
Before challenging his sexuality, just try to make sure it's justified. Pinching butts isn't normal, but not all men are Mr. Macho either in their mannerism. That in itself doesn't make them Bi or Gay.
2006-07-08 14:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dale P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my man put his hand on another guy's butt, unless he was wearing a football uniform and the other guy had just scored a touchdown, I would know he had an interest. Who turns their head the fastest when a good looking guy walks by, you or him? Does he open the Playboy or Playgirl? Sounds like you probably already know something, ask now. Do you need to walk in on him and another man to believe what you think? Ask now. If he says yes, then you have to deside what you will and will not live with.
2006-07-08 14:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can just ask him. And you can just sometimes tell. I had an ex who was bi. And I knew about it at the beginning of the relationship, cause I asked. Just ask casually. But he shouldn't be pinching ANYONE on the butt, except you!!
2006-07-08 14:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dakota 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With every man and women there lies homosexuality, in some it becomes dominant, everyone at some point of time in life shows these trends, so it is quite natural to see such actions and you dont have to be anxious . but anyway you can clear your doubts by asking him during your best time when he will be happy to share his idea, i suppose that it would if you convince him to share his sexual fantasy.
2006-07-08 14:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by ramesh n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your man tell you to turn him over and do him from behide...yes he is on the DL. If you have on one of your sexy outfits and your man tells you that pedicure is tight...yes something is wrong. Watch him...keep both eyes on everthing he say and do. One more thing if his bestfriend does not like you for no reason that "YOU" know of.... and they spend sooo much time together "playing ball"....yes there is a problem.
2006-07-08 14:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by pruitt.c@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's into threesomes(and the third is a man) and there r parts in which u r out of the picture.
2006-07-08 14:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by scorpion prince89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. If you're married, or at least being intimate, you have the right to know. If he isn't comfortable talking to you about then there's something wrong.
2006-07-08 14:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by kasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shove a dildo in his butt and see if his moan is pain or pleasure.
2006-07-08 14:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Liquor Sick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him straight up,when your alone together.
2006-07-08 14:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by kents411 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋