for all the pessimists out there!?

Question

i was recently a pessimist and now I'm trying to look at myself in a new light... I made a list of all my good qualities and all my bad qualities. the good qualities greatly outnumbered the bad qualities but I've been thinking now for some time that I'm an awful person. Why is it that someone like me can be so awful to myself and never notice?

Answer 1

it's easier to wallow in your self pity, self loathing..being postive requires mor energy, a new thinking...just think about it-isn't it easier when things are crap to just keep feeling negatively rather than coming up with a solution? that's just the way most of us are...but we have the ability to rise out of those situations, one way is through prayer/meditation to a higher power, whether it's God or whatever you conceive him to be, you should turn to him daily asking for the grace to heal the hole in your soul coz there's nothing greater than his uplifting us....and keep asking him for that power, that strength....it's easier for us to keep worrying rather than praying..but when we worry, it just kills us, our time here on earth...you need to have a shift of focus from the problem focus to a prayer focus...a God focus...prayer that is meaning to say communicating with your Supreme Being-telling him what you are concerned about and asking for guidance...it may be 2006 but there are certain things that we can't explain or prove, you need to rely on something outside your realm of experience and control...we are only human, so we need to rely on something greater, bigger, more potent and ask that whatever insecurity we may have that prods us to behave negatively, badly towards ourselves or others may be rid of...i hope that you feel better about yourself...you are the Creator's perfect child...read max erhmann's desiderata...it's a very inspirational piece of writing and i'm sure you'll appreciate it....

Answer 2

Dun always feel that you are awful. It is coz of this feeling that makes you feel pessimists. Nobody is an awful person in this world and nobody is perfect too.

If you have more good qualities than bad qualities, make full use of the good qualities and at the same time try to improve or eliminate the bad qualities. You will be a better person tt's all

Answer 3

We are conditioned from birth and rated based on what we are not versus praised for what we are. Look at the questions from new mothers asking if their child is "normal" or "smart." People start judging their children before they are even old enough to talk. Schools rank us according to how well other people are doing which creates competitiveness and jealousy. Our parents compare us to our siblings or other people's children. The media portrays the "perfect" body image which usually does not even exist in real life, so we're told we don't measure up to an ideal that's not real. Our employers compare us to other employees and we can get fired at any moment for no reason at all. Our whole lives are centered around someone telling us how inadequate we are. Unless we have someone (or ourselves) to constantly counter these negative arguments, we are going to absorb the message and start accepting them. It's everywhere and it's hard to resist giving up. This is why people become addicted to drown the pain of not "measuring up." It's great that you are erasing those negative tapes for yourself. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Part of celebrating optimism is finding beauty in everything, not just yourself (though the beauty in yourself is the most important, you need littler things to back it up and make it seem like you aren't the ONLY beautiful thing). Go for a walk in the park, walk slower, find something lovely everywhere and become a part of that loveliness. I honor your willingness to be happier so greatly. Celebrate everything! A good piece of literature for you right now is Walt Whitman's "Song of Myself." I urge you to read this, it is like nothing else.

Answer 5

I used to do that too and the reason that I found that treated myself like that is because I was told negative things about myself so much by my caregivers, that I believed it as truth. I did not love myself. Only when I got away from negative people and did some soul searching, I found all that what was said to me negative were not true and that all the negative things that were said toward me is what they were saying about them self. Also, after I discovered self love and acceptance, I treated myself much better because I treasured myself. I am glad that you have found self love and you sound like you are much happier.

Answer 6

I think sometimes it can be like a habit in thinking....I hope you keep up the hard work. It's too easy to stay in the gutter that we get ourselves into.

Answer 7

Philosophically speaking, it makes more sense to be an optimist. I try, but I don't always succeed.

Answer 8

See this site with the secret of life.

http://phifoundation.org/life.html

Answer 9

We think too much without stepping back to get perspective.

Answer 10

You are not awful. Please stop thinking about yourself. Did anyone say u r awful? None I suppose.