I have 2 children one is 8 and one is 3, i have been married for 6 years and my wife is acting like she is a very mean person and rude, I really need your help, please.
2006-07-08 12:21:06 · 16 answers · asked by ROGER F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Crap happens!!! How can two walk together except they be one?? So....(according to you) your wife is a "very mean person and rude"---9/10 probability that she thinks she's a reasonable humane person who knows what she wants. I've known married people who've merely "tolerated" each other for years. Don't torture yourself by wasting your life away. If you love her....stay and make sure that love is requited. But based on your question, it appears that you don't---- IT'S YOUR CALL
2006-07-08 13:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by What gives? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ITS NOT OK!!!
Listen, it does not matter if your christian, black, enjoy fishing, or work out on a daily basis. Divorce is wrong, It harms absolutely everyone.
So gee darn, your having a rough time. Your wife does not appreciate your company, you work to hard, life sucks... Now imagine this, your wife, the mean and rude person gets custody of the children, and do not BS yourself, the mother will always win. Now your child of 8 is going to school, the child of 3 stays home alone why your wife goes to her minimum wage job trying to make ends meet. Seeing she won the house in the divorce settlement she can pay off the rest of the mortgage, after all thats fair isn't it?
Your 8 year old child returns home from school and tends to your three year old seeing your wife must work until 10pm or later depending on the day. The 8 year old bathes the 3 year old, feeds him. deals with the various destruction that 3 year old has caused by being home alone. the 8 year old being exausted at this point throws his or her homework on a table and falls asleep long before opening the little workbook.
Your wife comes home and sees that the kitchen table is not clean, the laundry is not done and overall the house is in a state of decay. Her first course of action, blame the 8 year old for being lazy and punish the 8 year old appropriately.....
I think by now you should understand how i feel about this. When i was young being the oldest i became mom and dad for my younger brother and sister. I do not give a crap about you, you are a coward for considering such a stupid option. Your children however deserve a live a thousand times better then yours which is why im being so harsh with you.
To do something about it, go to a marriage counselor. Kidnap your wife and take her there if you must. If its impossible go by yourself to a counselor, at least this way you can be counsoled on the best course of action. Even consider family counseling. Your children are young but they are still willing to help you.
Divorce is not OK,
Silence
2006-07-08 19:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by silencedwatcher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"But now I tell you: if a man divorces his wife, for any cause other than her unfaithfulness, then he is guilty of making her commit adultery if she marries again; and the man who marries her commit adultery also." Matthew 5:32
For the sake of the two children ( I take it that you love them ) you must "Strive for righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance, and gentleness." 2 Timothy 6:11
there is an upcoming course conducted by ALPHA SINGAPORE ( if you are staying in Singapore )and you can get more details in their web site at www.alpha.org.sg Perhaps you would like to contact the person who is the co-ordinator? Her email is vinnie@alpha.org.sg which you can find too in the Alpha Singapore website.
If you are not staying in Singapore you could visit the respective Alpha Country representatives through the Alpha Singapore website too.
2006-07-08 19:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by waterdancer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, been reading the Sermon on the Mount, huh? I fought with this one for a long time, researching, asking pastors, everything I could think of.
Long answer: If you read the Sermon on the Mount literally then no, it is not ok. However, the catch is, no living human can live up to the standards that Jesus set in the Sermon on the Mount. We all lust, we all hate, we all fall short of the standard. That is the point. We are frail fallable humans. Those standards are our goals to strive for, not standards we have to achieve to enter Heaven. They ARE the way things will be in Heaven, when we are freed from earthly sin.
Short answer: If you haven't sought out counseling and done everything possible to work it out, then no it is not ok.
2006-07-08 19:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by grin900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God created divorce because of the wickedness(?) of man. But you're only supposed to get a divorce if your spouse has committed adultry. Go to your preacher/pastor as a couple and get some counseling. Maybe something is going on with her that is making her act like this. Sit down and talk to her about why she is acting this way. Maybe you forgot your anniversary, or her birthday. Maybe she feels like she isn't getting very much of your attention. Talk to her before you decide to divorce her. I pray that everything works out for you both.
2006-07-08 19:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by sean's_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember.....our actions,even as Christians, can have far-reaching consequences-either good or bad.
The Lord told us "Therefore what GOD has joined together, let man NOT separate." Don't despair! Get with God and pour out to Him what is happening. He will repair what is broken-just let Him do the work.
Also, reach out to other believers around you for serious prayer help-it definitely is needed when a family is under attack by the enemy.
2006-07-08 19:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by soelmama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should try counseling. Also is she abusive? Hurting you or your children. I think it is up to the individual and how they feel about divorce. I am a Christian and divorced my first husband because he was very abusive to me and my daughter. First I talked to my priest. And tried to get him to go to counseing, he refused to admit that he had a problem.
Good Luck
2006-07-08 19:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because your wife is acting like a mean person is no reason to divorce, that doesnt sound like a chirstain man talking, sounds like a man that doesnt even want to give it a chance and like he is messing around in the marriage. a christain man would want to give up so easily. i say you take her and your self to counceling and figure this out like christain people would.
2006-07-08 19:37:28 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
avoid a divorce and try to solve it through a third person. Let yoyur close family friend solve the issue
2006-07-08 20:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by J Thomas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has adultry occured on her part or yours? What about abuse? They are the reasons for a divorce not because one is having a bad day.
2006-07-08 19:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋