im almost 16 Ive been going out with this guy for about 2 weeks and we've done everything but sex, im affraid that after we sleep together hes gonna break up with me but i really care about him. My friends dont understand they dont really like to talk about mine and his relationship. so i need some advice.
2006-07-08 11:42:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Give it time honey. Two weeks is really not long at all. Your only 16, you really should try to enjoy yourself, and it sounds like maybe you should slow down a little bit in this relationship. There is plenty of time to fool around etc. And the girl who said sleeping with each other will not bring you any closer is right to an extent. I could see if you guys were together for a year and you decided that you were ready WITHOUT QUESTION, it would probably deepen the relationship. However, this is a REALLY NEW relationship, and two weeks you should only still be trying to get to know one another. If you had this sex right now, for sure it would backfire for the worst. Take your time and get to know what this guy is really like. Believe me, you do not know reallllllyyyy know someone well at 2 weeks let alone sometimes 2 months. Your definitely not ready and it sounds like you are being pressured. Before you sleep with someone (some one you care about that is) you have to MAKE sure its the right thing, and that you are just not going to be there for a booty call. You have to also be comfortable that he WILL NOT BREAK UP with you after you guys sleep together, and you are not at that point yet by FAR. Guaranteed if you do that now in this stage you will either end up a booty call every night or he won't talk to you at all. Guys do not really like girls who make it too easy for them.
Girls and guys do not have the same feelings about love and sex at all. You are all heart, you feel lovey dovey and you think that he loves you. Not to be a jerk but chances are he is not in love with you nor you are with him. You guys are at the newness infatuation stage. Its not love by any means. I know that sounds fresh but it takes a little longer than two weeks to KNOW if you love someone. Guys take a little while before they feel emotional. I
It would be better if you did not sleep with him at this point. Why don't you take your time, go on dates and just enjoy each other's company. Maybe you should try to cool it on the fooling around part so much. That will eventually lead to sex, and especially if you already started all that stuff in two weeks. I think thats a little soon, but thats me. I kinda like to get to know someone more before I start that kind of fooling around right away. I have done that, but its always been better when I have gotten to know the guy more.
Good luck, and try and use your head and good judgement about this one.
2006-07-08 12:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by katisadiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a succesful relationship without sex, and if he really loves you he'll understand and wait. Never do things you are pressured todo if you might regret it later.
2006-07-08 18:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS SICK SELFISH AND RONG! U CAN GO TO JAIL FOR THAT and get pregnet and have to give the kid away ruin a kids life and if ur bf{boyfriend} whants to have sex he is also sick selfish and rong!
2006-07-08 20:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lauren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him wait. If he respects you he will wait too. You should never feel like you have to have sex.
2006-07-08 18:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should both wait ... you've been dating him for only 2 weeks! i see you care about him.. if he cares about you too, he'll understand and wait ... but if he can't wait, then he doesn't care about you and you may have to leave him... think about it
2006-07-08 19:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lola.Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doing it will not bring you two any closer ( one of the rules)
2006-07-08 18:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by ha. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋