we have been dating for one year now and i must say one AWSOME year but sould i realy have sex with him??
2006-07-08 11:52:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
but it is not like we r going to have sex and tell people so how would he be charged with rape and its not rly rape
2006-07-08 12:01:38 · update #1
I dont think its rape..The age gap is only 2 years..
To be honest with you I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18 and we had sex..And I dont see anything wrong with that at all. Do what you want..But make sure you dont have the type of parents that will find out and then try to charge him with rape.
2006-07-08 12:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, No, NO!! You can love him all you want, but sex? Honey, you're talking about pregnancy. You're talking about bringing a child into the world at age 16. THERE IS NO SAFE SEX METHOD---PERIOD!!! You are not mature enough to handle the possiblity of a pregnancy. He is not old enough to support a child that you might create. To risk pregnancy is plain stupid. Sex is NOT worth that. You'll get more than enough sex in your lifetime AFTER you're married. Besides that what will you have to offer to your future husband? Nothing that no one else can give him EXCEPT your virginity.
Don't do it or else we'll be seeing you again asking what should I do now that I'm pregnant. It CAN happen to you. You are NOT invincible and neither is he.
If you respect each other and love each other you can wait.
2006-07-08 19:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is sagutory rape in the eyes of the gov't if ur mother doesnt like this, she can go to the police and have him arrested, its not rape in the action of having sex, but that hes is dating a minor, if u rlly love him, and if he rlly loves u wait till ur 18 then u can make ur own decisions from there, remember ur young and theres a lot of guys out there ur going 2 meet, dont waste it on this one guy now even tho it seems like perfect, cuz **** happens, and believe me u'll be happy and thank urself that u waited for the right person, or that u and him made it through and it was the best decision for u to make.
2006-07-08 21:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by MisSieS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really saddens me to see people telling this girl its ok for her to go and have premartial sex with her boyfriend.......in this day and age sex is not a game......its more like playing russian roulette.
I dont think you should have sex with your boyfriend......I know you love him alot and think that if you do have sex it will prove it to him, but think about a few things before rushing into this decision.....first off all ...lets say you do have sex and awhile down the road you break up with him. How are you gonna feel emotionally when or if that happens......you will probably feel like you were used and thrown away. Secondly do you know the risk of getting aids or social diseases? If you go and do this you could possibly end your life and I dont think you want that.......aids is very real and deadly and there are various social diseases that could ruin your changes of getting pregnant one day down the road when you marry.
Then there is the issue of getting pregnant now before you are ready. There is no safe sex no matter what anyone tells you.....the only way to protect yourself from becoming pregnant, getting aids, and social diseases is to abstain from sex till you marry.
Dont settle for any less than what you are worth and let me tell you......YOU are worth alot.......God loves you and says " You are worth more than all the jewels in the world to Him" You are priceless and deserve to be respected and loved........I urge you to tell you boyfriend no that you dont want to have sex and if he doesnt understand then he never really did love you and isnt worth having in your life.
Good luck with this decision and ill be saying a prayer for you.
2006-07-09 00:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by wendyceline2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally up to you. 16 and 18 is not much of an age diff or a problem legally for the most part. Unless a baby is involved authorities need your cooperation to do anything, all you have to say is nothing happened thus no case.
2006-07-09 00:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you feel comfotable and ready for this physically and emotionally, and he reciprcates those feelings, go for it!
USE PROTECTION! You don't want an STD or a pregnancy.
And is is NOT rape - you are legal at the age of 16 in most states!
Just be sure both of you are ready fo it and take the precautions to make sure he won't leave you afterwards (I've seen it happen).
Once everything is squared away...enjoy yourself!
2006-07-08 19:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its agenst the law to sleep with him its concidered statitory rape even if u want it cause u are a minor and he is an aduilt. but thats all up to u thought. u should wait
it dont matter if u tell anyone or not if someone finds out he will go to jail and YES it is rape weather u want it or not cause u are a minor and he is an aduilt get it threw ur head what u and him are wanting to do is aginst the law no matter how u look at it and weather u want it or not is still aginst the law
2006-07-08 19:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey email me jtawsgirl@yahoo.com
ok lol or dont anyways my bf is 19 and i'm 16 and we've been dating for almost 17 months... anywho it IS illegal to be have sex with him and i know you're thinking well why does it matter if we are since we won't tell anyone... i know thats the same thoughts i've had but its illegal and if someone were to some weird way find out or even worse, you got pregnant (keep in mind even with a condom or birth control you can still get pregnant) its just not worth having him be in jail for 10+ years... my BF and i have talked so much about this and we've decided to wait (and ignore all the thoughts in the back of our heads lol) til my 18th bday... but yeah i'd rather not ruin the plans we have for our future together by just having sex that one time and someone somehow finding out or me getting pregnant... we want to have kids but not for another 10+ years.... we want to get married after i get out of high school and get good jobs and then about 8 years later we'll start trying to have kids... i dont want to lose him before i have the chance to start my life with him.. 2 years is already long enough... 10 years would be hell...
if you really plan on spending the rest of your life with him i suggest saving yourself til your 18th bday and then you guys can have fun :-p
~Kelsie
but seriously email me i have something to ask you that i dont want to say on here
2006-07-09 00:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by jtawsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is illegal. It is rape. Wait two years and have him put a wedding ring on your finger. Unless you want him in Jail for the next 5-10 years.
2006-07-08 18:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea at the moment,, i know theres not much age diffrence and i know girls are more mature, but legally,,, it could be statutary rape... If you really love the guy. and dont want to get him in trouble.... dont do it ... :) things have way of getting out. so just think about it before u do it :)
2006-07-08 18:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by KRaZy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋