I never told because I think if she wants anyone to know she can tell the story herself. At 5 yrs old, we didn't know it was bad. It gives me chills to think about his deviance.
The pervert still lives there, and I am not sure whether he realizes I know what he did or not. I havent seen my friend for about 10 years.
Should I do anything now?
2006-07-08 14:05:15 · 15 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He (the perpetrator) was her uncle.
2006-07-09 06:22:46 · update #1
your friend will probably be in some great shame and a lot of pain for a long time, unless she's gone for counselling. this sort of trauma isn't easy to reveal or report. i've been on both sides, of the counselling i mean...for the offender and for victim...and this is tough. definitely i believe the right move now for you, if you're ready to make it is to report what you know. whether anything substantial can be made of it because it is historical information, you can only try. otherwise, no one will ever know and nothing can be done, and that is for sure.
2006-07-08 14:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some general thoughts first - most sexual assaults on kids are committed by a family member, friend or acquaintance who has access or authority over the child; most predators are male; most acts go unreported; most molesters can't resist their urges and don't stop at one victim, sometimes continuing over generations with multiple victims
what should you do? that's a decision only you can make, considering all the things you know about the situation that we're only seeing a small piece of....there's a very good argument for a societal obligation to protect others who may have been molested by the same person or might become victims in the future
likelihood of successful prosecution? no victim or physical evidence, over 10 years ago? damn near zero....these things also have an explosive effect on a community - you don't mention exactly what happened, which is fine, but be ready for the possible ramifications if you do - community fear, accusations, retaliations, attacks on your credibility
take everything into consideration, talk to someone you trust and remember that this person could be molesting a 5 year old somewhere tonight
2006-07-08 14:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by lateniterun609 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is little you can do now unless your friend would want to tell what happened to her. However, you should know that the behavior does not stop. He may be on the prowl for someone else's kids. Unless he molested you there is not really a whole lot you can do.
2006-07-08 14:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by zoerayne023 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Speak with a counselor, a police officer and a clergyman and weigh their advice. Molesters never stop they just move on and find different victims. No matter what anyone says you will be a hero for helping.
2006-07-08 14:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey happydawg...
This guy is probably in the Megan's list you should check. Anyway, your instincts are probably leading you in the right direction. Your friend needs to keep her secret. You however have to be vigilant and discrete to keep an eye on this person.
Good Luck!
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2006-07-08 14:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by whoopswhatever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should bypass by technique of and drop by technique of cookies or some thing and introduce your self to the completed kin. And even as your at it you could say that you loved listening to the music that your neighbor performed. you could also say you may gladly drop by technique of and help with some thing in the journey that they pick any help.
2016-11-30 21:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tough one, but i have to say YES! just think that he may still be molesting little girls! statute of limitations have probably run out, but at least if the police know, they can check it out
2006-07-08 14:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by ecodave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think you should tell your parents about it all so they can contact your friend's parents too. He may still be seeing them especially if it is their uncle. Tell your parents too of any fears you have. You have suffered long enough thinking about it too.
2006-07-14 09:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by VelvetRose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would.
1-this man could still be doing this.
2-your friend may need you.
there in lies the possibilities, can you live with not helping?
2006-07-08 14:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by really? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok. what he did is verry verry wrong and i think that you should tell someone about this so noone else gets hurt like you and your friend did. Hope you the best.
2006-07-08 14:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Tik~Tak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋