How would a 13 (almost 14) year old get rid of unwanted (wrongful) thoughts about the same gender?

Answer 1

At 13, you can easily be confused about your sexualilty. If you having thoughts about the same sex it definately isnt wrongful, you are just reaching puberty and sexual thoughts about the same sex are normal. As you grow grow up, experiment and you will find out what actually turns you on, gay or straight.. being gay or bisexual definately isnt a crime.

Answer 2

The mind is a difficult thing: I have had trouble with mine! ha!

I don't know what you are referring to by wrongful thoughts. It is clear you believe they are wrong, immoral etc. Sometimes the more we try to stop something the harder it becomes. Mabye try not to think so much about stopping it as it will then be on your mind constantly.

Sometimes what I tended to do if my mind becomes a little more uncontrollable than I would like is to focus on something I really enjoy and make that more the focus of my life. Establish a realy goal, something I strive for. This could be ANYTHING! For goodness sake stay positive.

If you have what you may consider to be bad intentions towards another person then try to look for good things in that person and show kind gestures to make that person happy. Try to think about that persons happiness above your own. The world would be a better place if people did this all the time.

Lastly don't forget that all people have sinned and come short of the glory of God. God does not condemn us to eternal damnation because of our wrongdoing but has saved us through Jesus.This is not to say we should continue to sin intentionally but He does realise if we are repentant and are trying our best. We are all human remember and are subject to sin. Pour your heart out to Jesus and He will be there with you and help you. God answers prayers just not always how we might expect it to happen!

Answer 3

A 13(almost 14) year old would get rid off bad thoughts by thinking of your gilrfriend (if you have one) or thinking of a girl you like or think about all the time you see her or here her name.

Answer 4

this is perfectly normal at this age, your hormones are changing and raging.

at this age, you are going to have a lot of different thoughts.

if you think that these are more than just thoughts, talk to someone who will understand. you might be a homosexual and at this age you will need someone to help you with your feelings.
if that is the case don't be ashamed.

if you think that these are just unwanted, wrongful feelings then you are going to have to learn to move your mind in a different direction when these thoughts come around. you really can control what your mind does.

but please don't feel like something is wrong with you, almost every child goes through this.

Answer 5

I think its normal to sometimes have those kinda thoughts. Just try to keep your mind occupied on something else. Its also true that alot of kids your age experement with same gender kids and that dosnt mean that your gay or anything its just courios. Oh ya you dont need consuling. Your a young teen! I experemented at your age and am married with 2 kids now so dont feel bad

Answer 6

Don't get rid of them. Manage those thoughts and keep them pleasant. Some of the most wonderful relationships you'll ever have will be in your mind.

Answer 7

Well dear, stop fighting what's natural. Perhaps you are gay and later in life you will understand yourself more and be able to make more informed decisions. I suggest talking to a counselor, clergyman, or parent... yes a parent... if you truly don't like what's happening, or you can give yourself some time and figure it out. But don't hate yourself or others like you, it just makes your life harder.

Answer 8

don't worry about it sweetheart, you are perfectly normal, it doesn't mean you will be gay, and if it did, does it really matter. It's what you make of your life that matters, the way you treat other people, and the way people treat you. Don't sell yourself short, treat you with respect and other people will return that respect. Be happy sweetheart, if you think some one of the same sex is cool what does that matter. Take care beauty..

Answer 9

if you mean sexual thoughts, you shouldn't get rid of them, if your gay accept it, be proud of it and be proud of who you are don't try to be someone that your not, there's nothing 'wrongful' about being attracted to the same sex, suppressing them or ignoring them will just lead you to be depressed in later life, just because your not like everyone you know, there's plenty of people out there with feelings like yours, your not the first and you wont be the last. accept who you are and be proud, be happy

Answer 10

Ahhh...... Hard question, this!!! But why would she want to??? It gives 'food-for thought' to lesbians like me, Daz, for when she gets to Eighteen / Nineteen, and acts out those lovely thoughts!!.............mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
PS...Forget that T.W.A.T, 'OPINIONATED's' answer!!!!!! It's normal, and very healthy for a 13 year old to have sexual thoughts and feelings!! Be it with MALES /FEMALES or BOTH!!