I have a MAJOR problem. I seem to always let a guy get what he wants from me even though I don't really want it. I end up saying, " Le'ts stop, I think we're going to far," but they always end up coaxing me into it. I know how guys can manipulate girls into doing things, and i know their tricks, but I always end up giving in. Being fine with it at first, then crying afterwards because I feel like I am doing everything wrong and that I am acting to slutty. I know that I can just say, "NO!" but I feel both like I am not living up to their expectations and making them feel uncomfortable. What can I do?
2006-07-08 12:36:18 · 4 answers · asked by ck55 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your self respect is a lot more important than their expectations. I am a guy, but when a girl says no it means no. Don't put yourself in the situation where he has a chance to keep working on you. When it gets to the line you don't want to cross, say " No, we need to stop." If he tries to keep going, get up and walk across the room. Sit in the other chair. Self control is an issue for both guys and girls. I don't think that most of us do it intentionally, but the little head starts thinking for the big head.
BTW, any guy that gets upset with "no" and calls you a tease or gets mad at you, is not worth your time. Don't get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with sex. But it really should be special. And you shouldn't be down on yourself for enjoying it at the time. We were made to enjoy it.
2006-07-08 12:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by grin900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u shouldnt have to do anything u dont want to. If u find urself in that situation again chance the situation by saying lets watch a movie or lets go out. U dont have to be with a guy for him to like u. Just gently change the situation slowly that away no one feels uncomfortable. Tell him u want to talk that always kills the moment.lol
2006-07-08 12:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Tina d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it the same guy? Stop seeing him. If it is ANY guy, re-think going out. If you cant protect and respect yourself, stay home a while. The risk you put yourself at arent worth dinner or a night out. Look somewhere else for guys to date - find someone who isnt going to push you. Maybe church or church groups?
2006-07-08 12:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by Strange question... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation with past relationships.just put youe foot down if they can't respect what you wont than you don't need them trust me it feels so good when you do say NO to that boy.
2006-07-08 12:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by yoyoluv27910 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋