Im in love with a family friends son families known for decades but we are friends for 5 and in love for 2(no physical long distance).I feel like man in relationship since i call,i email,i intiate everything.Is it normal if not what should i do so that he intiates since its coming to point he comes and goes.Please tell me what to do(dont just say move on).Explain Best answer 10points.
2006-07-08 13:08:09 · 13 answers · asked by aalphacodedmysteryoflife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
send him a email saying our last talk didnt go so well i was wondering if u would like to talk it would be nice to keep in touch
send this email and keep quiet if hes not ready to talk let him take his time and give him space if hes ready hell come to talk to u
as u said ur friend with him so u need to think like a friend,person whose in love with him!
2006-07-09 03:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Not really sure what you are asking, but here goes. Every relationship is a two way street. It sounds to me like he has a woman on a string, doing whatever he wants and letting you hang it out there. If he comes and goes, ask yourself where is he going to? You love this man, but you seem to be miles away and are you sure how he feels? You seem to be a distant convenience to him from what you have written. Ask yourself if there is any way you could possible get together. If not, what kind of love can you have from miles away? Love is being together and touching and holding hands and cuddling, not just talking on the phone or emailing. I don't really understand what he is up to, but it sounds like he is treating you like a friend instead of a lover.
2006-07-08 13:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by grin900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how he feels about you. Assuming he's got feelings for you also, what you need to do is discuss this with him. Some people simply aren't initiators, so it may be that he just needs to be prompted to communicate, not that he doesn't care...but I can understand why you may wonder if his feelings are as strong as yours, if he's never the one to appear to want to hear from you...you always have to start things...
Let him know you'd appreciate it if he called or emailed or wrote first now and then...that you don't want to feel like you're chasing him, or things are one-sided...if you're going to eventually have any kind of relationship, you have to be able to communicate...might as well start now...
good luck!
2006-07-08 13:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bearing the burden of communication in a relationship can't take a lot of the fun out of it and more often than not nowadays, it does fall on the woman to do these things. The best thing you can do is talk with him about how you feel. Not easy, but it really works.
2006-07-08 13:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear guy I love, I wanted to let you know I love you and I wish you the best for life and I will be there for you always as a friend since us two can't be together due to you being in a gang and with those commitment issues and all. Love, me
2016-03-26 22:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men dont know what we women are thinking, so instead of beating around the bush, be direct with him and tell him how you feel. You be the first to make that move, cause if you wait, you dont know what will happen.
2006-07-08 13:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes guys are lazy about contacting any one.if you want to motivate him to start being the man and making the calls ect.you got to exite him or shake him up.email him some sexy pics..talk dirty,tease.get him foaming at the mouth then back off.if he thinks he might lose you i promise he will change his ways..good luck.
2006-07-08 13:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be the one calling, emailing, ect. If was any kind of man he would be doing the calling and stuff. May be he dose not like you like you like him.
2006-07-08 13:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by madoutlaw_12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got very good advice from baby luv. Talk to him about it. That is the only way to solve your issues. If he is not willing to meet you half way, then maybe it is time to move on.
2006-07-08 13:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens to everyone.. and just cause u call him doesn't make u the man of the relationship.. ask hima very interesting question..tell him to call u once he has the ans.. if he calls u then maybe he doesn't realsize he's not calling u..
2006-07-08 15:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋