What would you do if.........?

Question

For the last few years there has been an intimidating manipulating little biatch slandering your name?
I have a 5 year old daughter & my partner (of 3.5 years) is not her biological Daddy
His sister in law has been lying about me for years spreading all sorts of nasty rumours about me to my mans family (who unfortunatly don't stand up for me) at one stage, she was ringing my home phone between the hours of midnight-6AM & just hanging up.I had a trace on my phone, but eventually changed my numbers.I have just found a sign at a local pub with degrading things about me on it.I have tried my best to remain civil,but I just don't know what to do anymore.She almost ruined my relationship before & is now destroying mine & my partners realtionships with his family. What would you do to make this awful trouble maker stop?Should I keep ignoring it? Cause its darn hard to do that now!I have tried talking to her & I have tried writing to her.Nothing is working & I have had enough.Please help

Answer 1

ok im a gangters an i think should tell some gangaters to just beat her @$$ or u can tell them to steal their car or put some weed on their propety and just call the police an said that she is doing drougs and thas all and u dont get ur hand dirty

Answer 2

This is pretty bad---and slander is a crime. You can file charges for that, but make sure that you can prove your case.
To begin with, call the telephone company and ask if they can supply the old telephone records that support your claim of her harrassment(which is also a chargable crime(misdemeanor)). Then follow up with the display in the pub to see that you gather your evidence there---everything you can get black and white to support your claim that she slanders your name and harrassed you is invaluable.

What really is important though, is how does your man deal with this? It seems to me that it is very important to know which side he is standing on. You did not say much about that in your question.

If you have not talked about this yet, then you need to talk and work out a clear strategy. He is the only father your daughter knows, and hopefully it will stay that way. So you will need a strategy that benefits the three of you. Is there any way you can communicate with him without accusations of what his family does to you? Because see, he has no control over what his family does, only over what he does, he still is there, so that indicates that he cares about you and your daughter---so you need a strategy that will not allow this woman to destroy your relationship. Could the 3 of you move into a different area? Would he support you if you pressed charges, or does he object? It is crucial that you two have one plan in effect for the 3 of you.

If this woman does not stop harassing you or slandering your name, then I would really adise you to go to the courts, not only to protect yourself, but also to protect your daughter. Something is seriously wrong with anyone who persistently slanders another's name.

Answer 3

Okay, 'his sister-in-law' means this chick is either his brother's wife, or HIS wife's sister (I'm hoping that it is the former, as the latter would mean that he is still married). Girl, you got trouble! She obviously has nothing going for herself, blames you for the misery that you have brought into her world and will hold onto this like a pit bull with the mailman's leg.You could continue to give her the satisfaction of being affected by her antics. but that would mean that she wins, right? You could take out the weave, pull off the nails, take out the earrings, butter up your knuckles and give her a good, old fashioned beatdown. You could also try your best to ignore her, continue to live your life, being the best mother and partner you can be (let her do her, and you do you) and she will eventually lose interest. Call me crazy (yeah, I know that violence isn't the answer, and you'll probably have to deal with the police, etc.) - but I'm voting for the asswhuppin'. Sometimes ya gotta do what ya gotta do!

Answer 4

File a harassment suit against her... If you have proof that she is the one that wrote the sign... then sue her for slander..... If your partner family is so easy to believe outside gossip then perhaps you are better off in a different relationship... but if you really love you boyfriend and he loves you then he should be man enough to step up and tell her to leave you alone... I would do the same childish thing that she is doing and give it to her in double doses..... put up posters around town about her with her picture on it especially in places she likes to hang out at...... If that doesn't work start causing problems in her personal life but they way you say she is its apparent she doesn't have one!!

Answer 5

I agree, get a restaining order on her if it's possible. If not, take that sign and mail it or show it to her family, down to her grandparents to embarass her.

Whta has your partner done in this?

Sheesh, does she have anything better to do?

Here's what else you can do, type up a letter stating all she has done with times/dates,etc, send it to her and say with this and further harasssment you will contact a lawyer if it doesn't stop. All flyers and calls should be stopped in 7 days.

I dont knwo if they can do anything about her talking baout you but advertising you, maybe.

Answer 6

As many others stated document everything. Trace the calls and keep the documentation, record the conversations or keep recorded messages and go for the restraining order. It seems really bad. You can gather the evidence and I support the response that states that you should take her to civil court. Hit her where it hurts, in the wallet.

Answer 7

Ur current partners sister in law or ur daughters fathers? either way, talk to the man in question. Tell him he needs to confront her. If he wont then you need to. Act like an adult when you do even if she doesnt. That little girl does not need to be involved in any way. Directly or indirectly. If this isnt taken care of now, she will be effected eventually.

Answer 8

Start doing the same thing to her in a worse way, or if there is something that you can do to stop it through the law, do it know.She has no right whatsoever to treat you that way, you have a daughter for God's sake, and if a peace offering doesn't work you have to do it the hard way.

Answer 9

Confront her in front of everyone, but not before you dig up every tiny little bit of dirt on her a$$, She's going to open her mouth so you need to have a back up. Then get ready for the fight cause if she has any balls shes going to find a way to get you back. Don't back down! Make sure to attend every public event and make yourself known. you are going to have to stand up for yourself!

If you have to throw down remember:
If they don't kill you in the first hit, then make it over for them.
It only hurts for a little while. OK so 3 months is along time but that was from a 6'3" guy.

Answer 10

Take a picture of the sign. Keep a record of the calls. Call the police for a restaining order.