weeks then decided to leave again. she said she would pay 1/2 the rent. now rent is due and she is saying she aint paying her half. oh,how sweet! monday, the apartment owners start the evictions on people who didnt pay their rent. what should i do??? all of my kids stuff is here. my stuff plus some of my wives. the kids stay here most times. other times with their mom or grandma. im just totally lost and confused. before ya answer, i have no way of getting her half from anyone else. i have 1 option: takin my kids and moving back home out of state. but dont know if that would be kidnapping. we are still legally married and there is no way she will say yes to me taking them. before ya start talking lawyeres, iam really LOW on cash. im trying to do good. im not the one who is doing drugs. i just took on a second job. when im not working, my life revolves around my 3 kids. why is it that i feel the person getting punished is ME????
2006-07-08 13:48:35 · 13 answers · asked by tnkster71 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suppose you are addicted to her...sorry state, especially being a father with 3 children....you need to get a grip for the kids sake. Pack and go back to your parents, get your sh*t together and stop worrying about a nut case. There is NO court in the land that will grant her custody, and she doesn't want them anyway. Good luck
2006-07-08 14:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The eviction can be stopped
Social services will give you rent money and food
Your next big one is you do need a lawyer - Try legal aid services
They are free and good
If legally married then - yes you can leave the state without permission - unless she has a court ordered custody - otherwise she did leave you in charge by leaving them in your care
Once you are in a different state then you are under it's custody laws.
But you can't leave the Country
Do not ever even think out loud to anyone that a child might not be totally yours
Refuse any and all DNA tests
2006-07-09 01:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Dan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not against the law for u to take ur children out of state while u are married..When u get to the other state u go to the court house and file full custody of ur children..She does not deserve u or ur children..U need to be there for your children..U said u had no money ..call legal aid..no charge if u r a low income person...if i was u i will file and get custody before she does ..whomever ever file for custody first the judge normally give that person the children...So get the ball going quick..and get out of that situation quick..ur children don`t need to be around her
2006-07-08 20:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by tinytim10193 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to move and take the kids, there is nothing she can do. Period. SHE would have to get a lawyer to get visitation, etc... Good luck and do what's right for your kids. Why are you letting her be around them when she's doing drugs? I hope you get a handle on this before those kids get taken away. Good luck.
2006-07-08 21:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because good guys finish last. Seriously, a lot of lawyers offer a free first consultation. Find one, talk to him, and find out what is what. If she is that out of control, do you really think she would go to the cops to get the kids back? Doesn't sound like she is really taking much care of them now. Trust me, judges are a lot more sympathetic to who the good parent is than to who the mother is now than they used to be.
2006-07-08 20:54:43 · answer #5 · answered by grin900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to contact your wife doctor and tell him what going on in your life then have him contact a social service worker then she can all around to the Church in the area and get you the money you need to pay the rent.# 2 then go to the count house and file a restrain order against your wife for abundant your children then when you go to court ask the judge to give you full custody of the children then moved them out of state then file for divorce.
2006-07-08 21:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know your wife if bi-polar she must have a doc somewhere in this mess. See a social worker for some good advice. Look, Dude....you make your bed, you lay in it.....you are not a victim; but the kids are. Wise up! Act like a man.
2006-07-08 20:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right... you are being punished. I was married to a Bi-polar husband. I am divorced now. Divorce her and fight for custody. You need to realize that you cannot trust her anymore. Talk to a lawyer. It cost me 800 dollars total for my divorce. That is not so bad.
Stop trusting her. You can't rely on her.
2006-07-08 20:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by Meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make some decisions about how you want to continue to live I gave you suggestions and I don't know if you liked them but they were true. She is not in the right state of mind to be handling any real responsibilities so you need to make some real manly decisions!
2006-07-08 20:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i know its hard but maybe talk to her a little about how it will be hard for the kids when they get older if you guys split up now. and maybe try to give up the drugs that always helps.
2006-07-08 20:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋