Am I wrong to still like her?

Question

Ive been friends with this girl for 5 years, best friends! But--she mistreats me and makes fun of me all the time infront of people. With only me she is cool, but when others are around shes so different. I just won tickets for a show she wanted to see. Should i invite her or not. I mentioned to her i had tickets.

Answer 1

I think you should tell her that you at first had second thoughts on inviting her because how she treats you in front of people. Maybe she is not aware that she offends you because you never told her how you really feel. In this way everything will be out in the open and you can enjoy the event with someone you obviously care for. If she has a negative attitude about it, you really need to surround yourself with people who care about your feelings.

Answer 2

Any person that mistreats you on a regular basis is NOT a friend. If you are always giving and not receiving you are being used. Stop trying to hard and know that there are better people in the world. I cut a person back that I had been friends with for 32 years, she was mean and rude to people all the time and that is not my style. People outgrow one another and maybe you two have outgrown each other. Would you stay with a guy that was treating you badly? If the answer is no, why let a woman treat you like crap and there are not benefits!

Answer 3

Truthfully, I couldn't stay friends with someone who mistreated me and acted like someone else when other people are around. I've been where you are hun... my supposed best friend "jokingly" make comments about me when our other friends were around, and when the guy she liked came around, she'd act real stupid and practically ignore me. He'd come up and hug her, and she'd sit there in his arms, or let him put his hand on the inside of her thigh or something (when she was wearing a skirt). She would have NEVER done that before. Perhaps it's not really too big of a deal, and I know it's her own choice to do what she wants, but it's just so opposite of who I know she really is... and she also told me that she's sick of being a virgin. That too I know is her own choice, but she should be smart about who she does it with, and I don't think she will be. She moved about two hours away from me now (not by choice), and even though it hurt, I think it was for the best... I unfortunately don't think she and I would have stayed friends, and it would have hurt to have to tell her that I don't want to be friends with someone who is going to act the way she is.

I only told you that because I don't want you to feel the same pains I've felt, although by what you said it sounds like you have. Believe me girl, you deserve way better than that. A true friend would not treat you that way... I've learned that a few times. So, even though it will be really hard, you need to tell her how you feel, and if nothing changes, break off the friendship. You'll only get hurt more in the end.

E-mail me anytime if you want... just go on my profile page. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

i am not sure i would invite her. but i do know for sure that u need to tell her that u don't like the way she mistreats you or makes fun of u when u are around other people. maybe after u tell her that see how she responds and then u can decide from there if u want to take her.

Answer 5

I wouldnt give her the time of day. She is not much of a friend if she treats you like that. I use to be on the receiving end of ridicule and all when I was a kid.. and the pain was very bad so I do sympathize with you on that. However I wouldnt give her the benefit of her making me the object of laughter and I sure would tell her how it all made me feel. People like that are NOT our friends. They lack being mature or lack the ability to have human compassion. Dont bribe her with those tickets. She will use you to see the show. Find yourself a true friend.. one that likes you in good times and in bad.. the one that is not so wishy washy. one that would not do that to you. Good Luck!

Answer 6

You feel how you feel, but ask yourself why you like someone so much when they treat you unkindly in front of others? Do you really like her, or are you dependent upon her friendship in some way? Why not try bringing to her attention the way she treats you alone versus around others, and letting her know you don't appreciate the latter...

The tickets are yours to do with as you desire...might be a good time to discuss the above issue with her...

Answer 7

Well, if she acts differently when you guys are around other people, then maybe you should talk to her, and if she doesn't change, then maybe you guys should call it quits, because she isn't a good friend if she mistreats her friends to show off in front of other people, is she?

Answer 8

No, you are not wrong for liking her. You are human. However, she is wrong for embarassing you in front of others or at all. I would tell her how you feel as soon as possible and that if she continues to act that way, then she will be one less friend. People like your friend are bullies undercover and make fun of others to make themselves look better. She's making fun of you becase she knows you will take the abuse and continue to be a friend to her. It's immature behavior that you shouldn't tolerate. Friends are supposed to lift you up not put you down! One of my favorite quotes..."with friends like these...who needs enemies."

Oh yeah, and I would only take her to the show if she gets her act together!!

Answer 9

If she treats you that badly in front of people she is not much of a friend. It sounds to me like she is 2 faced. If she was a real friend she would treat you the same weather you are alone or around other people. I would not take her to the show. Find someone else who is nice to you no matter what and take them.

Answer 10

A true friend won't mistreat you in front of other people. I'd ask her why she treats you like crap when other people are around. Seems to me like you guys aren't that best of friends.